okay lets face I am a huge feminist. Every since I was a 5 years old I use to battle my brothers at wrestling just to prove I was a good as them. And it pisses me off a lil, when I here so many times that women aren't built to have sex with more than one guy. When men tell me this it makes me mad, let me tell you why. Because I refuse to beleive that becasue I am a woman I can not be open with my sexual desires, and if I do I am a slut. Guys keep telling me this, and I read it a lot on this website. But exactly why do you think this way? I am very opinionate even though I am quite quiet but , it makes me mad when men and WOMEN say " women can't have sex without string attached". I have seen it down many times. And I have actually don't it before. I was horny, hadn't had any in a while, I came to the guys house , had sex, and was out before he got out the shower to look for me. I had no feelings for this man. i am just confused on why people think this way. I mean other than imaginary rules made up by society is there any proof that NO woman can have meaningless sex, and still feel good about herself? is there any proof that NO woman can have sex with no strings attached? please inform me because I am confused and kinda pissed lol
Update: I WANT HARD COLD FACT, RESEARCH FINDINGS, .NOT THEORIES AND STEREOTYPES.if someone can provide this information, I would never ask this question again
3 months ago
I didn't realize promiscuity correlated with feminism. I always thought feminists were women that thought they were better than men, hence they don't need a man at all. And if you don't need a man, why would be having sex with men.
I don't think you are a feminst. You're just a woman that enjoys sex. As far as you beating up your brothers and stuff to prove you were just as good as them, that seems like self-convincing tactics. People that don't believe in something, but aren't convinced they can do it will often put themselves into situations to try and prove it to themselves. For example, people that are afraid of commitments will often get into as many relationships as possible just to break up to prove to themselves they can't be in a committed relationship. People who are afraid of marriage will often hang out with a lot of married couples and focus on their negative behaviors as a way to convince themselves marriage is wrong, etc.
If you are the strong woman you say you are, you should have no problem with what other people think of you. I don't see anything wrong with your behavior. But you do seem kind of needy for approval of being a "strong woman". Strong people don't need approaval or praise. They just are strong themselves.
And it is scientifcally proven that women CAN be with more than one man at a time. That is why human females have evolved to have hidden menstruations. Human females used to have fertility signals like apes and cats do with they are in heat, but over time adapted to hide their menstruation. Women hide it so they can be with multiple men while still being with a long term partner, and hiding their infidelity from them at the same time. It is also why men have to "court" women because they know if a baby comes out there is always a possibility it is another man's. So treating a woman like a queen and nicely will conivince them to stay loyal, but those that do are usually the weakest men out there, because they know they hae no shot against the strong men so they need to use nice tactics to manipulate the women. Read the Red Queen Theory by Matt Ridley or Sperm Wars by Dr. Robin Baker for more on this.
Relax baby. The only person's opinion that matters is your own.
The Dark Side of Man, and All Men are Jerks Unless Proven Otherwise are two books that review the double standard. The Journal of Sex Research (Nov. 1999) also has a good article on this issue.
You may not like it but it exists. Perhaps it will change with time.
I don't know, lots of girls I know have had meaningless sex with me, lol. Its just a view in society that hasn't caught up to the fact that pretty much 90 percent of us are sluts. Men and women alike. The reason that women who screw with no strings are called sluts, well, is because that's what they are. What you should be mad about is that men get away with it. Hey, I'm a guy, I should be the one whose pissed here! I'm a slut, damn it, I want recognition! lol
WHAT DO WE WANT?!? GUYS CALLED SLUTS!!! WHEN DO WE WANT IT IT?!? NOW!!!! ect ect ect. Hey, guys , come on, lets burn our boxers and march on capital hill! - 3 months ago
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