Don't Know What To Do?

Black, white, it shouldn't matter. I would leave that issue out.

Now, not to play parents advocate, but think from your parent's point of view.

1) One, you said he was a "friend." Do you honestly know him well enough? Or is it a "friend" as in just above "myspace friend?" Would he be around if you got pregnant? Does he have any STD's? Was he even your boyfriend? The love reason is important to sex.

2) You're not married; depending on the way your folks raised you or were raised themselves, this can be a big issue, and one that, while often dismissed, is still important to them.

3) They're probably paying for your education.

4) They don't want to think of you as a sexual person. Now, that issue has got to be cleared with them. Sometimes this stuff will happen

It IS a big deal. Someone, a member of your family, is now seen in a different light. I remember how gross it was when I was in sex ed class and first thought of my parents doing that, and they were married.

5) Sex IS supposed to be a private matter, between two consenting adults. Putting it out in the living room or kitchen or makes a very private matter run the risk of becoming a lot more public.
Wouldn't it be embarrassing or weird if you came home from a movie and saw your mom and dad going at it right in front of you?

6) Yes, you're an adult.

When I went to community college as an adult, I was paying for only some classes, I wasn't paying rent, and I had little money. I was in a situation where it would have been almost impossible for me to get a decent apartment. I was legally an adult, but responsibility and support, not much of one. So, I had my parents help (finance) so that I could improve my future. My job was my education. Not girlfriends, or improving my sex skills.

7) It's probably going to seem disrespectful to them to have it in their house.

What if you thought your parents went into your room and did it on your bed? Eww. I'd be grossed out and feel a little violated. That's MY bed. What kind of stuff is now in my bed, where I sleep?

I'm not trying to scold you, but have to be more careful next time; If you do it again, you've got to do this where no one can catch you, (his place) or no one is likely to tell your folks.

You've also got to be aware that there can be consequences to any action you take (whether it's STD's, or your dad kicking you out of the house), and you have to "roll with them" with maturity and responsibility.

I would consider telling your brother to hold off on telling them until you can tell them yourself (THAT NIGHT).

Now, depending on who is the most mature and reasonable of your parents, (I would assume it's your mom in this case), you might talk to her (in private) first. She might know how to handle the situation with your father the best, or at least cushion the blow this is going to have. Sit her down and talk reasonably. The more reasonable and less angry you get, the easier it will seem.

Good luck.

Hmmm, you really didn't do anything wrong. Getting caught by these other people is a bummer and the mother's reaction was a bit harsh.

I'm not sure if you need to come clean with your parents when they get home, but if you really think that they will be told by brother or others then it may be a good idea to do so before they do.

Your parents will definately want to know who (it's a parent thing) and you are not under any obligation to disclose the details. Lets face it, you got walked in on and it's a pretty embarrassing happening but it's not the end of the world. Do your parents know you're sexually active? At your age, I would think so, therefore it's not an abomination but perhaps you should have used better judgment if the possibility of someone walking in could happen (as it did). Your parents are definately going to hit you with that one.

Good luck.

Prepare yourself. I know it's their house but / you are a bit older not like you are 16.
You know that something IS going to be said.
Your not ashamed that he was black so I guess that you will just have to get that point across.

First of all the friends mother is pretty uptight and probably wishes she could again have fun sexually. Many people who are the most adamant about being against something I think really are just jealous. If she was upset because he was black then she is just a racist and should be ignored.

As for your parents you might want to pull your mother aside and tell her what happened. She will know best how to deal with your father, but I think the last thing you want to do is have it hanging over your head. Your brother or someone else will always have that as leverage against you and you will always be looking over your shoulder, so to speak, to make sure nothing is said.

The fact is that you are an adult. Yes, you are still living under your parents roof and there are certain rules that you should probably follow, but you are a young woman who is experimenting with her sexuality. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you did other than probably not having appropriate protection (just a guess).

thats not cool. you should of locked the door! dork. just let it cool off first. don't come and talk to them, let them talk to you. I don't think you really did anything wrong, sex it natural. I think if they had a problem with the guy being black, then that's on them.