Does that make me a lesbian??

Well, I personally believe, that everyone is bisexual to an extent, even though a lot of the time our attraction to our own gender is so slight homophobia cancels it out, or the attraction to the opposite gender is so slight that, some kind of negative experience with the opposite gender makes us unable to hold a relationship with people of the opposite gender, I am a heterosexual but honestly guys that are somewhat feminine looking I find myself slightly attracted to. And also to an extent, sexual pleasure is sexual pleasure, regardless of who it comes from, which is why you would enjoy the sex, and probably the messed up relationships with guys probably just makes you want to find someone that loves you, and since you have probably lost some trust in guys, is probably what makes you seek love from another girl.

okay, you've posted a picture of your self as a very attractive, sexy lady and then your telling a story of lesbian discovery? Is this a wind-up?

To give you the benefit of doubt.……….

Does that make me a lesbian?
I think only you can label your own sexuality, be it lesbian, hetro, bi, a-sexual, etc You clearly do like this girl but you'll need more time, more experience, before you can be ready to describe or label your own sexuality.

Does it matter that she is a girl?
No

What does this mean for my sexuality?
You've found out something surprising about your self. And congratulation because that doesn't happen everyday. It’s way too early to know what it will mean for you, so just go along for the ride.

Footnote:
This happened to a 24 years old friend of mine. Exact same story. Gay friend introduced her to a lesbian. She had a 4-month affaire, but we never meet her new girl friend. After it ended she went straight back to men again, be that for whatever reason. She could be bi but there are load more straight guys than lesbian women; or maybe so only like the one girl; or maybe she just want to try. Human sexuality is complicated. Who knows?

As long as you're happy.

I read your bio before deciding to answer. You mentioned that you have 2 kids.
My answer to your question is WHO CARES IF YOU R BI. or not


I was once a single mom with 2 small children to raise. And if I could offer anyone advise. Especially single moms.
It would be to focus on your children! Set a good example for your kids. They look at you for an example on how to live their life's. They are only little once. THEY NEED YOU!
Looking back, I wish I had never exposed my kids to anyone I dated. (I had a knack for picking real losers) The choices you make now will affect your kids for the rest of their lives!

I wish you the best!

kelley

its just that one girl. trust me. my mom, yes, out of all people, is like you. she's with a woman, but I asked her if she would be with another woman, and she said hell no! so its just that girl and your a lesbian for her
^_^

1. Does it matter that she is a girl? : No

2. What does this mean for my sexuality? : I guess you just like what you like, no matter what the sexuality of the other partner is.

You can't change who you fall in love with. You can't fight it. You obviously love of because of her ways, her character, her personality, and not neccessarily for what she's got in her pants.

What does it matter really? I hate how people label and pigeon hole themselves and others. Sexuality is fluid for you it seems. Which is fine. Why label yourself. All that matters if that you love her and are with her. So enjoy and have fun. I would label you as bi-sexual.