I like being a "slut"! So why do people have a problem with this?

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If you look at it this way. Everyone wins. I get sex, the guys get sex, and the future girlfriends get more experienced partners. So what's the big deal with people ridiculing and hating on sluts. We play our part in society. When you think about it we don't really hurt anyone. 
 Most sluts know that guys don't want sluts as girlfriends and wives. We're not stupid, but we do know that men are men and they like sex. And guess what we like sex too. So it works out fine.  And whenever the guy wants a relationship with a girl he likes I'll back off and sleep with other guys who aren't in relationships.

YellowSidewalkChalk · Accepted Answer

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. You're right that word should stay in quotations because it really is just a derogatory term used to oppress female sexuality. (only good when used during sex to make things hotter :)In our society that's the main reason we are raised to do and not do certain things. It's all about being a "lady" and avoiding being seen as a "slut." Fuck that. I'm a human being first, and a woman second. Any other terms you have for me are insignificant as they are just cultural terms created that have no basis in reality. Sex is a reality in nature. Desire is a reality in nature. The number of guys a girl can sleep with outside a relationship before she's labelled something is not a reality. It's a result of mental and social conditioning in whatever culture they are in. Has nothing to do with reality in nature so I don't care about it.

I have been called a slut before and I'm sure by some people's standards I am. That's fine. The difference between us is that I'm intelligent enough to understand that their opinions don't actually matter. I understand that it isn't a matter of me lacking respect for myself (because I definitely respect myself), it's simply your opinion. Those are two very different things.

Some of the nicest girls I have ever known have been labelled sluts and many were what people would think of as sluts. I judge people by caliber and who they are as people. I don't care about how many guys a girl has slept with or how many girls a guy has slept with. My girlfriend now is great and I have never once made it a priority to know how many people she has slept with because I'm not that type of person. All I need to know is are you STD free. Yes? Then we are good to go if we start having sex. No? Then we might wanna take your ass down to the clinic or something first because I'm not risking anything. Sometimes I jump in without getting them tested which isn't the best decision I admit.

Anyway, there's nothing wrong with girls like you or myself. We are the ideal, I think. I like a world where women are owning their sexuality and not iinsecure about it or live their lives according to how they will be judged. I think prostitution should be legal. It's your body and you should have the right to do what you want with it. Sex is just what you want it to be. People should, in my opinion, judge you based on your personality and the way you treat people. Not who you f***ed on saturday. It's ridiculous.

And even if you want to be alone, don't listen to the conservative nut jobs on this site. There are plenty of liberal, secure, free thinking, intelligent men who don't care about how many guys you've been with. Trust me. I've dated and slept with some of them. Not everyone is a slave to conventional thought. Some people actually see individuals for who the are as people, and those people (me being one of them) are freakin awesome. Don't sweat it. Now go get laid. :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I totally agree with Yellow, yourself, and a few other women on this one. I am considered a slut, but that term is kind of hot to me. I love being called that during sex because its sexy. lol however I'm far too intelligent to let some narrow minded prick use it to make me feel worthless or sub-human. They try to dehumanize us a lot I notice and it's very sad to see people treating their fellow human that way. In my opinion it is anyway. All I feel for someone who chooses to shut me down the minute they discover I'm promiscuous, who calls me out of my name to try to degrade me just because I love sex with different people, is pity to be honest with you. I pity them, I feel bad that they can't see beyond that. I feel bad that they can't see a complete person in me, with a big heart, dedication to my school and work, an amazing friend to those I love, a good shoulder to cry on, and all the other qualities that make me, me - all they see is "she f***s way too much with way too many men. she has no respect for herself." That must suck. Wouldn't that like f***ing suck if that's as far as you got to see people? I'm just glad that I have more depth than that.

