So as I have said before half of the stuff me and my boyfriend have done I have never done before. Therefore, he has experience. Now to me he just didn't seem like the type of guy who has done any of that kind of stuff before with other girls. My mind just wanders to where he got his experience and sometimes it makes me upset that I'm not the first girl he's done stuff to/with. Does that make me a bad girlfriend? It doesn't get me upset to the point of where I won't talk to him and it doesn't get in the way of our foreplay, but I was just wondering if other girls had/have this problem.
The majority of guys get their experience from talking BS with other guys and watching porn. The "stuff" he's doing with you may be for the first time. Don't read anything into it. Even if he got the experience from being with other girls, remember that he's with you now and using all that experience to make things pleasurable for you. Enjoy.
That feeling is totally normal. I can completely understanding wishing your boyfriend or girlfriend would be as inexperienced as you. Definitely don't feel ashamed of it, and I'm also happy you don't let the jealousy interfere with your current relationship.
I'd like to meet a girl who's a lot like me experience wise too.
I have felt that way before too, sometimes a guy I was with used to make comments about things that he'd done and I wasn't sure what I was supposed to say. I really would have preferred that he had just not talked about his exes at all, especially how he used to have sex with them. It is a normal feeling to be a little bit jealous and a little nervous. Jealousy because you are thinking of who else he was with, and nervousness because you have not done these things before. If he already knows he is more experienced than you, then he probably understands that you haven't done all this before and should help you feel more comfortable about trying things for the first time.
Another possibility is that he learned some of his moves from porn. It's a good way to get an idea of how things might go without every having to try them out first. Has he told you that he learned these moves from being with other girls? It's possible that he's just creative and well informed. There is plenty of information on the internet about positions and tips for making sex better.
In any case, it does not make you a bad girlfriend for feeling that way. I think it would be a good idea to talk to him about it though, if he doesn't already know that you are feeling a little shy/nervous due to the experience difference. Or just flat out tell him that you want to know more about how or where he learned this stuff. If you phrase it like a compliment, then he may be more likely to tell you since he will like your enthusiasm.
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