Try this. Place a pillow under you back (if doing missionary position) as this will inadvertently change the angle of entry for him but most importantly allows for greater clitoral stimulations during sex. The next is for you to go on top and actually control the movement and how deep he goes in.
I don't know what you've already tried, but you probably need some additional clitoral stimulation aside from just penetration e.g. your (or his) fingers or a vibrator. Give it a shot. And relax.
Here is the deal, don't think about orgasm just enjoy the feeling and it will come (no pun intended) Can you orgasm if he goes down on you ? I had a girlfriend who had the same problem we cured it by me sitting up and lightly rubbing her clit with my thumb while I was inside her it didn't take long and BAM!!! she was there. After that it was no problem for her in any position it's all a mind and body issue. Good luck
Also, if you're 'new' to sex, it takes some time to 'learn' how to orgasm during sex as well. Different movements trigger reactions from different nerves, plus you may not be used to something that big inside you - so you're going to have to overcome the pain first, to an extent anyways, before you can truly orgasm.
It could also be that your partner just isn't doing things that would make you orgasm - different movements, motions, etc work for different people. If he's 'experienced' he can't expect to bring his same moves to bed with you that he did with some other girl - odds are, it's just not going to work. You two are going to have to figure out what works best for you both mutually and be vocal about it - maybe express that you want to try 'something different'. It'll be a case of experimenting but hopefully you'll find something that you enjoy.
Roaster gives really good advice. It is a lot easier to climax if you are on top and in control, and if not, a pillow under your lower back in missionary changes the tilt of your hips. Play around with the pillow a little until you're getting more clitoral stimulation!
Also, STOP ACTING! Pretending you are having orgasms is not going to be very conductive to experimentation and getting real ones.
I didn't orgasm for the longest time with my boyfriend..like months after we started having sex..but I will tell I had my fist one just like two weeks ago and it was amazing. my friend had tried tellin me it just takes time. And the truth is, most women WON'T have an O 90% of the time during sex. and utopus is right tho..fool around a lil more and get riled up. it will help if you have more clit action. But make sure your doing this with someone that you truly love and want them to experience this side of you. its a very special thing.
I act too!!! I have a great time, but I have so far NEVER orgasmed during sex, it sucks!! I'm pretty sure we have tried everything! I think I'm thinking too much about it during sex, I just have to stop thinking and try to get into that horny state of mind, you should too!
You cannot make an orgasm happen (unless you masturbate). You have to let it happen. I was like you before not being able to have an orgasm. You have to experiment with different positions. Foreplay is key part in all of this. It takes us longer to have an orgasm then guys. Your guy better be able to stand up time.
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I don't really use a "pickup line." Usually I will just ask them something basic relating to a common situation (if we're at a party, we're co-workers, etc.), and then hopefully steer it into a conversation where I can ask about them, learn about them, hopefully throw in a few jokes here and there. Past that, though, I don't always follow through, which is where I struggle.
How do they typically respond?
Usually pretty well, the interaction is more friendly than anything, so there isn't much pursued past that point. I feel good about my initial approach, I guess it's 'closing the deal' that I'm not good with.