On from that...I love being promiscuous. I'm such a horny person and I have such a dirty mind that it shocks some people. One of my best friends is a dude (gay though) and he's always shocked by the things I tell him. Sometimes it isn't even shock worthy in my opinion but he's so used to girls playing off like they are just so above having a dirty mind. Some of my friends are like that too though. I love all the stereotypes we get. We don't care about what goes into our bodies, we look a certain way, etc. I don't dress sloppy or anything and I don't drink or do drugs - very classy and I'm very into fashion so this throws people off and some men don't think I'm a sure thing (which, depending on the guy, I may or may not be. I'm not f***ing just anyone I have standards in looks, personality, etc. If you come off as an uneducated loser we aren't sealing the deal.) I love being f***ed by different men, as long as I'm safe.There's this animal inside me and its hard to keep it under control. I just try to be the hottest, nastiest little trick I can be in that moment. Then they can go home to their wives, girlfriends, whatever they have at home and have the picture of my naked ass in their minds when they go to bed. They almost always come back for more. ^__^

katiej · Accepted Answer

Im a slut too and I love it. but them annoying bitches who are too stuck up to get some or who just don't get any...feel like they have to put people down. its not their buiness who were banging but for some people they think it is. ya it really pisses me off. guys do what us girls do and they get rewarded. us girls get put down. I don't know... hang in there sis :)

SpartWallace · Accepted Answer

I have a double standard right here: if you were next to me right now, I wouldn't mind you being a slut.In fact, I'd probably like you! But if at the same time you were my girlfriend, then I'd despise you.Guys are really possessive. That's just how it is

I guess I was raised in that "traditional" view where girls had to be as "pure" as possible, and I think most people have grown in the same climate, and it is hard to get over it. That's why many people will have a problem with you being a "slut". Also, enjoying sex is one thing, but you say you like going from d**k to d**k, and maybe other girls feel threatened by your gregarious sexuality.

If you enjoy having sex, it's your choice. But you sound like you're addicted to sex, and that's where it gets bad for you! Any addiction is destructive as far as I know, and if you have an addiction to sex, maybe even people who love you will have a problem with you being a "slut", because they're worried for you, worried that addiction would ruin your life: you might end up getting a disease, pregnant, or just plainly miss out other fun and enriching activities you could have enjoyed, because you were too busy looking for a d**k to ride...I mean, people worry that we don't live life to the fullest because we're focused on only one thing, even though we tell them we're okay with doing that single thing only. That's how people are, worried for you. I hope you see what I'm trying to say.

Also, boys not liking you because of your sexual life can be due to our inner fears that women who know too much might not enjoy having sex with us. That's an ego thing.

In conclusion, there are bunch of reasons why people would "have a problem" with you "being a slut". reasons vary for random boys and girls and people who are close to you.

As far as I'm concerned, I cannot think of anything fundamentally wrong with a girl who just happens to love sex

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Basicly, the problem is this:

You allow guys to be complete bastards. Yes, sure, the guys are that way inclined and maybe your just giving them what they want.

If you want a guy who will sleep with anyone then your being true to yourself being a slut.

People don't like sluts because most people want a faithful partner that's not going to accidently "knock up" some young thing he took a fancy too and run off leaving kids behind to sleep with her.

Also, if you see the value of having sex with you as the same as the value of say using the bathroom then your also being true to yourself by treating sex as just another "must do".

Most people I associate with use sex as a way of indicating that someone is more special, and many of those to indicate that a single person is the most special in the world to them.

You cannot do this (well not AND be a slut).

We are who we are. At the end of the day, I wouldn't want a slut (here in defined as someone who sleeps with anyone she fancies). Though I am one man.

I don't judge you, but, you will be implicitly judged by others. As long as your pleasing the people who make you happy and love and support you everything is acceptable (assuming your not hurting other people to do that).

LilRedHead · Answer

Here's the thing.  You make your own choices, whatever.  But you will always be subject to ridicule.  Even though in your head you feel this makes you feel good.  But you probably are looking for the next high.  Soon enough, you're going to become bored with your lifestyle and move on to the next high, and the next.  Before you know it you're 30, 40 and so on.  Then when you look back you are either going to be proud or ashamed.  The trush is, we have our own opinions.  Sex should be used for population, enjoyment, or etc.  Personally, I'm saving myself for someone whom I love.  Not just for pleasure.  To prove that I find them that special to be my first.  Personally, I think that's more attractive than experience.

