My whole life I've known I was truly a woman on the inside, but I've played the part of being a man. I've dated women and got married, but still I know I am a woman. I've told my wife this and have moved away from her and have now become good friends with a woman at my job. We have lunch together and even go shopping. She's only interested in me as a friends and even asked me if I was gay before but I told her that I wasn't, which I'm not really. I've also told her that I was still married and that my wife would be joining me here soon. not sure why, but I guess it's because I started as a temp at this job and I didn't think it would last long, but I am now full time and have friends there. But this woman and I are like the same person, we have the same personalities, we like the same things, we even have the same style in fashion (womens clothes) but of course she doesn't know that yet.
She really has become a great friend and I know she would be an even better friend to have when I'm a woman. I just don't want to scare her off. Eventually she will find out anyway when I start to change into a woman, but that's at least a year or two down the road, and I'd rather tell her about it myself than just let her find out later because of the way I look. My wife tells me I should not tell her because she'll freak out or maybe tell her I'm gay, but that would just be another lie. What should I do? I just want to be honest and be able to be myself around her.
Update: Girls I'd really like to know what you think. How would you react if you guy friend told you he was going to become a woman?
2 months ago
If she's a really good friend and you trust her, tell her. As exspain said though, let her know what her friendship means to you first, and gage her reaction -- if she reciprocates with good feelings about your friendship too, then maybe she is ready to know. Just be willing to answer any questions she has about it.
Personally, if a guy friend told me he was a woman on the inside and ready to become one on the outside too, I'd be completely supportive. It must take a lot of strength to do that, and also to tell your friends and loved ones about it, but I totally believe you should embrace whatever gender you really are (which is of course whatever you feel). I *think* a lot of women, even if they find the news a bit strange at first, would accept this (perhaps more so than many men anyways). Good luck! :)
If she's become a good friend to you, I wouldn't hesitate to be honest with her. Honesty is always the best policy, and In all probability she's not going to take it badly. Let her know what she means to you as a friend before you tell her.
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When: 2 months ago
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