I have seen so any cases of infidelity lately that it is getting harder to get use to the idea of getting married someday. I was cheated before and I have never understand the urge for married people to be unfaithful. If you don't love the person why don't just leave that him/her and if you do how could you love a person and go and have sex with someone else even if it is just sex the fact that you are doing it could hurt that one next to you.
Ladies and Gentlemen Why do you cheat? Have you been cheated? Just curiosity.
Update: These is great information! WOW know lets add a twist to it. Last week I slept with a married man. He was older than me but I have to say it is one of the best sex I have ever had in my life. I gave him hours of passion. Does that make me a bad person?
2 months ago
Update: So based on the answers should I get mad if a guy cheat on me? Should I just let it go? The sex was amazing, but I told these guy I feel guilty about it and that there will be no 2 time.
2 months ago
It is up to the person who made the deal to honor the deal. You have no accountability for someone else's marriage (though be advised that not everyone feels that way). You didn't make the deal and it is not yours to honor. In fact, I see a lot of people abusing the social convention that you don't sleep with married people. They decide they have the market on sex locked up and use denial of sex as a weapon, a punishment or they just don't feel like f***ing their spouse anymore. Despite denying their partner sex, they want to talk shit about anyone else who might take pity on the poor sod. I think you do have a responsibility to give notice that you aren't honoring the deal anymore.
Cheating is about breaking a deal and I think you should take that as a problem. I think sex is a separate subject. If you are ok with non-monogamy, set it up at the beginning of the relationship including 1. Disclosure of partners 2. Safer sex principles 3. Testing protocols 4. Veto rights (people you are not ok with them f***ing like your siblings, hated rival or ex-partners.
Breaking a rule of non-monogamy is cheating just the same as breaking a monogamy agreement.
And read "The Ethical Slut" by Catherine Liszt and Dossie Easton.
Your question and update seem to contradict themselves. Your question seems more condemning and yet your update shows that you are guilty of sex with a married man. You can't just blame the man for cheating if you know the man is married. Shouldn't there be some sort of code among women to stay away from each others husbands?
So you see my issue. I thougth I will never be capable of such thing but I did it anyway! I have never cheated a guy, but I had sex with a married man while been single. I agree I as guilty as him, I wanted a good time and not been emotionaly attached and I could have done that with a single guy but I sleep with a married one (first time ever). Yes there is a untold code of staying away of married guys and I cross the line. I just want to underestand the reason behind why cheating? - 2 months ago
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We think with our peckers...and believe it or not...men need to feel wanted and desired just like a woman does. If he is not getting that at home...even if he still loves his wife, he still wants that passion and that feeling of wanting. If a woman comes along and shows that to him, it is really hard to pass up. - 2 months ago
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R you married? - 2 months ago
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Yeah...I'm married. Would have never thought that I was the type to cheat, but then I got in a marriage without sex. Now I think I could seperate the two...not saying it is right, just saying that if I ever did, it would be for the sex probably...nothing else. - 2 months ago
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I've been married for 15 years, and I have never cheated on my wife. She is the only woman I have ever been with sexually. But.she is not a sexual woman, and I on the other hand want sex all of the freaking time. I think about it all the time.and not having a woman to share that with has been rough. Does it mean I don't care about my wife? No, but it does mean that we have something seriously lacking in our relationship that she hasn't been willing to work at. I'm not saying this justifies anything.I'm just explaining the mindset people that chat might have.
I would love to have sex with a woman with a great appetite for sex. I mean no holds barred, rip off the clothes and truly devour each other sex. I don't feel as I've ever had that kind of experience. I want one. Will I ever get it.who knows.but that doesn't mean the temptation isn't there.