LilyBee · Answer

Theres nothing wrong with it! I'm a virgin, but that's because I'm chunky and not comfortable with my body. lol I don't see anything wrong with enjoying your sexuality as long as you're safe and you are having sex because you want to and not because it makes someone else happy or to boost your self esteem, etc.

I can't stand conservatives and their poor logic and old fashioned morals. take that sh*t somewhere else, I don't have time for it. lol

being promiscuous does not mean you're a horrible, bitchy person, like some of these idiots want you to believe. I can't even tell you how many conservative, self-righteous zealots I've met who I would never want to be friends with. (I love how the religious people just forgot that jesus totally chilled with prostitutes. I'm so not a christian but I'm just saying. hypocrites lol) they think that being a "lady" or a "gentleman", and part of that in their minds is not sleeping around, makes them worthy of anyones time, makes them better people. half the time, if they have an anti-slut agenda I find that their personalities are horrific for my tastes. I've met plenty of really cool promiscuous chicks though. Interesting how that works out. They drink their own kool aid though, girl. The logic behind their opinions doesn't make sense and they don't care. I will debate with them and try to get them to understand my perspective, but it's usually to little or no avail. I think its important to talk about it though. Just because I think these people live in their little bubbles for so long sometimes that they think everyone will agree, that there's only a certain type of person that will disagree. I like bursting that bubble for them. Introduce a little disruption in their shallow little world and shake things up a bit. Get the dialogue going, to let them know that not all of us who don't sleep around think its okay to be sexist and have double standards on promiscuity. To let them know that not all of us think its right to use religious, conservative bullsh*t to come to conclusions about peoples worth and supposed lack of self respect just because they embrace their sexuality. I hate that sh*t and I really feel bad for anyone making random comments like "Omg she's such a slut, why can't she respect herself?" around me, because they will definitely have to hear one of my rants. lol

Be classy, be intelligent, be the kind person that you seem to be and enjoy f***ing your brains out. Nothing wrong with it, and really by daring to live according to your own rules, youve created a scenario where people you wouldn't want around anyway just peace out. bye! lol

Just for fun though. Have you heard that song "She's a slut" its pretty funny even though I don't feel that way personally or agree. Its catchy. I dance to it in the morning sometimes. I think the girl in the dorm next to me must be thinking "what the hell?" every day xD

Glamgoddess · Answer

Well, if you like it, I love it. But I think where this subject becomes trivial is that we as women teach men how to treat us. Not every woman is the same and not every man is the same. By the time you get to the man that you really want to be with, you're used goods. And your vagina is likely to look like the Hoover dam. But again, if you like, I love it! Oh and by the way self proclaimed slut, please make sure to use protection. Because those of us who keep a chastity belt on our vaginas really don't want whatever it is you might be carying around. Good luck, doll! :_

IncorrigibleLove18 · Answer

okay this is crap. you like being a slut that's fine but don't expect everyone else to be okay with it. You know why we don't like sluts...well its because of girls like you that have legs like rotating doors that make our men cheat...that give them stds to bring home to us...its because of girls like you that make it harder to find a guy who respects you. And most importantly because its f***ing trashy. Yeah having sex  is one thing but its not something to brag about! so you think being guttersnype is an accomplishment? good for you your a hero to sluts everywhere. There is more to life then f***ing everything that moves. You know what happens to sluts...They end up getting knocked up somewhere along the line and either succumb to abortion and forever f*** their soul to burn in hell or they pop out kids left and right and live off welfare sucking up all my tax dollars so they can sit in their double wide trailor ignore their children and suck off every guy they see for a quick buck.  Fucking everyone you see has nothing to do with thinking for yourself...its a copout way of not having to face the reality that you are used goods that no man wants for longer than a night. Its a way to cope with the fact that every man you come in contact with f***s you leaves you then goes back to his buddies to tell them what an easy lay you were. Where is your self respect? where is your dignity? how can you sleep at night kowing that your cookie is open to anything willing to give an orgasm. So no your not just a slut..your a waste of space. a discrace to the human race, someone that makes me ashamed to call myself a female. nothing but a cumdumpster for someone to blow their hiv infested load into. nothing more. so next time your sitting their getting that autrosity you call a vagina pounded by some dude who won't even remember your name after...just remember that this is your life..this is what your good at..and you will never amount to anything else. So if your going to be a skanky ass bitch at least upgrade and get some cash for being such a nasty infested f***hole instead of making dimewhore hookers look like saints you pathetic f***ing cockslot.

