I am a virgin and thinkin bout giving it up to this guy.that I love! he knows that I am a virgin and he does not mind that I am.and he says he would love to teach me! but my question is what do I do.b/c every time I hear something about a virgin having sex it is always bad it seems like.especially how they just lay there and take it like a rape victim.and I do not want to just lay there and have him feel that way about me! So if you could please help me out and let me know some thing I could do.it would be great!
well if you want to lose it to him but don't want to have a bad experience, you might want to do it somewhere you're comfortable with. make it fun and get yourself comfortable with the situation : try doing foreplay like have him "touch" you and you touch him, kiss him, let him kiss your neck etc. get yourself aroused by him and arouse him.
It will hurt but if you conitnue to do it time to time it will be more enjoyable. tell him to guide you through sex. since he knows ur a virgin he won't expect you to know everything and just let him know you need guidance.
it's better if you lay there at first and ask him what's another position you can try. if you love him and he loves you don't worry too much, it's all about communiction.
this is what I did and everything went beautifully. I hope your first time is as magical as mine.
Well, the first time usually isn't the best experience. We never made it through mine. Advice? Plenty of foreplay, to help you get ready and to help get the mood set. Other than that, have him take it slow at first. Make sure to use a condom (kinda redundant) and a lubricant that will not cause any issues with the condom. Lubrication is a good thing, especially that first time (I wish someone had given me such advice!).
Just enjoy it. If it hurts, tell him. If you like it, tell him. If you want it faster/harder/slower, tell him. Make sure to communicate, and everything will be fine.
while you guys are doing it talk to him like tell him how you want it that why you won't feel like your being "raped" and just explain everylast detail to him because some guys like it wen the girl takes charge like say stuff like "slower, faster, not so deep" and stuff like that and just so you no it is possible that it will hurt but that is why there is such thing as 4-play it helps you get way wet down there so that why it is easy for him to enter without hurting you as bad as it would be if you were "dry" but that's all I really got so there ya go and hope I helped
I wouldn't worry too much about it. No guy having sex with a virgin is expecting her to act like a porn star. That's not why they like virgins. They like that a virgin is all innocent and inexperienced and that they get to be the one to have her while she's like that. Hell, some of them even like that it hurts a bit. It makes them feel big and powerful or something. Really I'd tell you to communicate, be enthusiastic, and get through it. Worrying about anything else is just over-thinking.
K...thank you for you answer it is very helpful!!!! I jus have heard so many guy say thay don't like how the girl jus lays ther and takes it like a rape victim and tht is deff. not what I want to be like!!! - 2 months ago