What are the signs of being pregnant? My boyfriend and I have started having sex and I am not sure that he has wore a condom all the time. I am worried that I might be pregnant. How do I tell him and how do I tell my dad.
I think that "grace86" gave you excellent advice! If you follow her suggestions I think you'll have done your best considering the situation you now find yourself in. You may quite likely find yourself not pregnant. But by if by chance you do, tell you boyfriend first to get his feelings about this because you might or might not find him as agreeable as you on certain issues concerning your pregnancy. There's probably no "right" words. Just tell him with affection. Once you put together a plan you both feel comfortable with, by all means tell your dad because he'll find out anyway. Tell him how sorry you are for not having listened to him and to forgive you. It'll come as a shock to him I'm sure, but the reality of the situation is that if you're pregnant, you have to face reality and move on with your life and raising your child. By all means, I hope you don't ever even consider an abortion no matter who might suggest that to you. If you are in fact pregnant, know that it was only with God's knowledge and consent that it happened and that the child will be for your greater benefit and long lasting happiness because God can only give that which is love. What seems to happen to us by accident is never anything that caught God by accident. You seem old enough to have known better than to take a chance at getting pregnant and not being concerned if your boyfriend was wearing a condom or not.
I would never have an abortion. if I got pregnant it was for a reason, right? I know I am old enough to be concerned. and I have told him to wear a condom or no sex. but it got past me without knowing. and the only reason I didn't listen to my dad is because I didn't think it could happen to me. I have talked to my dad 2day and he was very dissapointed. he didn't talk to me for a while just sat there with his hands over his eyes crying. - 4 months ago
Answerer
Yes right!! Exactly!! That doesn't mean you should have or that you shouldn't have been more careful, but if it turns out this way, then that mean that God makes will make more good out of the bad than what the bad was. I'm proud of you for talking to your dad. Always keep the lines or communications open between you and your parents.. and of course, between you and God. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
My dad actually talked to me 2day. he said he was very disappointed in me. and I just sat there and took the the it all in.i told him that I new I should have told him about me and my boyfriend sooner. I mean I new that I should have thought of the possibility of me getting pregnant, but I do understand why and how it happened. nothing catches god by surprise. - 4 months ago
I agree with a lot of these girls. but the number one thing is MAKE SURE YOU ARE 100% absolutely positively pregnant before you do anything. If you're Dad is a good Dad he will love you no matter what kind of mistake youve made. Even if this is alll just a false alarm, now you can ask your self before you have sex if you're ready for everything that comes with it if an accident happens yah know? I saw that you asked if 18 was too young. That's not the question at all. The question is Are you ready to bring a child into this world. My friend is 16 and she is the best mom I know. Good luck. Ill keep you in my thoughts
We'll don't tell anyone until you've taken the pregnancy test. And if you are you just have to own up to the bad decision you have made. You can't go back in time, only forward so just make the best out of anything RIGHT NOW. Ya I bet you've heard this all before but it true.You can never go backward in life, only forward. If you are pregnant make the best of what you can. If you're not you need to be thankful and always make sure you have protection. The only sign is the miss the period thing so here comes the worst part girl.waiting
Yes waiting is the worst especially since I just turned 18. - 4 months ago
N/A
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 4 months ago
you might just be paranoid. some women can tell when they're pregnant just because they're body feels different, other signs are missed periods, fatigue, sore breasts, sensitivity to smells, you should probably just take a pregnancy test
The signs of pregnancy are missed periods (though some people continue having periods throughout pregnancy, this is rare). Swollen breasts, nausea, sickness.
There's no point just going on the signs though, go to the chemist and buy a pregnancy test OR go to the doctors have have one taken there.
There's no point worrying about how to break the news to your boyfriend or Dad untl you know either way. Also, why hasn't he been wearing a condom all the time? He should respect you enough to always wear a condom if that has been your agreed method of contraception. I would seriously talk to him about why he feels it's ok to not use a condom and also you should be responsible enough to take control of contraception too.
Go to the doctors and you will know once and for all.
I tried to ask him before if he wears a condom. but I guess the worries of me being pregnant made me forget. if I went to the doctors would they call my dad and ask him about it. I know my doctor and she doesn't forget to tel him anything. and we did agree on him always wearing a condom. but if I am pregnant how would I tell them. - 4 months ago
Answerer
Your doctor is not legally allowed to tell your Dad anything. And if you don't trust her then make an arrangement to see another doctor.
If you are pregnant then the best way is to just sit your Dad down and tell him the truth - as soon as you know. A wise move may even be to tell him that you think you could be pregnant. I don't know how he will react, chances are he will be upset but he loves you and surely will support you.
As for your boyfriend, tell him once you know. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
My dad doesn't even know that I lost my virginity. he has asked my sister and I if we need to have the talk and if we are sexually active and I lied and said I haven't. and he isn't the kind of dad that accepts lying. and now I feel guilty about it. do you think my boyfriend should be there with me when I tell my dad. or is that a bad idea. - 4 months ago
Answerer
Tell him alone I think. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
Ok I will. do you think 18 is 2 young to get pregnant. - 4 months ago
Answerer
Well the fact is that you may be. Some 18 year olds deal very well with having children and some 28 year olds deal very badly. If you feel you are old enough to deal with pregnancy, childbirth and raising child then do it. I don't know what your beliefs are about not keeping a child but if I wasn't in a position where I didn't feel ready to have a child then I would consider abortion. I'm not advising this is what you should do obviously, just making you aware of your options. Go the docs asap - 4 months ago
Question Asker
I know you weren't suggesting but I think that having an abortion is just like murdering someone. that's what my mom used to say when she saw the commercials on tv. but is a home pregnancy test not accurate I would feel antsy if I go without my boyfriend or someone. - 4 months ago
Answerer
Home preg tests are accurate, they wouldn't be able to sell them otherwise. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
I took the test and it said it was positive. I told my dad and he started crying. and hasn't talked to me since. I feel awful. - 4 months ago
Answerer
He will calm down, he just needs time to process it - it will have been a shock. I hope that when he's ready to talk he supports you. - 4 months ago
I hope he supports me to. I told him I am sorry but I can't change what happened. and I love him. I even gave him a hug and he just stared at my stomach. - 4 months ago
Disclaimer: I am not trying to preach. I do not advocate abstinence until marriage blindly for everyone; it is a personal choice that I had to make for myself, and anyone else choosing this must...
Disclaimer: First off, before anyone says, I don't want to hear a sermon; I'm not going to bring up religion in anyway. I'm not a preacher and your religious beliefs are yours to choose. Second, I'm...