First time having sex: Is the guy supposed to do all the work?

I make a rule and its fair.if the girls a virgin she's got to get on top ONCE for experience but not that the first penetration has to start that way

Usually not. Most men understand it's highly uncomfortable for us, and sometimes painful. This is especially true if he's experienced and you aren't.

Yeah, pretty much I'd say. But don't expect to be impressed your first time! Afterward you'll wonder why people make such a big deal of it :) You might end up frozen in shock the moment he gets inside you, and just waiting for the moment to be over. Either way, be safe! Make sure he uses a condom and puts it on the correct way!