This is pretty weird & serious... my boyfriend won't sleep with me!

There may be a number of reasons for your boyfriend not to have sex with you. One could be that he just doesn't have the sex drive.

Another could be because he has a religious background that has been teaching him that it is bad and wrong to have sex. Sure he had sex prior to marriage with you, but I think the chemicals in our body (testosterone, etc.) will drive men and women beyond the false teaching of religions.

He may also have a lot of pressure to have sex and feel like he might not be able to perform adequately. Many times when a person lashes out about something there is an underlying reason that has nothing to do with what is presented. If he is stressed out or on some kind of medication that makes it difficult to achieve and maintain an erection then he might be making the issue about you when it is really him.

The fact that he thinks you are pervert may be because you are asking for kinky kinds of sex. I don't know, but sex only once a week, I believe, sadly is about the average in America. I read recently that men who don't have sex at least once a week face erectile dysfunction issues later in life.

You should have as much sex as you want. There is nothing wrong with having lots of sex. To me it is a way of expressing my love and passion for another person. It can also be one of the best ways to connect with another person, although, it can be used to destroy as well. It is a very powerful energy that we have.

One of the reasons I talk about for having sex before marriage is to know who you are sexually and this is a perfect example. I would talk to him and find out what is really going on for him and if you aren't satisfied with your sex life with him then maybe it is time to move on. There is absolutely nothing wrong with liking and wanting to have sex. I have sex with my partner almost once a day and sometimes more. We don't pressure each other and we don't have to ejaculate to acknowledge that we have had sex. The connection we create though is incredible.

If he gets mad at you for having this type of conversation with him then just remember it is probably his issue. Ultimately if you aren't satisfied now sexually then you will not be satisfied down the road.

I have seen this scenario written here before. Most of the time he is watching too much porn & instead of "enhancing" your sex life he is taking matters into his own hand. Now not that there is anything wrong with masturbation but if it takes away from my partners pleasure well then something has to change. Either he cuts back so he can do it with you or unfortunately you need to find another guy. I'm sorry to say I think a new gut is in order here.
Is he cheating? Possibly do you see any other signs?
Abused? Only he knows that.
Gay? Well I had a friend that was married & he left his wife because he turned out that he was gay & probably felt like he was trying not to be. I don't know what their sex life was like. Susie & I talked about it a bit but I was too afraid to ask & she didn't volunteer any of that info.
I wish that I could help more.

definitely weird hey. personally I think I will have sex everyday for the rest of my life, be it mrs palmer and her five daughters, a girl friend or a wife.

so I definitely agree with the post below, he must be getting it from elsewhere. perhaps he is sleeping with someone else, perhaps he is thinkinghe is gay? I don't know.

if he isn't romantic at all and not intimate then I am clueless.to me it seems hehas lost interest all together.

you have one thing to do and one thing alone. confront him about it and don't give up until you know you have got an honest answer. it is definitely weird for him toa ct like this.

good luck xx

either something's turning him off or he's getting satisfaction somewhere else (could be porn)

here are some possible turn-offs
- overly-drunk girl (sloshed & nasty type)
- guy always having to take the initiative (same-o same-o)
- environment (smells/location/bed/etc)
- depression in the guy
- unhappy with other aspect of the relationship

etc

if you've been together 2 years you might just have to call him on it: sit down & work out why he doesn't want to have sex

it's certainly not normal behaviour.

Have you tried talking to him about it?

He MIGHT be gay or at least have problems with his identity. Has he ever had any sort of counseling? I mean professional?

I doubt it's because of another girl. Guys just aren't like that. They're not going to be inhibited because of another girl! They might break off with you because of that, but as long as they're keeping it secret it wouldn't stop them enjoying sex with you! I think you can rule that out.

It's probably some combination of 2) and 3) but it would take either a professional or at the least some wise family member who's known him well for a long time to tell you.

Ok put it this way maybe ur pushing him a little just start slowly with romantic walks and sweet love notes then he'll know that you care and its not all bout sex these days. Just take it at his pace and you'll soon be having sex whenever you like :) Another thing is send him sexy pics on his phone or his email of you that is boung to make him a little horny and by night you should be busy ;) xox

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hhhmmm I don't know.do you always make the first move? Have you asked him what's up? Maybe you just need to talk about what you guys like and what will get that fire burning. If not I hate to be ms. negative but move on girl if he can't appreciate your sexiness and be attracted to you then its on him and he needs to come out of the closet, because there's many more men that will.good luck!

Very Strange! He is either an oddball or you are a very poor lay hon!