Ok, me and my girl have been together for almost 2 years. We were doing the long distance thing for the first 6 months. We have been living together for the last year and a half. The sex was absolutely amazing. The best I've ever had, and from what she tells me, the best she's ever had. Here's where the problem starts. She says she had never had an orgasm before me, and now she cums every time we make love, usually multiple times. About 4 months into us being together, something changed. She just stopped being interested in sex. Like her sex drive just disappeared. We have tried every position imaginable, toys, lubes, swings, bondage, massive amounts of foreplay, new locations, voyeur, you name it we've probably done it. She says she thinks something is wrong with her because she is just never in the mood anymore. She was pretty much addicted to sex before we got together, meaning she was kind of a slut "her words, not mine" before she met me, but no one ever satisfied her. Except me. We are both young, she's 19 I'm 21. Madly in love, Fiercely attracted to each other, and engaged to be married. What's the problem? How can someone go from LOVING sex, can't get enough of it, but never orgasm, to coming so hard she can't move, every time, and not be in the mood for it? I'm just really confused, and a little worried. Help if you can. Thanks
Is she on the pill or anti-depressants? Those things can totally destroy your sex drive. It was the pill that did it to me. I had to go off it. No point in birth control if you never want to have sex anyway. Now I have an IUD and am back to my sex-loving self.
No, no anti-depressants. She was on birth control but had a hard time remembering so she just stopped. Her lack of a sex drive started almost a year before she was ever on the pill tho. - 4 months ago
This happened to me once before but it was because I had a lot of stress and worries at the time. When something bothers me my sex drive just goes down the floor. Is harder for me to orgasm.
Is there something bothering her? Has she been stressed out lately? Work problems? You should talk to her, because I'm pretty sure is has to do with something down that line.
And BTW, her sex drive is there, it didn't disappear.
There could be a number of reasons. Many Americans are on antidepressants which curb a persons sexual enthusiasm. It could be too that you had a fight which wasn't completed and left something in the space between the two of you. In those situations we tend to build up a resistance to our partner when these things haven't been completed. That means that she might start resenting you in small ways that subconsciously have her shut down sexually.
It could also be a chemical imbalance within her. My partner will take St. Johns Wort periodically because sometimes things just don't seem right. I don't know if it is because of some of the food she at or stress she might be feeling at the time.
Stress is another big issue that can happen. Did she start a new job recently or have something pretty major in her life happen.
There is also the possibility that she is not quite into you as you might think. I don't know her or you and if that is true or not, but I do know that sometimes people get into the mode of getting married and are so focused on it that they don't see the signs. Hopefully that isn't true.
I'd look up sexual disorders and also check with a doctor. Maybe all her sexual needs and wants have been fulfilled? But yeah, check the sexual disorders and DEFINITELY ABSOLUTELY see a doctor.
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When: 4 months ago
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