Is it possible to fear having sex?

some do.i do alot., mainly whether they can please there partner cause they want to be good not bad

Technically it's possible to fear pretty much anything lol.
So yeah, I'm sure it happens. But most of it is probably normal, especially for your first time. It's just something new and different, and it puts you in a very vulnerable position, so of course it can be scary.

99.9% of us are a little scared more so nervous ! but it is a scary thing to reveal so much of yourself to someone , for me I wasn't afraid of pain at all that was least of my worrys it was more sharing something I never shared or showed anyone in my life which is my body that's an intimidating thing to reveal yourself for the 1st time , and another thing I feared was not being good enough nobody is an expert but you want to be good so I worried I wouldn be

I am afraid of being so exposed and vulnerable. I keep hearing that it is going to hurt and I don't want to just throw my virginity away without it being something special. There is so much that is associated with sex, both physically and emotionally and I am really afraid of how both my partner and I will react to them.

Because of this fear I keep telling myself and others that I want to be a virgin until I'm married. I almost feel embarrassed about being afraid of it in today's society though. Every where you look, somebody is talking about sex or there's a sexual reference.

So yes it is possible to fear sex.

For me it was just being used or the pain

Not being good enough, the pain, not feeling comfortable with their body, being used, emotionally letting their virginity go, or just fearing what others will think or say.