Or not. I'm really unsure. I wake up with the ol' morning glory and I can masturbate but for some reason when I'm seeing someone, I can't get it up. I used to just get turned on by seeing a woman walk down the street but I don't know. I still find women extremely attractive and I am constantly on the pull but I am still having problems.
I have no stress problems (none at all) and nothing is on my mind about it. What is the problem?
I would be inclined to agree with dakadan. There's obviously nothing physically wrong if you wake up with an erection - why are you constantly on the pull? You want to ask yourself a few questions as you might be able to get to the root of the issue yourself.
Are you happy with your lot? Are you worried about your performance? Have you had any bad experiences in the past that may have knocked your confidence?
I only worry if I feel lower in social respect than the girl. In which most cases I won't go for them. I just feel I'm not getting an erection at all. I would normally get one from being turned on in public but that fails too. - 4 months ago
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Man I have been in your situation. Getting it up no problem at all, then all of a sudden when its actually the right time. there is no show. There must be some stress somewhere causing this. That's the only I can think of.
Likely an anxiety problem. It happens, learn how to eat pussy like a champ and let that work itself out (because the less you depend on the cock, the easy it is to find your hard on)
This is what I've been doing. I might get an erection for a minute or two, but quickly decides that it doesn't want to stay. Maybe more stimulation on my end is needed and that it was just a problem with the last girl I slept with. - 4 months ago
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That's possible. I have met some women that just didn't work out well (I wasn't comfortable, I wasn't all that interested in the first place). The rest is just good training for being a good lover. I figure if she has a magnificent time by the time we get to the f***ing, it matters less if things don't turn out as planned.
Keep in mind that a skittish **** often does respond to manual / oral satisfaction. - 4 months ago
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Yeah, it just doesn't make sense why I was able to just get turned on so easily only months ago but now I have to actually try to get an erection. I fear going to see my doctor about it because he thinks I come in for petty things when all I am is curious and need to know what is going on with my body. - 4 months ago
You say there are no stress problems, but I would argue that you might have performance stress issues. The more we want to have an erection the more difficult it is to do. I've done some classes where I was in front of a bunch of people and normally I have no problem getting an erection, but in front of all those people and wanting to be able to perform caused me not to be able to.
I think that is the biggest reason for Viagra. Men, especially as they get older, think their masculinity is defined by their erection. As they put more and more pressure on themselves to be manly the erections begin to fail them. Viagra in many cases is not really necessary because it is a mental thing.
I would recommend not worrying about it. Tell your partner that you are going to provide them a good time and begin by stimulating them with your mouth or fingers. If at some point you get an erection then great. If not, then just keep pleasing them. Tell them when it is all over that you just wanted to please them.
There are also classes you can go to on sacred sexuality or tantric sexuality that can help because they teach you to work with your energy body.
The problem is I live in the UK where classes like these are very sparsely advertised. I don't see myself using Viagra. I just don't know where to start helping myself to get round this problem. - 4 months ago
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There are tantra teachers in the UK. Do a google search for tantra teachers. I think Charles Muir has a listing that contains some as well. - 4 months ago
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