ThoroughFred · Answer

As old as this post is, I for one solute you. For having the balls to be open, and for staking your position for all to judge. I personally love a confident slut. Hell I'll love them all night long and grin about it for a week. Sex is a part of life and people need to get off their damn high horse and stop pretending we all have wings and halos - it's complete bullsh*t.

You my fine slut, have earned yourself on virtual hi-5

MEHEllie · Answer

also how come if a guy sleeps around NOTHING IS SAID HUH?!? he could have TWICE as many STDS as her and yet you all know a guy gets it all the time and is proud of that

then a girl comes along and is proud of sleeping around and yet your all in a uproar

you ALL need to rethink and be ashamed becuase that's just plain f***ing rude!

WASH UR F***ING TONGUES OUT WITH SOAP!

MEHEllie · Answer

OMG every guy I came in here is being a complete d*** ITS HER OWN F***ING BODY

1 if she sleeps around I am sure she ant gonna be some dumb f*** who doesn't wear a f***ing dom and the chances of catching STD that don't work against a condom is SLIM to none!

2 OMG if she doesn't want a kid abortion is the way if you don't like see how you would like it if you got your girl pregent and she left it on your door step and ran off no matter how against you are you will not get up every 2/3 to feed that child and end up killing anyways! and if she ant got a good enough JOB for it then how she gonna get money in to look after that child!?!?!? then the baby would DIE! just becuase your all d***s and can't deal with a women choosing NOT to have a child!

3 I love having sex! its the best thing in the world the skin on skin! the lusting for it so bad that it makes your body scream! its the best thing you can do with or with out the one you love and if you want sex and be the slut then I say good on you and more people should be like you!

anyone who says other wise is a d***!

lucyloo · Answer

I don't really like the word slut, because of the way it is used. Just because you like sex doesn't make you a slut, and just because you sleep with lots of men, doesn't make you slut either. If I ever use that term, I use it to describe someone who is bending over backwards to get her claws into my man. Because, although you say you'll back off, and that's good, some girls wouldn't, they couldn't careless who they bed as long as they get theirs, and I don't believe in that. There are girls, who know the guy is with someone and will still make a play, now of course the man can say no, he's a grown up, but I'm sure you can see what I am saying.

So as long as you ain't hurting anyone then, I don't see why its a problem, and I wouldn't define you as a slut... if you want to define yourself as that, then fine.

Also remember,that other people have different views when it comes to sex, some believe it should be with a loving partner, etc.

TheMajesticSea · Answer

First of all, why are you anonymous? It's the internet girl come on. I need to add you! Or you need to add me ha ha

I agree with what several of the ladies have already said. I am very promiscuous and I have always been that way. Even when I lost my virginity, it wasn't some lovely set up with the perfect guy. I was starting to come into my own sexuality, have those horny feelings, and I wanted to get f*cked. So I did it with a friend I trusted. I see sex as kind of powerful too. The first time I saw a guy lose control when he popped it into my tight p*ssy, I knew it was going uphill from there. And quickly.

I agree also with the cheating thing. I wouldn't ever cheat on my boyfriends or girlfriends (I'm also bi!) and I haven't in the past. I'm VERY loyal to my friends, family, and romantic lovers but what guys x, y, and z choose to do with their personal lives is none of my business and I'm not going to try to take on more than I should have to. I'm not a f***ing marriage counselor to encourage you to back away from the ledge when you get the temptation to cheat. Nope. I'm the incredibly delicious thing pulling you closer to it. Whichever way you choose to go is your downfall or victory, not mine.

