Is it wrong to want more than one lover?

i think that you are not fully ready to commit. I think you need to go out there and get it all out of your system. 1 thing I found hard was to 'share' my significant other with someone else. so that may be really hard for you to do too, or for him. when I was 20 up until I was 24, I got it out of my system, 3 somes, one night stands, bets. the whole 9 yards, so I knew I was ready to settle at 25. if you can't do this with him, you may regret it 30 years from now. life is short, and I think you should be able to explore what you want to.

sounds like your sex life is not as fulfilling as you want. yes when in a relationship it IS wrong to want other lovers.its a red flag.unless your a slut

i personally think that's completely skanky. you really have problems, seek therapy

You need to talk with your S.O. before doing anything with another partner. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You don't really love someone if you are anxious to go behind their back and be with other people. Not because of the sex, but because you didn't involve them in your life- you left him out.

I think the best solution for your situation would be to talk to him about your feelings. Either he will like the idea, and as you said, have some more partners himself while you get to explore. Or you will find out that he wants a one-on-one relationship and you'll have to go your separate ways.

It's definitely not wrong for you to have those feelings, and as long as you have them, it's probably best for you to go out there and satisfy them until they're out of your system otherwise you might regret it later when it's time to really commit. This doesn't mean your significant other has to do the same thing because he may not have the same feelings and he'd rather just be dedicated to you. Also, it might be better if he remains monogamous so that you still retain some stability to your relationship with him. I certainly understand your desire to "try out: other people because we're all different and they're sure to offer you enjoyments in different ways. It seems to me that you just need to gradually wean away from significant other in the sexual area and start showing more interest in other men until it become more and more noticeable to him that you need the variety but at the same time loving him more and being there for him. Obviously, he's not satisfying you sexually anyway. I think you should make a plan for meeting other men (or women) until the right circumstances presents itself to become sexual with him or her and then just go for it. After the first time it should start getting easier to do.

I understand completely. I'm not sure we are supposed to be with one person in a monogamous fashion for the rest of our lives. I don't think it was difficult prior to the currently available technologies for communicating with others and with the rise in the average age of death. I also think the collective consciousness is elevating around sexuality and connection and as a result you are seeing more and more people exploring polyamory or multiple lovers. This doesn't mean you have to have sex with more than one person, but that you can truly love more than one person. Sometimes sex comes along with it.

There is also swinging. Many people aren't cut out for it because of the way our culture relates to marriage and the "ownership" between individuals. However, there are some that can and do. I personally am not into swinging just because there is a level of connection that is missing and I think that was why it didn't work after the 60's so much.

I personally have a very unusual arrangement with my boyfriend and he is quite aware that I do other guys as well as I know and watch him with other girls. We very often will bring someone home for each other. Been doing this for a very long time and so far we have had no problems between us

I mean no offense, but it seems kind of whorish to me. Like that only a girl who was insecure and though that the only people who liked her where people who had their penis in her would want something like that. Maybe I'm a prude or something, who knows?

You know what, my little sister is like this and it drives me crazy. It's not fair to criticize without telling you that. I'm sure that anything I'm thinking bad about you ius coming from what I'm thinking about her. She used to be a smart, inquisitive girl, but then at some point she decided to start defining herself based upon who's penis was in her mouth at the time. She can't move past that and it breaks my heart. I'm sure that any crap I'm giving to you is based on that.