I would like a serious answer to help me figure out my sexuality

You're overanalyzing the situation. You don't have to be a certain way if you don't want to be. There is no one forcing you to make a decision about your sexuality. From what you've written, my guess is that you're a straight girl who has been mistreated by men in the past. Being physically attracted to a girl seems easier to you because you have emotional baggage associated with guys.

I don't think you should experiment; that can only lead to further confusion. Make a few guy friends, or look around for guys to date. If they don't treat you the way you expect, try other people. Sooner or later, you'll find a guy who shows you mutual respect, and any issues about your sexuality will be cleared up.

Okay, all the crap aside. . . Have you ever had sex? If not, do you get yourself off? If yes to sex and you don't enjoying doing it with a guy . . Your Probably GAY. If you only masturbate, and all you can think about is girls and all there wonferful feature, then you probbly GAY. The answer is in you. No one else can tell you what you want to read. But here the best answer you might get; "Who do you get off to?" Guys or Girls? Answer that and there's your answer!

Only you know what you want, do not expect other people to be able to answer that question. NO ONE CAN.


Be true to yourself, wha t do YOU want.

What I can tell about you is that you are very very sexually repressed. You think it is wrong, whatever it is you are feeling. However you feel isn't wrong, if you feel it.it is true and the truth is good.

No good ever came from someone lying to themselves, how could you ever grow if you.of all people LIE TO THEMSELVES.

What gender makes you feel good about yourself sexually? what gender "turns you on"? answer those questions in your head right now and be honest with yourself and make conclusions to yourself. No one on earth can tell you who you are, if they do.they are full of shit.

Sorry to be so harsh, but don't ever let anyone else tell you who you are.because you will beleive it and let yourself get molded by another human being that probably doesn't know who they are either.


Who are you? what is your place in the world? whatever you want, you have the power over your own reality and life. NO.ONE.ELSE!

i think of it like this, why do you have to have sex to know. when I was 7 I knew I liked girls, I didn't have to have sex at 7 to know that. so, why do you have to experiment? if your body tells you you like both sexes, and you think you may like both sexes, then you already know what you are. when I lost my virginity, I was 19, ibut I knew at 7 I like girls. I tried to wait until I was married, and being brought up in brooklyn, and moving to pa, there was sex everywhere. now, I know I'm not gay, I don't need to hook up with a guy to realize that., ya know? so, maybe your worried about society, and what others think, but if your body is going hay-wire, then, you already know, and I think you are afraid to admit it to yourself

plus, if you do 'experiment' how do you know you picked the right person to do it with. lots of people out there hated their first time, but they didn't say, damn it, I think I picked the wrong sex. so, experiments aren't always gunuine anyway. I hope this helped.

No one is either or. Ignore people who say you are either gay or you are not. The truth is we all have a different balance of hormones. Like a scale with Male and female on both ends.see some of us are closer to female and others closer to male while some are one extreme or the other-male or female. Those in the middle have a hard time defining their sexuality. Don't torture yourself with this. Just be comfortable with who you are. Just stop trying to define your sexuality and live.

If you want to be gay then be gay! It's wrong so I would prefer you didn't but it's your choice. You don't have to experiment to find your sexuality. You don't even need to have sex just live your life for now and have fun. I'm probably going to get some nasty feed on this but I don't care. Your not married so you shouldn't have sex because that's what God said. A lot of people tend to forget how we got here, he put us here and just like in school he left rules that need to be followed. Some people push that aside and just go with what they like, BIG mistake because in the end after your gone and it's judgement day all those people will regret saying just experiment and find out, because that's not what he wants. As for the guy thing how they all treat you wrong, that's your fault because you've just been trying to get with the wrong guys. Don't worry about guys being mad at you just because you don'have sex with them, that just means they're weak and lazy because they can't resist it or just walk down to the corner to find someone who will do that. I've never done anything with guys either and yes sometimes it's hard, but I find something to take my mind off it all the time. Just whenever your curiosity pops up just go do something play a game, read,dance to music, just get you mind off it , if you don't worry about it so much it'll eventually fade away.

Ok girl, think of it this way. First of all, sexuality is a continuum, not a binary. That means that most of us fall between homo and hetro. As a transgendered person, I have had to figure out the difference between sexuality and gender which is a fine line. I am female identified and I like men. Sometimes though, when I see some girls who a more masculine, I start to react towards them. This is because as humans, we are attracted to masculinity and femininity. I feel that men are jerks many times too, and I am attracted to theses woman more because they aren’t jerks. They understand women. So, I think that you need to pay attention to the personalities of these women that get you excited. Are they more masculine? Do they react to you in a way that you would want the right guy to react to you if they weren’t being a jerk? These are the questions that you have to ask yourself. You don’t have to go have sex to figure out who you like. Sex isn’t what a relationship is all about. If you have anymore questions just ask me girl. I’m pulling for you!

"the only thing the guy wants is sex"
I think when you go for girls, they will also want sex from you. It's just a different kind of sex.
To me, if your body reacts to women and not to men, it sounds like you are gay.
Active thinking won't change much, so you can stop thinking about it now, and see what happens.