I love sex. I love masturbation, touching myself, getting off, having other people get me off, etc. It's one of the most amazing feelings on earth and it takes us back to our primal urges, back to nature. Don't sit here and whisper sweet nothings to me if you don't mean it and we aren't ever going to do the whole "lets love each other" thing. Just grab my hair and tell me how badly you want to rip me apart, f*** me up, use me and throw me away and then lets make magic happen. It's pretty basic actually. :)

bijinbijinbijin · Answer

I dont care, You do what you do. As long as you stay far away from my man. The thing about sluts is they do not respect other peoples relationships and they intentionally try to steal some womans man when they know very well he is taken. Sluts think of it as an ego boost or something.

vmw2008 · Answer

I struggle with this saying myself but I know it's a good one: Just do you and f*** the haters.

Sexuality is tough for women. We're told that guys want sex from us, and that they want women who love sex as well. They want women who will put out within a certain time frame or they'll leave, "witholding' sex is wrong, etc. etc. Then in the same breath they say they want a good girl, pure, virgin, legs closed until he's ready to marry her. It's quite confusing. Women's bodies are the definition of sex, yet we're ridiculed for expressing it.

Basically, do whatever you want. Everyone has an opinion and everyone thinks their opinion is right. If you're OK with yourself and what you're doing, then don't pay attention to anyone else. Some guys/girls will hate that you're like this, and some guys/girls won't care.

In my opinion, I think guys realize about 2 years into their marriage with an asexual, purity queen that they wish they'd married a girl who loved sex more lol

ionlywantyou · Answer

You're giving girls a bad rep with your slutness (if that's a word). and admitting you like being a slut is very trashy and disrespectful to you and your generation.

Always_Second_Best · Answer

First of all, I applaud you for being honest. Most people don't have the guts to be. You know who you are and except it. I'm not particularly "slutty" but I don't really mind people that are. We're all different and anyone who doesn't accept who you are is narrow minded and doesn't deserve your time.

Minxxe · Answer

this is simple: you give the rest of us a bad name.

i like sex too, but do not get used as a spunk bag by just anyone, it's degrading and there are far better things you could be doing with your body other than damaging it.

is this all you were put on this earth to do? just f***? we all like to f*** but there's no real art to it is there - sluts crave attention & spread disease as often they're ill-informed as to disease because they're too busy sticking their arses in mens faces from a young age to learn anything.

overall, you give us all a bad name.

TimeAndTimeAgain · Answer

I find your point of view extremely interesting. I fully agree with you and your beliefs. I think people who place too much importance in sex purely because of religious reasons are close-minded individuals who have been brainwashed. I can't blame them for having such small mentalities though, but it's nice to see a girl who isn't afraid to express herself as openly as you do.

If you're still around here and read this, please send me a message or add me. I would really like to ask you a few questions. =)

acubed25 · Answer

Why does liking sex and not having just one partner make you a slut? Way I see it girls should be able to enjoy sex without being demeaned for it. As long as a girl has respect for herself and her health and the health of those she sleeps with why should she feel bad about it? Sluts don't have self respect and they damn sure don't care about anyone but themselves.

To me there's one big difference between sluts and highly sexual girls: Sluts sleep with anyone without regard for who may be hurt by her actions and isn't health concious. A highly sexual girl will take care to be safe and won't sleep with just anybody. Basically a sexual girl has standards and a slut doesn't.

Mai question for you is why would you classify yourself as a slut? Don't you have any self respect?

englove369 · Answer

People have no respect for sluts because sluts have no respect for themselves.

nermalinda · Answer

I think people just talk sh*t on "sluts" to make themselves feel better about themselves by putting other people down. It's pathetic.

I hope you think of yourself as a free spirit or a libertine because that's what you are.

themastaplan · Answer

heres the problem...in society it basically goes without saying...if a girl sleeps with more than 2 guys, she's a slut...a guy can sleep with however many girls he wants and he's considered a pimp...or player, or whatever...it basically comes down to the girl having the final say in it all...who cares, people will always name call no matter what your age...just live your life and be happy with who you are...there are always haters

if you ask me...:"slut it up" all you want

toulouse · Answer

Don't know if any guys brought up the 'loose p**** ' syndrome , but I'll just add- 100 f***s is 100 f***s whether its boyfriend or random dudes- your body isn't thinking -oh wel its the same guy so stay tight. if it gets loose from ,lots of sex than you better monitor marital sex too.

I like being a "slut"! So why do people have a problem with this?

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