My boyfriend and I have been going out for an extremely long time (about a year, now), and we're both 16. However, we've never done anything sexually.
I don't want him to finger me/eat me out before we have sex, because sex is generally better to be gossiped about (nothing about smelling fingers!) and I don't have any clue how to give a handjob/blowjob. So, in short, I want to just skip the foreplay and have sex with him.
We only ever hang out on weekends, generally late at night. and usually outside, rarely ever at someone's house.
So, my question, is how do I make a move, what positions, etc. Basically, I just need someone to clue me in.
You say you're both sixteen, but list yourself as 18-24 in the age of your profile, which is confusing.
#1, don't be in such a rush to have sex due to the obvious societal pressures to do so. Intercourse is vastly over-rated. Sex isn't about having intercourse. sticking tab A into slot B, and no matter how many positions you know, it'll get dull after awhile if intercourse is your only thing. If you're going to go as far as intercourse, explore some other things first, such as things that won't risk you're getting pregnant. Oral sex is a perfectly reasonable substitute for intercourse. In fact, if more young people stuck to something like oral, we wouldn't have all these teen pregnancy problems. Then again, if more young people were more interested in just being themselves instead of having to find merit in their lives through being part of some group, maybe young people wouldn't be in such a hurry to have intercourse. The only reasons you want to have intercourse seem to be to have something juicy to gossip about, and because you want to be part of a group of others who are doing the same thing for the same reasons - neither of which is a good reason to be having intercourse - especially if you're both sixteen.
Slow it down and don't have intercourse for the wrong reasons. There's nothing special about how to give a blowjob. The goal's just to make one another feel good. There's no real right or wrong way to do it, and anyone who says otherwise doesn't know what they're talking about. Just focus on being yourselves, make one another feel good, and quit worrying about whether you're doing something right or wrong. I guarantee you none of your peers know any more or less about it than you do, so just focus on yourselves and forget the crowd. Your boyfriend most likely masturbates, so get him to show you how he holds his penis, how he stimulates it, as a starting point for a blowjob. If the two of you can't do this, then you certainly have no business having intercourse. Likewise, if you masturbate, take him on a little guided tour of your intimate region and guide him. Like I said, if the two of you can't do this, you certainly shouldn't be having intercourse.
I know that this is NOT the answer that you are looking for BUT,I think that I would stick to the foreplay that you mentioned that you don't like or want to do. Wait a bit on going straight to intercourse. Part of having sex IS being warmed up & lubricated by foreplay. You are missing out on a BIG part of the relationship by skipping foreplay.
you don't have to actually give him a blowjob just tell him how you feel about it and maybe both of you can think about it what's suitable for both of you and trust me you will be fine