this guy just asked me out and the first question he asked me is if I was going to sleep with him. I told him I don't know. and I didn't. my cousin found out that he made a bet with the guys he hangs out with that I would sleep with him by the weekend. what do I do?
WOW, you definitely say no. That's the most asshole-ish thing I've ever heard of- do NOT stoop down to his level! You are way too young to be involved in terrible bets like that. In fact- I'd break up with him right this second!
First, on behalf of the men that respect women let me apologize for this persons behavior. This guy doesn't respect you and is looking to use you. He makes a bad name for men and is very immature sexually. He clearly doesn't understand the power sex creates and is trying to make up for his inadequacies by doing something like that.
If you want to have sex with him then tell him you want to take his picture naked and if he starts to tell everyone about something you did in private and mean to keep private then you will show the picture to everyone.
At your gentle age, and with a guy like the one you describe? You say "no thanks, numb nuts!" Trust me, I have girls. I worry about your situation. A man doesn't make bets that he can bed a girl. Boys do that. A man cares for his woman. Don't be afraid to stand your ground; you don't have to be nasty about it (he's just being a teenager, and believe me I did "bad" things, too. I was a real bad boy. Back in '89 / '90.well. I'd better not write it. Suffice to say, that I wasn't always the knowing, caring Father).
In any case, back to your situation: Remember this, a good man will always show you deference. If he doesn't, he is not a good man. Pure and simple. So, ask yourself, don't you deserve a good man? The answer is every woman does.
Are you kidding us? NO NO NO! Why would you want to do that let alone be involved with a guy like that. Your under 18 wait for someone that loves you. Tell us why you would even consider this.
You shouldn't even have to think this one out! He sounds like the biggest asshole ever! No more of this "I don't know!" To these kind of stupid questions you always answer NO! Tell him you're not that hard up OMG ditch this complete jerk before you get the same reputation as he has.
That guy and his friends are really disrespectful and rude and you should NOT sleep with him, because then you would be disrespecting yourself and just giving him what he wants. Also because of the fact that he made that bet that shows that he most be a rotten person so don't even go out with him because he will probably try to pressure you into having sex, and if you don't he will try to make you feel bad about yourself, and you deserve much better.
Ask for a cut of the bet and then agree to have sex? Just kidding. Clearly this guy doesn't really like you. Move on. There is bound to be someone who cares for you more than this.
Dump the pig you deserve so much better some who loves you and want to have sex with you for making love not a bet. This kid is a LOSER ! your great ! find someone who wants to be with you for you
This guy is an asshole, and he's just looking to get his dic wet. I know that's rude, but girl don't beat around the bush wondering what's going on here. If this guy liked you/cared about you, he would never ask you to sleep with him right off like that. It just shows that he is in this relationship for one thing, and you deserve better than that. You know what to do:)
(Age:30 to 35)
When: 4 months ago
