serious answers only plz.My main issue in my past 2 long term relationships was the lack of sex. I THOUGHT I did what it took to make the girlfriend comfortable, supported, and loved, and logically that told me we would also have more sex as a natural result. In the last relationship I've been told by my ex that her sex drive is definitely lower than mine, but the main issue with the lack of sex and intimacy /affection was her "not feeling close to me" due to all the fighting, and that I didn't give her enough support /listen enough. I feel that over time my listening skills etc got better.its only now that I realize that when women say listen, they don't want any advice, just to say, "itll be ok".i wasnt the greatest but I got better due to learning from my mistakes.first 6 months was great physically, and after that kept going downhill, I went through a year of being in a terrible spot in my life and eventually pulled out of it, unfortunately not good for the relationship, and in the last 8 months it was her that did the same claiming she was burnt out etc.anywho im babbling.is this all MY fault? am I that bad of a person? SEX is a big thing to me, but more importantly it is the love, affection, and INTIMACY that I wasnt getting, and NO, I didn't do 'good things' to get sex, I am saying I UNDERSTAND the dynamic of how women want to feel close before they are ever sexual .jus wondering is sex is also a big thing for women, more so compatibility in the bedroom(ie, who wants a minute man etc)
to answer your overall question, yes it is very important to me. to the point where it was a big reason why I'm almost divorced. lol. a lot of men seem to think that sex is something they are "owed" any time they want it in a relationship. well, as a wife, I wanted to please my man, but I damn sure wasnt going to drop my pants (lol) if he hasn't even looked me in the eyes, hugged me, spent time with me, just cuddled with me, made out in the middle of the day, listened to me whine about my day. etc. its not ur fault. maybe you just haven't found the right girl. there are many nympho women out there who CAN be faithful too. lol good luck!
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 4 months ago
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