Hookups turning into relationships?

nothing wrong with a hookup.1 time or 5 times with the same person.who cares once you are safe and enjoying yourself.if you don;t want more from the guy after the time.tell him straight that that's all you were looking for.some fun and that's it.be in control.

Some people are looking for sex. That is good and honorable as long as they play it straight (many, however, feel they have to do the "love and marriage dance" despite having no interest in either). Most people aren't going to be long term relationships but you don't know that till after you try.

As for do they work out? My fifteen year wedding anniversary with my favorite f*** buddy was yesterday.

Best way for a woman to gain a serious relationship with me personally is sex right off the bat, particularly if we know each other. Note that I say this only for me and not for men in general. Why? The simple fact that MOST women would prefer sex with a taller, younger and better looking guy. Therefore, if a woman I know chooses me and not someone else, this must mean a good thing. What happens the next morning is I will value her choice and will do what I can short of a shotgun to her head to keep her for a very meaningful if not overnight relationship.

Sex changes things but if you allow it to make things complicated, then it will. Best way to deal with this is downright straightforward communication. Let him know your feelings and make him reveal his. If not, find someone with a bit more maturity.not necessarily in age either but an older person does help.

Hope this helps.

Ah, this is exactly what I was talking about in a previous post.

Like Elle, said though, you are hooking up with some bitch ass dudes. It's usually the other way around in my experiences. Girl and guy hook up, then the girl gets awkward and doesn't want to be a slut used for a one night stand then pursues the guy for a relationship.

I hate that phrase so much. Hook up. Motha f***in kids.

Its gotta be that your an aggressive female lol. A lot of guys don't like it when the girl is. more outgoing or equally as outgoing as he is. A lot of guys see it as the guy is on top, the girl is on the bottom. There aren't a lot of "alpha females" out there, so we don't know how to handle them that well.

My moms like you, and so its my grandma and most of my female cousins, so I think I know what your talking about @.@.


Try to giggle more, talk less, smile more, almost, try to behave shy XD. Or, if you really wanna give him a good scare, tell him during the date: "Man, your usually the talkative one but around me you seem kind of awkward."

What do you specifically mean by hook up? A date or sex? So when you say after I hook up with a guy? What does that mean? That you went on a date, or that you had a night of making out? If it's the latter, of course he is going to be awkward cause all he was interested was in a physical relationship; after that happens, he is awkward cause is not like he wants to have a committed relationship.anyway, that's assuming if you mean hookup as being a physical type of affair.

Theres just no getting around it. Sex changes things. Have you ever seen the Sienfeld episode where he and Elain decide that they both need sex and they are good friends so there is no reason that can't "do that. and still have this" meaning have meaningless sex and still be good friends. So they set up a bunch of rules, like its ok not to sleep over.etc. well it screws up their friendship, because Sexy changes things. Its the highest level of intimacy and you alway see the person differently after that. You never know if there is an expectation afterwards or if its just cool. so it gets. awkward!

Don't care what anyone thinks of you do what you want! I'm not sure what you meant by hook-up but those guys are young and have no clue how to handle a woman IMO, Have fun and be yourself and you are not a slut and never will be , that is just a stereotype to keep women in their place.

I think if a guy doesn't have to work to pursue you before getting you in bed, he won't be interested in you for very long.

your getting with the wrong guys, you need a tough guy that can handle you. but as far as a hook up turning into a relationship, they never work out. unless you've known him for 5+ years. he already got what he wanted.