Does size really matter?

Use your hand and your mouth!

There's like no way he was actually 10". If she's saying that she either can't judge measurements or is trying to make you feel bad.

That said, your penis is a little on the small side. That's okay. You know that, she knows that, whatever, there's no getting around it. Assuming you're over 18, you probably won't be getting any bigger. So what I think you should do is concentrate on activities that take the focus away from your penis. Finger her or go down on her or use a vibrator for her needs. Then have sex with her. Also I wanted to note somewhere, but didn't quite work it in, having a small penis is an advantage in at least one way. Almost every girl will be able to deep throat you. So I hope the two of you are taking advantage of that. It feels so good to have all of a man in my mouth and when I try to do that it's the one time I really wish he was smaller.

May I begin my laughing in disbelief at her previous boyfriend having a penis of 10 inches - that would be absolute agony for most women and the majority of the penis would not fit inside her anyway.

Most women can't orgasm through intercourse alone and if she has in the past she is lucky.

It sounds to me you need some position tips as different positions benefit different people based on size, stamina etc.

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Buy a vibrating dildo and go to town. I am 100% in agreement with most of the answers that come from this very same question - "It doesn't matter how big it is as long as you use it properly", etc. etc. - ad nauseum

That being said, a 3.5 inch dick is pretty small when compared to nearly a foot long dong, and I don't care whether you are a black-belt sexual master or not, a baseball bat will feel COMPLETELY different from a straw no matter how well you wield it. The "G" spot is reportedly only 3 inches inside the vaginal opening, but unless you are 3.5 inches long and as big around as a beer can, she will not notice it if you have been getting pounded by a Hillshire Farms Polish Kielbasa. There just absolutely is no comparison. Kudos to your woman for asking you to keep trying, and by God - you keep on trying! But, it sounds like you need to bring in some reinforcements or something. Try giving her an hour's worth of continual foreplay (oral stimulation, massage, etc.) and then driving that little smokie in for the win. I hope you are successful - and I have heard some stories that you could be - my wife being one of them. She almost laughed out loud at one of her previous sex partners size (very similar to yours: about 3.5 inches long and sort of "stubby" looking - meaning thick I guess?) when he revealed himself to her. She was ovulating at the time and needed some hard dick. Little did she know, but this guy pulled out a tiny little dick and proceeded to doggy-style her with total abandonment. She wound up having a very, very intense and gushing (almost squirting, if you will) orgasm. It completely surprised her. She attributed it to the fact that the head of his penis was in constant contact with her "G" spot, whereas most men have only occasional contact with that spot. I can personally tell you that yes, when I "short-stroke" her, I get a little more of a reaction, but this may not be entirely due to the short-stroke.

So, keep on giving it your best, and don't be afraid to enlist the help of the millions of sex toys available. Good luck.

Well first of all, if your girlfriend was sensitive to your insecurity about your size, she wouldn't be constantly comparing you to her 10 inch ex. But I really don't know her, so maybe she does that only seldomly and only when you ask. As for whether or not size matters, I honestly don't know. If your erection is about 3.5 inches, it may be slightly more difficult to make a woman orgasm. However, I've often heard girls saying that it really is the clitoral and oral stimulation that does it for them, and not actual penetration. So I personally think that you can pleasure a woman just as good as any other man - use your efforts to master other techniques.