How many of you think sex before marriage is a usual thing?

If you want it, do it. I don't jump into bed with every guy I've ever met, but if I wanted it I went for it. Especially due to the fact that you don't want to get into e relationship or marriage and find you're not compatible in bed.

i would feel gilty about the whole thing. but I truly think it should be ok if you are engaged atleast. but that doesn't mean propose to her just so you can have sex already.

it's the 21st century, dude! Just because you're not gonna marry somebody doesn't mean you don't care for them. And when you care for somebody, sex is a good way to show it. And it's fun! As long as both of you want it and protect yourselves, go for it.

I don't know if you're religious. I'm not. My concept of "sin" is anything that hurts or damages other people. Sex has nothing to do with that, so.

First off I don't agree that it's bad. Now that I have that out of the way I'll explain.

I think that sex and sexual compatibility should not be something that is left to the very last thing to discover about someone you have agreed to SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH. After you say those vows, your in for the long haul, for good, for bad, for whatever comes your way really. So I think it is neglect on your part, if you don't try and find out every last detail about your partner to be, before you tie that knot. And if this is the person your are going to be with wouldn't you like to have enjoyable sex life with them. I know for sure I'm a better lover now, then I was 20 years ago when I started having sex. I think my partner would prefer that to the inexperience of a virgin.

I do not support having sex with anyone & everyone just for the sake of having sex. ( you make it sound like the people who do have sex before marriage are a bunch of heathen nymph's lol) However I would never marry a man who was not interested in exploring that side of me, that's just too much of a risk, one I would not be willing to take. Sexual compatibility is not a given, it's not like Oh I like her personality, I like her looks, so for sure I'm going to like her in bed too, it does not work that way.

I believe sex is the initiation of marriage. That is the natural way. Once you had sex you are physically bonded with that person, that is why your heart burns and hurts when you break away from that person and have it with someone else. That is actually divorce, it means seperation or breaking of oath. The court case stuff and white dress etc. is all just culture and fluff. So stay with the one you had sex with first or get married and stay away from sex till then.

I think it is absolutely okay to have sex prior to marriage. How else can you really know who you are as a sexual being? If you have never had sex and then get into a relationship ostensibly for life then what happens when one of you is more sexual than the other or one of you likes a certain style of sex that the other doesn't?

Religion has portrayed pre-marital intercourse as a bad thing. Religions also ask you to believe without question. This was probably a good thing when the general populous wasn't educated, but now that we are and can think intelligently I don't think believing is called for. As a result I do think that many people are having sex prior to marriage. In fact I would say it is the norm these days. I would venture to say there are only a few fundamentalist types that don't.

I'm fine with it - there are still some families that are very traditional where you'll meet a girl or boy who wants to wait, but I'd think in this day and age people are more open to giving it a shot.

Personally, I think it's kinda slimy to have sex with someone you don't know very well, but I try not to judge others. At the very least, I personally wait a few dates.

I think that in today's society sex before marriage is ok as long as you are old enough to be careful and can handle it emotionally. That's why I let the girl make the decision. If she is sure that she is ready.

"Though it is bad?" Are you telling all of us it's bad? Because you have no right to say such a thing, all it is is an opinion.

Some people think waiting is the right thing to do

Other people think it doesn't matter

I believe if you truly love the person then it's okay, even if you're not married.

So don't go spouting whatever religious/personal belief nonsense you believe in as though it's fact, when, for 99% of the people in the world, it ain't.