Getting Respect?

I don't think it quite works that way. From what I've seen, whether or not a guy respects a girl doesn't have much to do with whether or not she goes to bed with him early on or later on. And that includes oral too.

For me, if I didn't respect her in the first place, I wouldn't be getting intimate with her. And my respect for her usually has nothing to do with how fast she's willing to get naked with me.

I don't lose respect for her. If I'm willing to have sex easily, why doesn't she lose respect for me? It's silly to believe a girl that wants to get laid should lose respect for giving it up too easily, when guys do the same damn thing. If he loses respect for you because you give him head, he's not worth your time anyways.

Its easy to lose respect if you say you lost your virginity to an asshole.

In today's world...what's too easily? Same day? I think if he loves you, he's not going to lose respect. If there's no love, than yeah, it's easy to lose respect.

Personally I would be way more interested in a girl that showed me early she is willing to give head or sex and not be hung up about it. I think it's not the timing but other factors involved in determining if a girl is a slut. She just acts slutty. I've been with girls that have sex after the first night I meet them but carry plenty of dignity, etc. It was just fun. Then there is the girl I am afraid to go home with in the first place. You just get a vibe. If sex just happens, then fine. If a girl walks up to me in a bar and begs me to f**k her, no way. See the difference? It's how you carry yourself the rest of the time.

He'd still think you are a slut.

It's a fine line to walk. He will be more then happy to be on the recieving end of that but if done too early he could lose respect.

I met my husband online, and when we met in person, I probably waited about 30 minutes before I f***ed him. It was the wildest sex ever in my life up until that point. Since we had spent so many months online getting to know each other, by the time we met in person, we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. We got married three years to the date of that night that we met in person, so he must not have lost too much respect for me.

I say do what the mood provides. You are of age, if you feel that its going good enough to blow him, by all means, that's one hell of a good night kiss. Enjoy your youth!

I agree with roten27.
I think it's because if you get sexual too early guys have no reason to respect you.

He would disrespect you because he's going to think that you gave him head because he wanted you to and that you're willing to do anything he tells you to do...but you should not rush into sex stuff like giving head etc etc if you're not ready.

Listen girl...you have to live your life as you see fit. Sex is not about you giving it up, it's about 2 people sharing a physical experience. If a guy thinks you're a slut or loses respect for you for giving it up to soon, then he isn't worth the time and effort.