Wife doesn't like having sex all that often?

It is a good thing you added that small tidbit about her dad. I knwo for a fact that is what it is. She s depressed. You ahve to understand that people loose enthusiam for things when they are depressed. They loose a lot of interest in thigns they used to do. Lay off the sex for a while and just focus on her. Try to cheer her up by going out and doing simple things. Picnics, walks, get her a small dog, take a class together.these are all good things. Do some of the chores around teh house. Get her a book. Intime your investment will be rewarded. Lay low for a while.

There is most likely a larger issue here. Me and my boyfriend have hadd the same problem a lot this year, and wee've been together almost 5 years. It seems that life, work, school, everything has taken its toll. Perhaps it is stress? Perhaps she doesn't feel sexy anymore? Many women have body issues because we, most of the time, can't look like the girls on the Maxim Hot 100 and we think it is what you guys want. And it isn't that she's not attracted to you, she probably has something else going on in her mind. I would suggest talking to her, seriously, about it, or having a very romantic date night and trying to rekindle what you felt when you were first together.

Try diff. Things like toys, movies, diff. Places, rubbing her body all over nice and sweet. See if anything like that helps, but don't do it all at ones and you know your wife so if you do try something and she isn't into it don't pouch. But there might be things she's into that you don't know about.! However. Woman have a lower sex dive then men most of the time so it might just be the way she is. If so do it your self in bed with her see if she would rub herself so you can see. Or kiss you when your doing it. Trust me you'll like that too.
good luck

Is she as hot as she we when she got married to you? There could be 2 things may be she does not feel as hot and sexy any more may be life has taken a hold of her and she does not feels sexy anymore. Make her feel special and sexy again. Once you build up that sexiness again she will be the one looking for you. Other thing is that me might be in the impression that when you get married life changes, you can't be humping each other all the time because there are more important things in life. If the issue brings so much friction to the relationship it is obvious that it is more important than other things. I suggest therapy, specially a sexual counselor, they work wonders. If everything else fails. You know what to do! settle or move on!

It is very difficult to not have the feeling of being desired and needed sexually and other wise. Yes we have the basic need of sexual gratification through orgasm but the needs go far beyond basic. Remember how it was when you two first started having sex? How you couldn't wait to see each other and tear each others clothes off. Remember when once a day wasn't even enough, how you would lay in bed until you were ready to go again? That is the feeling I miss. I have only been married six months but have been with my husband for seven years. I still have a very high sex drive and I crave that passionate got to have you right now sex. I have tried all sorts of different things from toys to positions to outfits and he goes along with everything it just feels like he doesn't care one way or the other. He has made no effort to make sex more exciting and it is beginning to wear on me. I don't feel desired. It seems all I want is for him to come home and tell me he couldn't wait to be with me so he could rip my clothes off and make love to me for hours. Just the other day he came home and when he walked through the door I kissed him and started to undo his belt. He stopped me and said, "Don't try to butter me up because you didn't sweep." I couldn't believe it. How much more undesired can you feel as a woman. I feel like he knows I want it all the time so he doesn't make an effort because he knows he will get his anyway. The longer he goes without fulfilling my need for passion in my sex life the more I think about how other men would. I feel your frustration. Being able to have sex whenever you like with your wife isn't what you really need. What you really need is to feel wanted again.

You're not rowing that boat alone. I'm in the same situation. She doesn't deny me sex but she rarely participates and it makes me feel like she's doing me a favour that she would rather not do.

I don't think she realizes how much it strains our relationship. I have thought many times about leaving and building a relationship with someone who would want to have sex with me as much as I want to have sex with her.

I can't say that we fight about it because every time I try to bring it up to her she shuts down the conversation with an "I don't want to talk about it". The most that I have ever gotten out of her is that sex is not high on her list of priorities. Being an optimistic person, I try to spin that as meaning that it's not a lack of desire for me, it's just a lack of desire for sex. However, being a guy, I also can't help but think that a lack of desire for sex also means a lack of desire for me.

In my situation, I have grown to believe that there's no fixing this. So the choice comes down to accepting it or moving on. Neither of there choices really appeal to me.

If she doesn't want it, you can't force her to want it. Your best bet is to wait for her when she hits her hot flash stage (late 30s early 40's), and then you'll be the one turning her down every time!

Of course, if you got no kids, best to get a divorce.