I've been dating someone for about a year. We recently broke up and we are trying to work things out. He says next time I come up and see him (because he does live a good distance) that this time we shouldnt have sex. Its seems so weird to me because we have sex a lot even when we break up and then we get back together. We both have high sex drives and its been really hard for us to "slow down" and he says now he wants to. Is it me? So is sex a really big deal in a relationship?
Update: I actually sat down with him and talked about this but it didn't work out because we got into each other and ended up having sex.yeah TMI sorry everyone lol =]
2 months ago
go u! just hv sex! sex is really important in long distance relationship hes been building up all the excitement to see you and sex just keep you 2 thinking abt each other not living near each other give you 2 less things in common, sex sex sex relationship needs sex, I know I sound horny but I'm in long distance relationship too not hving it sucks, sex shows that you 2 still hv deep emotionaal connection to each other, and shows that you 2 cares for each other, just laying there and let him do it just shows that you dnt care abt him but ur orgasm
I always say that because most of the time he does...but its seems so different this time because we are trying to work things out. - 2 months ago
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But--and you should explain this to him--it is possible to work things out and have sex; that's the whole point of make-up sex. It'll be a lot easier than it will if one or both of you are sexually frustrated. - 2 months ago
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Yeah I went and saw him today and well...you were right. - 2 months ago
For me? Absolutely. When sex stops happening, it is generally the end of the relationship. Sex is what conveys contact and closeness to me. I have walked away from relationships where my partner decided that they wanted to stop having sex but still wanted to be exclusive. excuse me? you want me to give up sex with you and give it up with everyone else. where's my hat?
Maybe its not just the sex.maybe he is anxious to see if there is something more to your relationship than just sex. Guys get so caught up in sex, that it is sometimes hard to truly know what are real emotions are. We can get led by our private parts instead of by our hearts. Women aren't usually the same way. Instead, they can have healthy sexual relationships and still know whether they love the guy or not.
We have to make sure that our emotions are pure. If he is starting to get real feelings for you, this might be all he is doing.confirming that his emotions are real and not just built up on the sexual relationship you have been expressing.
Or he could have turned Gay.ROFL. But I doubt that one.
he is probably feeling a loss of connection with you. either that or he might be unhappy about the way your relationship is going. there could be tons of reasons why he wants to take a break. try to just talk to him and see if there is something that he is super stressed out about
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