Was she sexual when you got married?If you want and affair so bad why haven't you cheated yet? I was in a relationship in which he was a good man but he was not sexual at all and after a while I found my self wanting to fu*@#k other guys.We broke up and he turnned out to be great friend. Do you feel hunted by the desired of passionate and NSA sex with a stranger? How do you deal with it?I was not able to do it, I just broke up with him. Now I don't know If I will be able to resist on the future - 2 months ago
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I have kids...so I'm not willing to get out of the relationship. But I guess the right opportunity has never been right there, so I have avoided cheating. I might be in trouble if the right chance were ever right in front of me. Who knows if I could resist? - 2 months ago
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Wow it is so interesting because there is somuch passion and desire that a guys like you is holding back that that is also trouble for single women like me yes not all, I crossed the line I still feel gulty about it but It was an unforgetable time wich amkes me feel more guilty - 2 months ago
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I agree with that. If I do ever cheat on my wife...the woman I cheat with had better hold on for the ride, because I have been told "no" and "I don't do that" so many times...the first willing woman that is game, I'll wear her out...LOL. - 2 months ago
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YOU SEE that is what he said, I have been told "no" and "i don't do that" that he said he just could not take it anymore, and he was so passionate. He kissed me on the elevator and It was so agressive ans passionate that shut I gave in. I just wish you wifes would be willing to enjoy the ride they don't know what they are missing. - 2 months ago
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I'll bet he was will and passionate the entire time too wasn't he. Anxious to express his feelings of desire that he had pent up for so long? - 2 months ago
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Yes he was. I was not really planning to have sex with him but we got ob the elevator and these men pushed me against the wall and kiss me so passionately that It was like nother I had ever experience. He was willing to do anyhting I wanted just to please me and he was so happy I let him did all the thing he did to me. Guys my age and single cant' hardly wait for their turn. I was really shock! - 2 months ago
I've never cheated but have come close and some times it not about love as much as it is about geting something your not getting at home, whether that's sex,love,or just intimacy.
I think your analysis is flawed, you assume that being sexually attracted to someone else means you don't love your partner. This isn't the case for most people I know. When I was in monogamous relationships, I cheated because I enjoy sex with a variety of people. In my current open marriage, I sleep with other people because I like having sex with a variety of people. I am deeply grateful that my wife recognizes that we are sexual creatures and who you want to f*** doesn't necessarily influence who you want to spend your life with.
That is why I was asking if it was possible to love someone but still have the urge for someone elses body. Does she have sex with other people too? Do you tell her when you are meeting other woman? Have you ever thougth of asking your wife to joing you in bed with the other ladies? These is very intriguing for me, sorry to ask so much - 2 months ago
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It is not only possible, it is common. Yes, my wife is fully aware of who I am having sex with and yes, she had the same freedom and has joined me from time to time (which is wonderful). Cheating is about deception, expecting your partner to honor an agreement that you are covertly breaking. That lying and deception is what hurts the relationship, not the sex. - 2 months ago
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Thanks for being so honest!! Ilove it!! there is nothing better than honesty! - 2 months ago
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Interesting question but I'm glad to be the first girl to answer. Well I am married but lately have realized the poor state of my marriage. I was immediatly attracted to a man who is having similar problems but is hanging on by a thread. I approached him and told him I was interested and whereas he "tried" to let me down easy I'm not sure he was trying to convince me or himself that he is serious about his vows. In any case, we have flirted more and have been a little more comfortable with each other than we otherwise would have been and I have absolutely NO DOUBT it will only progress. I don't believe either one of us will leave our spouses for simple convenience (I wouldn't want that either) but the thought of NSA sex with someone who wants to be wanted is so damn exciting that I can only imagine the first time we're together will be explosive. Is it wrong.HELL YES. but I think when two people are presented with an opportunity that is hard to pass up you're not thinking about morals you just try to justify the act.
I just have to say that you hit it right on. Everyone comes to a point in their marriage where they realize that people change and so does the marriage. I have honestly not met a man that didn't cheat on his wife at least once. I work in a very male dominated field, so I hear it from them first hand. They all love their wives but just need to feel like a man still, whether it means sexually or just doing some lifting for a female. Sometimes wives get caught up in being moms and forget. - A month ago
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