Well, today in school, my good friend Claire was sitting next to this guy and me. She smiled at me and I smiled at her back. Then I noticed the boy next to hers, hand on her leg. She closed her eyes, while his hand traveled up her skirt, so I kicked him with mighty force. He was so close to her vagina it was not even funny. She just allowed him to do that? Now its really hard to even talk, nor look at my friend. Just of the thought of thinking of her as a slut. Any advice that can help me and Claire through this situation?
Don't be so judgmental. Are you a true friend or a fair weather friend? Remember, we are all a product of our life experiences. We all have different likes, dislikes, sexual preferences, and sexual drives. You don't have to agree with or condone her actions but you do have to accept her for who she is. Tell her you love and care about her and you are afraid that she will be labeled a slut. Let her know you think highly of her and think she is too good a person to be treated like that. But in the end, if you are a real friend, you will express your feelings for her actions but support her for all the other good things that make you friends. Good Luck.
My first question for you is .why does your age say 18-24, but you are talking about you and your girlfriend in school? HMMMMM.
Second.not a question, but a comment. Slut is a harsh word. Claire might being going through what might be "fear curiousity". She is too nervous and scared to say no.but she is also too excited to say no. It doesn't make her a slut.maybe a little feeling up is as far as she has taken it. The only problem with this.and I warn you both of you.is that it won't stop here. A boy that is allowed to touch there, will eventually want to go much farther than that. TRUST ME!.
But my suggestion for you is this. Rather than going off and calling your best friend a slut, why don't you just do what friends are supposed to do, and talk to her. I don't know if you realize how hateful you sound, but geez, give the girl a break and be a friend already.
Number one school=college. Number two, I was just asking if she sounded like a slut? Number three what if you were a girl and you saw your best friend being touched by a boy innocently. Your saying you would just stand there? And have your friend say to you why didn't you stop him you bitch! Number 4: I'm sorry if I offended you in anyway jeez? - 3 months ago
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You didn't offend...and I'm sorry if I came off offensively myself. Maybe she didn't mind is all I was saying. There must have been a reason she was allowing the guy to slide his hand up her thigh. I just suggest talking to her...there might be things about her you just don't know yet. I really did sound harsh in my comments...sorry about that. - 3 months ago
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Aw Your sweet <3 I'm sorry to! And to my friend! Thank you for even taking the time to answer! :] - 3 months ago
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If I can ask...why does it bother you so much that she was allowing a guy to be so affectionate with her...not that it is okay...but it is not that it is unheard of in today's world. I'm proud that you are so concerned for your friend. - 3 months ago
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Its only because of my past, you know how something happens to you and you just don't ever want it to happen to anyone else. A boy tryed to get me pregnant once, and I didn't even like him at all. It was more of him pinning me down on a car drive home. That's really why I'm just so concerned for my friend. I just don't want her in that uncomfortable situation as I was. I know I must let go of my past. Its tough though. - 3 months ago
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Our past is what makes us who we are. Never let go of it...learn from it. But at the same time..don't all your past to leave you scarred and wounded. There is nothing wrong with being a little protected of your friends. That is what friends are supposed to be there for. Like I said earlier. Just talk to her. - 3 months ago
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Thank you for being truly honest If you got a rating of 1 through 10. I'd give you a 100! Great advice <3 - 3 months ago
She could go to college.. do they have college from where ur from??? sooo obvious - 3 months ago
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What did Claire say? It's her business not yours! Maybe she had her eyes closed because she was enjoying it. Just like when you kiss you usually close your eyes.
Claire said she just couldn't make him stop, yet she thanked me, only because she doesn't want to seem available for guys to touch her at any moment they wish. I was only trying to help :[ - 3 months ago
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Well then that's different. Claire need to be more aggressive & use the word NO!! Stand up at just start yelling NO!! She is your friend no matter what. Talk with her & tell her she needs to just start yelling NO at him & punch him or whatever it takes. Who turns out to be the bad guy here? He does because he is. Like you said she MUST take a stand so that others don't think that they can freely try anything with her. She can also tell him the next time she will report him. This is serious. - 3 months ago
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Your answer is much kinder then the one above, thank you for your time :D. - 3 months ago
Most girls know when somebody has his hand under her skirt. Most guys will take the hint when she pulls his hand away and puts it into his own lap.
The odds are that she liked what he was doing. Just because she likes it when one guy feels up her skirt doesn't mean that she can't be your friend. Just maybe not your lover.
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