Is it okay for teens to express themselves sexually despite teen pregnancy, STD's, depression, and not to mention the fact that condoms aren't 100% effective? Why?
I think it's a question that most young people want to know, because on one end, people say it's perfectly okay, but when something major happens like pregnancy or contracting herpes, a person is shunned.
I really would like straight honest answers, not what you think is politically correct, but what you feel.
I don't think that teenagers are emotionally equipped to deal with sexual relationships. Most of them don't know what it means, and won't find out about the complex emotions they can stir up until it's too late. Adding sex to a relationship complicates the purpose of what the relationship is supposed to be about. Maybe at one point it was based on just hanging out and learning more about the other person, but it might transition into "when is the next time we can have sex?"
Before someone gives himself to someone else, he should first discover who he is and what he expects from a relationship. That takes time and maturity, both of which are not on a teenager's side.
I'm 16 and have been in a sexual relationship with the same guy since I was 14. We're very happy and I would say that we're perfectly emotionally equipped to deal with our relationship. - 4 months ago
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I'm glad for you... It is possible to make it work. I was just offering my opinion that in most cases, it can complicate a relationship in a way that is usually bad. If you ever break up with him, you might gain a better understanding about what I mean. - 4 months ago
I doubt it. I didn't lose my virginity to him, I lost it to a boyfriend not long before I got with him who I soon after broke up with. I don't regret it, although I would much have liked to give my virginity to my current boyfriend, but I'm sure I'm not the only person who feels that way. - 4 months ago
I think its ok if its that one girl(or guy) and if your both ready. Then they shouldn't have anything and a pregnancy wouldn't be life ending. Just be responsible
Teenage pregnancy isn't life ending at all; however it can cause a lot of door of opportunity to be closed, doors that teens should be running through, not waving good bye to. And don't get me wrong children are a blessing from God. I don't judge any teenage parent, I commend them for not aborting. I just believe that teens could experience e all the awesome things the world as tod offer when they look past their high school sweethearts and friends with benefits. - 4 months ago
I absolutely think it is appropriate for teens to express themselves sexually. That doesn't mean they have to have intercourse, but biologically they are being signaled to have sex. It is part of the natural cycle of life.
I also think that teens need to be taught how to have sex and that is the ultimate problem here in the US. They don't have pre-sex discussions where they talk about what the consequences are if they have sex. They are taught all about STD's and they are told to use condoms, but they aren't given any other solutions. Given that they are taught all of these then why are they having sex. I think it is because they are hormonally being driven to do so. So, lets teach them how to have sex, not how not to have sex.
There are plenty of things that can be done besides intercourse that will help to ease the drive (no, not castration lol). Let's teach them how to respect each other and how to have self worth without having sex with everyone in an attempt to get it. Let's teach them how to express themselves sexually in a way that is safer and let them grow up loving each other instead of trying to manipulate and take from each other.
I think teens should search out these issues for themselves before having sex. Borrowing your phrase of trying the car first, you should read the warranty, the contract and the fine print first before trying the car.
i think sex should only happen if you are willing to be a parent. people seem to forget that part of the sex thing saying 'i thought you said you can't get pregnant' or 'you said it won't happen on the first time'
so to me, when you have even one night stands, just know that if she, decides to keep it, its a life changing moment from then on out.
NOW on the std's if someone has it, do you really think that they all will be honest? as a teenager and even at any age. its something that is def around and can happen. sex is a scary thing nowadays. just becareful, especially at a young age. is my take.
When you say be careful what do you mean? Should a young person just try to hold out until marriage? - 4 months ago
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Waiting for marriage.. now that's tough for anyone.. there is a saying.. you don't buy the car unless you test drive it first.. i mean becareful as in, if you have sex use protection, see, your 20 so you gota basic concept on what you want.. somewhat (I don't think anyone really knows what they truly want) so you got an idea of what you are looking for. be honest, at 16, did you knwo what you wanted? - 4 months ago
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If course not!lol The type of guys I like change almost as often as my hair! But to be honest this is a subject dear to my heart. I grew up around nothing but a bunch of teenage mothers and fathers... Now, I'm still a virgin, tho I had been involved with sexual activity in my early teenage years; however, just a few years ago I took a vow of abstinence only because my ultimate fantasy is being my husband's first. - 4 months ago
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Much respect for you. see, we are in a world that is all about sex, tv shows, news, magazines.. sex is everywhere, especially in your lifestyle. just make sure when you do do it, you won't regret it. like I said much respect.. - 4 months ago
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Dude, the type of guy I like changes almost as often as my hair styles!lol But for real, this is just a personal subject for me because I grew around a bunch of people who became teenage parents....Now, I'm still a virgin (by choice) tho I was sexually active in my early teenage years, but I later took a vow of abstinence, which has weeded a lot of people out. I don't press my beliefs on others, I just did it because my ultimate fantasy is for my husband to be my first. - 4 months ago
What do you mean, physically? We've both gone through puberty, so yes, we are physically able to deal with it. - 4 months ago
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Biologically, your body isn't fully developed until your early twenties, that's why teenagers are the highest category of people with std's. You're more std prone because your body isn't fully equipped to naturally fight off harmful bacteria caused by sexual activity. That's all. - 4 months ago
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Well tbh the guy I'm with doesn't have any STD's so... I'm pretty safe. - 4 months ago
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You don't have to get defensive. I'm speaking in general...truth is physically you're not ready. I'm not saying that your guy has anything; however over 70% of people who have std's have no idea they have it. And 75% of surveyors said they wouldn't tell their partner if they had one. So, since you are so young and obviously determined to be sexually active, you should get routine check ups to make sure everything is good with your body. - 4 months ago
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He was a virgin before me.
Years ago people used to get married and have babies at 13. Even if I am not FULLY physically ready I'm probably very close to it. - 4 months ago
I think it’s perfectly fine for teens to start exploring sexually, as long as they are safe, and they are doing with someone who truly cares about them. Not just some boy or girl who wants to get off.
love where you say people think its ok but are shunned when something big like pregnancy happens!
because my friends mom knew she was having sex and had no problem with it but she ended up pregnant at 15 yep 15 and everyone kinda acted shocked and looked down on her and I thought to myself em ok why are you all so shocked and judging now when you knew she was sexually active!
i had sex when I was 14 and to be honest everyone I know has had it around 14 -15 I had it because I was taken advantage of but that's neither here or there, but I did do other stuff that young willingly and for me I thought I was older and not a child and I could do whatever I wanted to also my friends all done it because they didn't want to be the one who didn't do it or be a frigid or virgin! and when I was young I'm not going to lie I never got enjoyment out of it at at all it was all really a oh guess what I did or who I was with thing! I've only had sex with 3people so I'm not too bad but I didn't enjoy any sexual things until I was like 16 !
its not a bad thing to have sex like but when your young as much as you think you know as we all think we know it all you don't and sex shouldn't be on your mind just yet ! and I got depression for awhile after my 1st time so that does happen I know loads of girls who got pregnant and who are pregnant but I don't know anyone who has an std but in fairness I doubt they would tell me if they did so I probably know loads who do
1 of my cousin's best guy friends had sex at age 14 and the girl was 12 and it was at a church camp! the whole next day just about every1 was talkin about it and my cousin had to hear it from a 9 year old. - 4 months ago
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That happens everyday unfortunately!! - 4 months ago
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