In my opinion she was trying to say thanks but no thanks. I think you should concentrate on someone who you don't have to "Work for" this is real life not Tila Tequila.
Ryt 1st thing is first forget about the dvd unless you no for certain she loves it and really wants it.U gotta start 2 work ur way into her social life and become closer to her. I would start with a simple txt msg. Make it as simple as possible askin how she is/how work is/what she been up to nothin excitin just 2 basically sayin hi.If she responds keep the conversation simple. A few simple conversations every few days or so will b the start. Then you need 2 invite her out not on a date I would say with a few friends all meetin up doin summit together. Make sure when you invite her you no she is free or its sumthin she won't turn down. which is were all the simple conversations come in to it. those are the ones that you find out when she's workin what's she's doin where she goes every week. When u's are out concentrate on her most of the time and when ur talkin 2 another friend catch her eye and smile or wink at her. You need 2 make her laugh as well. Keep doin this 4 a few weeks she is bound to be split from her boyfriend and by that stage u's should be closer together and social enough for you 2 ring her and ask her out just the 2 of u.
How do I do this? can someone give me examples; it sucks because I can get with other girls but I am fixated on her and her personality not just physical looks. How do I take a first step? I just got a dvd set from someone who works onthe showof thdvd and I already have it, she loves tv, so I thought I would ask her if she wants it or ask her to play tennis But Wouldn't that make me too interested and where she would be turned off because she would know I am easy to get? I really don't know. - 3 months ago
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Sometimes when the other isn't really working towards the same thing, having a relationship, a successful relationship, then you have to cut them off. Just leave her alone. You shouldn't pull and tug at someone like that, it isn't worth it. Don't try to 'win' her if it takes too much out of you to do it, unless YOU think it, meaning she, is worth all the hard work. It seems like she believes you are inferior and she is too good to even call you or set up a "play date" or whatever. - 3 months ago
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She is def. worth all the hard work. I have other girls I can be with but I think she is so sweet, gorgeous, has an allure that is unique. Should I give her that gift? She is real busy and responds eventually; but has a hardcore job, etc. I haven't asked her many times though, so it is not like she never wants to do stuff with me. She seems to spend most of her time with her close girlfriends and not even much time with her boyfriend. What do I do to establish a relationship? How doI winher - 3 months ago
How would I earn it? Not specifically, but I don't wanna be seen as a "nice guy" and be too into her. - 3 months ago
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Wait a while so that you don't seem obsessed. Then go out of your way to do stuff for her. You said you don't want to be seen as a "nice guy" (although I have no idea why), so instead find another way. Are you funny? Go out of your way to make her laugh. After you make your joke or do whatever you do, look directly at her as if to check to make sure she laughed. She will get the message. Strive for her attention without getting too in her face. Randomly smile at her. Did that help? - 3 months ago
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Thanks. I first need to get her attention again but don't know how. Like I don't know how to set up a meeting again. She has a Boyfriend and I don't want to compromise that since that is messed up, but I'm sure they are breaking up soon as she doesn't seem happy. She hasn't been too responsive or necessarily going out of her way to hang out with me since that night; however, I haven't asked her to do too much stuff since I didn't want to seem too interested. - 3 months ago
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Well if she is getting out of a bad relationship I suggest you wait until they break up. If you see her before they do or just a little after, be friendly, but don't come on to her. Because like you said, you don't want to seem too interested. After she seems to have healed from the breakup you should make your move. She was saying that she doesn't like you right now, but you have a chance. As for not knowing how to see her again consider how you know eachother. Is it through a friend? - 3 months ago
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We've known each other from middle school through tennis and it was a small school so through other stuff also and our families know each other. But she is busy and hasn't gone out of her way to hang out. I just wanna know if I have a shot and how to plan for the future so to speak; because if I have a shot I don't want to miss out and someone else go for her since she is really desirable. I want o put myself in a good position so she is interested eventually. I can get with other girls but. - 3 months ago
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Ok. She would not have said that you needed to earn it if you didn't have a shot. She would have simply rejected you. She hasn't gone out of her way to hang out because she doesn't like you YET. If you have her number send her a friendly text message. Try to get a conversation going and see where that takes you. - 3 months ago
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Can someone give me specific examples of what to do or any tips? I want to be careful wit h this. I need to impress her. Should I give her a dvd set I was given to break the ice? I have the same set and someone related to the show gave it to me and she loves TV. Or is that too nice? What type of conversations should I be starting with her? - 3 months ago
It's simple you gotta make her want u. You gotta make her see you in a boyfriend type way and not just friends. She wants you 2 sweep her off her feet impress her loads and really get her attention don't ask me how you gonna do it because I have no clue u'll probably have 2 work that out 4 yourself
How do I sweep her off her feet and impress her? Anyone have any ideas or general things? What types of conversations should I be having? Doesn't this come across as being the "nice guy" and not exciting, etc.? Girls seem to not like too much attention at first and want someone that is more aloof. - 3 months ago
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