Guys how long would you wait on a girl if you only wanted to have sex with her? Weeks, months, days, at all?
Update: To add to my question, how many guys and girls actually know the person's sexual background/ history before you become fwb? (ya know, if they've ever had a case of crabs, chlamydia, herpes, etc?) Does that ever cross your mind?
4 months ago
I guy that I know ONLY wants to have sex with me ,( he's told me he's not ready for a relationship which translated means I JUST DON"T WANT YOU) but he can KEEP on waiting as far as I'm concerned because Its not going to happen. Its been 4 months and he's still doing the whole '' lets hang out '' , " I really like you , but I just want to get to know you for now '' routine. Fact of the matter is I made up my mind along time ago its just not going to happen. If I'm good enough to sleep with I'm good enough to be with. And I'm not just saying that I know my worth. And to answer your second question it has crossed my mind about what he may or may not have, ( in the disease area) but I don't think its crossed his mind. The next date I go on with a guy ( I swear by this) we're going to get an A. I.D.S test if he can understand and handle that we're good.
i had one scare. my friend said the girl I slept with (not a fwb, just a one night stand) was dirty, I found out she wasn't, but still got tested anyway. now, I am cautious on who I have sex with. so, the girl I had as a fwb, I knew her and that she was and is not dirty. so yeah, it crosses my mind.
well I personally have a huge lusty crush on a girl and have been trying to get a chance with her for ALMOST 2 YEARS! no I'm not stalking her, we see each other everyday due to school ect. and she hasn't had much of a sexual back ground her friends all want her too hook up with me so they fill me in on everything.i realize that makes me sound like a creep and a jack @$$ but she is the hottest thing on two legs since helen of freaking troy!
Naw, you're not a creep. You're just honest. - 4 months ago
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Thanks....i always feel like a stalker around her because I can't stop staring in our classes together and I have accidentally followed her around the school because I was so lost in day dreaming...the worst part is, I lost my virginity to her former BFF....how dumb was i? all because I decided, "oh well next best thing" one day - 4 months ago
if it was a fwb, and just sex, but she needed time to think I would wait, but for a little bit. if it was for a relationship, id wait as long as she wanted me too.
I have waited for sex.. 3 different times.... - 4 months ago
Question Asker
I asked this question because a friend once told me a while back that he would pretend to be head over heels with a girl for a whole year if he wanted to have sex with her that bad. Do a lot of guys you know pretend for that reason? - 4 months ago
If all I wanted was sex, maybe a couple days to a week, MAYBE 2! Because if that's all you want her for, than she should know that too. Most girls are cool with just sex friends, as long as they don't think your going to spread shy around. Just b honest with her and it'll usually work out for the best. it has with me.
The downside of sex..... pregnancy when you don't want it!!! - 4 months ago
Question Asker
Good point. SO you feel that even tho there are no strings attached; however if, say, the girl gets pregnant he should take full responsibility? If I were a guy, that wouldn't sound good for me at all. The sex may be great, but it would suck to be tied to someone not all that important to me for the rest of my life. Count me out!lol - 4 months ago
Ya I would know since this is exactly the way I got pregnant. this guy and me were just friends with benifits. and he left me, saying the baby isn't his. - 4 months ago
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Wow, what did you do after? What affect did it have on you? - 4 months ago
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i think not a lot of people are asking what kinda sickness they have before they have sex .and I think when a guy just wants sex he is not gonna wait for long. when he realizes that you are not interested in that he is just going to look for a girl that wants it too
I realize a lot of people don't ask and a lot of them won't tell if they had something even if they were asked! And that's what fascinates me that the safety and good health of our bodies are less important than a one night stand or a friends with benefits relationship. I hear people say over and over to just use condoms, but I want more security than a guy sayin he doesn't or never had anything and slappin on a condom. - 4 months ago
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My boyfriend actually went to a hospital where you can get checked for free if you have any sexual sicknesses. some people mind even find it offensive if people ask them about sexual sicknesses. but I find it good that he got it checked out so I could be sure too - 4 months ago
Well isn't it sort of the same for girl waiting on guys? I mean fo me, it depends on how much I like them. If I think they are hot but aren't really into them for a relationship, I won't really wait at all, if it happens, cool. But if I like someone and really want to I've waited for a long time before. There was this guy that I met once, I started seeing him more and more, with other friends, not dating. And within that time, I started to want to sleep with him. Then we started hanging out, I waited for 3 months to even get the first kiss and then about a month of random kissing sessions for it to go farther. So it totally just depends on the person.
The length guys will wait gets shorter as they get older. I'm not complaining or anything, since the length I want to wait has gone the same way, but it seems worth noting. There's just no way I could find a guy like my first college boyfriend who was willing to wait indefinitely (turned out to be 8 months). At my age, I'm not sure if I could easily find a guy willing to wait for a quarter of that.
You could....it would weed out the impatient ones. There are guys out there ready to worship the ground we walk on, and would wait as long as we ask them to! We just have be willing to not search for them, but let them search for us. - 4 months ago
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I'm not looking anyway, but what you describe doesn't sound appealing. I want a partner, not a pawn. And I like being loved, but being worshiped goes a little too far.
Besides, even if I was looking, the amount of time I've wanted to wait really has gone down. I think that's natural as you get older and more confident in your sexuality. Plus I think I've gotten better at reading guys. I can tell when there's a chance of a future and when there isn't. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
When I said worship I was exaggerating. Its a saying for a guy who is all about you, you don't have to take it literally. - 4 months ago
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Well okay, but I still kind of think we're looking for two different things. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
On the contrary, we just have to different mind sets when it comes to our own behavior. - 4 months ago
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