How can I keep myself from doing it?

I guess the bigger question is "Why are you waiting?" Sex is a natural part of life. Denying that is just denying a fundamental aspect of being human. Furthermore, by waiting you only delay finding out if you and your partner are sexually compatible. Why would someone want to risk finding out something so critical on their wedding night? Similarly, it's like finding out the person you just married isn't someone you can live with. Well once you're married it's too late to change anything. Helloooo? Talk about your boneheaded decisions. And for what? Religion?

I'm not sure I can understand why waiting will be worth it, but that is your decision not mine. I look at it as an orgasm missed can never be retrieved. None of the females on here who advocate how wonderful it is too wait have ever related what the wonderful part was. I guess it is one of those things more easily understood by girls. I'm thinking, by waiting you can possibly enjoy the pain of first time sex on your wedding day. First time sex is usually not a pleasant experience, at least not for the female. You will miss how ever many orgasms you might of otherwise enjoyed between now and wedding day. Well none of that is helpful to your question, but I do have a suggestion. You and fiancé might try mutual masturbation. At least you can be sexually satisfied that way and still keep your ---------intact.

Why would you have a boyfriend? You're just teasing him.

youre 13 you don't love him

Say a prayer,look at your ring & remember your vow.
Talk to you boyfriend & show him the ring and tell him about the vow that you made.
You are right life is full of temptations. Be strong. What's right for other people doesn't mean that is right for you.

You should probably talk to him about it. If you've already done that, try and ask him to help you out. I'm sure he would want to help you keep such a big promise. It's just a matter of trust, though you don't trust yourself. If he's able to control himself, which may be a little hard, he should be able to help you with it. I know how big of a deal the 'true love waits' thing is to you and how much it means to you.

Yeah, this urge that you get of being around him is natural. Scientifically approached, humans and all other species of animals are meant to reproduce - survival of the fittest. It's a natural human instinct to make life. It's especially going to be stronger later in life as you approach the point where you will no longer be able to have children; a maternal instinct because naturally, women want to have a baby before it's too late.

You just have to think through all the hormones and think with your heart more than your mind or body. It's tough, but you can do it.

oral. if you don't think that's the same.

or get him to finger you.
and you could give him a HJ.

"I now even have a hard time going places with him because I don't trust my self." This is wise. If you truly want to save your virginity, you will have to be aware of the places you go and time you spend with your boyfriend. I'm sure you've heard all the don't hang out at night, alone. always be with people, in a crowd advice. It will help you stay pure.

True Love Waits is not about denying yourself a pleasure, but saving it for the time when it can be fully enjoyed. Virginity is not a cumbersome weight to be lost, but a priceless treasure to bestow on one who is worthy. You can hear stories all over the world of the consequences of sex outside of marriage. They're not good, STDs and more.

Saving yourself for marriage will be a tribute to your ability to be trusted and remain faithful in marriage. If your husband can trust you before he's even met you, how much does that say for your character!

God designed One man and One woman for a sexual relationship. His design for sex was with your life-long marriage partner. I have discovered that obeying God's design will Always reap positive benefits, while going against will always reap negative consequences.

From your question it sound like may be a Christian? "I made a promise to. God." As a Christian we are commanded to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind, & strength. When you love someone you listen to their every wish. (Right?) If you don't care about a person, you don't respect or listen to their likes and dislikes. Strive to put loving God first, and as you love Him more, temptations will be less alluring. It will still be a struggle, but nurturing a love for Him will be the best (possibly only) way to stay pure.

i thinks that's so great! and honestly I'm 14 almost 15 and have really been wanting to get one too!
But just like go with friends or have one friend who knows how you feel and will help you along. And make sure your boyfriend is comitted to it to, or at least understands.
If he loves you, he'll wait so if you get an urge he can stop you, it's part him too.

i know when I was younger I said I would wait til I was married to have sex, but at 18 I met and fell in love with a guy and found myself really wanting to have sex so I did, and I think I made a really good choice in losing my virginity. we are talking about getting married now and I'm going to marry him because I love him and want to be with him not because I just can't wait any longer to have sex. there are too many 18/19 year olds that are getting married right out of high school because they want to have sex and feel like its wrong for them to do it without getting married. as long as your safe and use protection, sex isn't bad. I personally think that it is kind of sad that you feel guilty about wanting to have sex. do you seriously think god is gonna be like hey you can't come to heaven because you had sex? if its something you feel ready to do and and you really want to do, then why not?

Hun. don't listen to everyone who is saying that ur teasing him and stuff. really. I know the feeling of not wanting to do it. and the goal of waiting is a good thing. just remind yourself of how much more amazing it will be when you do have it. and what John-Bee said is a great way. stay strong hun. you can make it!

I wish I knew. I'm afraid I might lose it before marriage and wish their was some guarantied way not to and still be with the person I love.

Good luck. I hope I can be in your shoes in two years. (still never having done it) How long have you been with your fiancé?

hey there. I've been exactly where you are. I made the commitment, have the ring, etc. and never had a problem with it until.brad. it had always been so easy for me to avoid having sex, simply because there was no guy who struck my interest (i'm kinda picky). but then I brad last summer, and the chemistry was incredible. I struggled with it for a while, and finally decided that I was going to stick with my decision. despite what I felt for him and how strong those feelings were, I knew in my heart that waiting would be well worth it.

things with this 'perfect guy' ended shortly after, but he still has respect for me because I didn't give in. if I wanted to get back together with him, I could. not having sex with him gave me the upper-hand in the relationship.

i have seen far too many of my friends self-destruct after breakups in relationships that included sex. I have never seen sex benefit a relationship, unless in the context of marriage---no matter what people want you to believe. there is too much to lose over some guy, especially at age 17. if your boyfriend truly does love you, he won't expect you to break an important commitment you made with God and with yourself. he'll respect that. if he doesn't, then I am certain there is a much better guy out there for you.

i don't want to tell you what to do, and I think you know what your heart feels is right, or you probably wouldn't be asking this question. you've already come this far, why not just wait a little longer?

(i'm 21 and very happy with my decision. I'm not saying all this because I didn't have the opportunity.trust me, I've had plenty of men in my life. but I am one of very few people I know that hasn't had a broken heart and dealt with all the stress and drama sex brings. even when people comment on my virginity, I just remember that at any moment I could choose to be like them (and have sex), but they can never go back and be like me [or you :) ]

hahah sorry this answer is so long, I'm just passionate about this subject!