OK I am 25 y/o and a virgin. I have waited this long because I wanted to do it with someone I really wanted to. well, I think I have found that person. we are friends and a little bit more than that . we are not in a BF/GF relationship and don't think that will happen but anyways. I feel I want to lose it to him or otherwise I will not lose it to anyone else or maybe for a long time. I am a very picky person when it comes to guys and it is very difficult for me to like someone right away. but this guy that I have known for over 3 years got me. even though I've always said that I will not sleep with anyone if I'm not in a serious relationship, I think I will do it with him . I find him so freaking hot that I go to sleep and wake up fantasizing about him and this is driving me crazy . so I know is not like the smart move to make but I just feel it is time for me and that he is the one I want to remember even though he might not deserve it but he is the one that I chose . so people what do you think . I know what most of you will say, but either way I wanna hear your thoughts.
If you've waited 25 years, why give in on a desire of lust? Why not wait a cpl more years and give something special to your husband. I mean, you've waited 25 years, why throw it away?
Simply because I am not waiting for marriage to give it up....and never did.... I just wanted to lose it with someone I really feel I wanted to....not because of marriage .... - 4 months ago
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Ok but why hold onto something so tight, and then throw it all away just because a guy is hot? - 4 months ago
Question Asker
I am not throwing it away just because "the guys is hot" .... I like him ..... and yeah he is hot but that is just an extra comment.... I have met quite a few guys in my life and I have never felt so interested in someone but him.... just like I said before, it's difficult for me to fall for someone and I have met people that wanted to date me but I just turn around. even him at the beginning .... I was not that interested, but in the course of the 3 years I've known him, I started to like him. - 4 months ago
Answerer
Ok, well obviously it's your life and your decision. I would just hate for you to hold onto something so special for so long, and then do it, and then regret it later, that's all hun :o) - 4 months ago
Question Asker
It's all good .... thank you for commenting on my dilemma... hehehe... who knows what will happen..... - 4 months ago
Answerer
Lol YOU know. You know before you even get in the situation whether you're gonna give it up or not. - 4 months ago
Just do whatever makes you happiest. There will be other guys so you might want to wait for them, or not, it's up to you. I can't tell you what will make you happy, only you can do that.
Just be safe if you do. Make sure he's clean and wears protection.
Also, be sure you factor in the possibility that you might regret this like hell afterwards. Know the costs. Are you okay with possibly regretting doing this? For the rest of your life?
Whatever you do, I hope you do it because it will make you happy. : )
You have known this guy for 3 years. It is not like you met him a couple of days ago. If you feel like he is special enough to give him your virginity, then you should def. go for it. This is a decision only you can make.
You might regret sleeping with him, for not waiting until you are in a steady relationship. But it is like you said. Chances are high that you will not have a boyfriend for a long time and in the end you might regret not sleeping with this guy who drove you crazy and you will keep on dreaming how it might have been if you had given in.
I totally agree with you.... it's not that I am just giving it up to a guy that I just met..... I don't know if I will regret it or not .... I just know that maybe if I do it I'll regret it later or I might regret not doing it ..... so either way.... thanks for ur comment! - 4 months ago
I would say go for it! It seems like this guy is special enough for you, he is your friend, you trust him and you are really attracted to him. You have been waiting long enough, sex is not that big of a deal.
As for your relationship, there are two sides to having sex with the guy, first one is an opportunity: you never know what can happen next, maybe sex is something that will bond you and turn you into a couple; the second side is small risk: having sex can on the other hand make your relationship confusing and then it would be hard if not impossible to go back to where you were, then again that is not likely to happen if you know each other really well.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 4 months ago
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