my boyfriend has had sex before with previous girlfriends, but I'm still a virgin and very inexperienced. I know that it bothers him sometimes how little I'm willing to do just because it makes me uncomfortable.
So here's my question for the guys-how big of an issue is it to be in a relationship with a girl who isn't ready and has no idea how long it will be until she is ready to have sex?
As long as there is love, I don't see why love has to be one big issue. If you don't feel like giving it up just yet, you don't have to. If he forces you to do something, he's not the one you are after. If he loves you, he will accept your choice whatever it is.
Been there done that. about 8 years ago. Still with the gal now. Just had to wait. Tell you what though, when the gates opened the water came flooding in. I remember being round a friends house 2 days later and practice being spoon feed sugar, I was so tired. At the time may attitude was lets have sex, it'll be fun. but she wanted to wait. when she finally did give in it was total random. I kept condom in my room just in case she felt like. that day she just came across them and for that reason alone decided it was the night. Should probably say that was 2.5 months in. I think she's probably embarrassed about waiting so long now, but that's all water under the bridge, you cant/shouldnt force anyone into anything.
so final advice. go at your own pace, the pace that your comfortable with. if your boyfriend not happy with that, then he isn't the man for you.
It has been a while since I dated a virgin. Still, he should be willing to wait as long as it takes if he cares. On the other hand, if the only reason for waiting is being uncomfortable, that probably isn't going to change until after you have your "first time". How little are you willing to do? Kissing? Playing or touching? Or do you do things that allow him to "finish"? A relationship has to progress sexually as well as emotionally. You don't have to give it up, but a little bit of experimentation is a good thing, hun. If the inexperience is a big thing to you. I am sure any guy, including you're bf, will be willing to show you the ropes and take his time to help you be more comfortable with anything you are willing to try.
That is THE RELATIONSHIP! If he doesn't understand or can't be patient well then how much does he really love you? PLEASE move at your own pace. We all have our own speed & comfort zone. DO NOT let him pressure you into anything. Just be sure before you give up your "V" card. There is no timetable for this. Honestly think this through.
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