I've noticed that quite a few posts are about pregnancy and birth control. For example, a post like "can I get pregnant if.?" I was wondering where people think this stems from. I personally believe it comes from society, which tries to hide sex and most of the information about it. I remember sex ed. was pretty basic and din't exlain anything other than "here's a condom, but don't have sex so you won't have to use it anyway."
Anyone agree or disagree? What do you think causes the problem?
I'm with you, totally agree. And it's weird, people are suppose to teach it, but can lose their job if they say something the wrong way - when people have mostly a general knowledge using slang terms, because, I mean, lets face it, there's two totally different understanding of sex if you were to learn about it from the street, than from a book. And making that connection for young kids in school is tough. And it's like something that has to be taught, so the material is presented and then the kids never see it again. But they took a test on it so the teacher can say "look here, proof they learned it" but really, what is it that's being taught? hmmm? Sex ed. should be called "sexless education" because all they teach is the anatomy, and abstinence. And when you hear dirty jokes on the playground as kids, and their teaching "abstinence" in schools - when mistakes are happening at a young age(whatever they may be with experimenting) - there's a huge gap there. And then there's the "stork" fable that we're all told when we're little so that when we figure out it isn't real, we get curious and start experimenting later on, without the right knowledge in some cases. Seriously, look at what happens when you figure out Santa isn't real, you start looking in all the nooks and crannies for "soon to be presents." Look at what happens with sex, after around age 7-9 most people figure out there isn't a "stork" anymore and -not as fast as with Christmas presents- but sooner or later people start to get curious.
I think it isn't talked about enough. But then, there's this whole society thing where we're not supposed to talk about it. But info. is out there, and people still don't use it. - 2 months ago
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The other thing is when you hear, not all, but a lot of parents having to give their kids "the talk" what do they say afterward? "Oh that was so embarrassing, I just had to give little Jimmy the talk." You know what I mean. And yeah, people don't put in the effort to find out the info. If they had "Jeopardy: sex ed. edition" for xbox (lol, just an example) everyone would be buying it and what do you know then, lol. - 2 months ago
I can tell you exactly what causes the problem, "Abstinence Only sex education"! You can partially thank this puritanical ostrichesque approach to education but the parents of these miss informed youths need to shoulder some of the blame as well. While I think that school should be a place education where kids can find answers to their questions, if its not then the parents need to step up and change the situation. That means parents need to either change the policy or supplement their kids education, cause this is a subject where if you don't give them the facts they will believe what other kids say or what some chatroom crackpot told them. I Think if people don't want their children to learn about sex in school that's fine but that puts the responsibility for educating them on those parents shoulders and I am sorry to say that those parents have failed their children and everyone is suffering as a result. I don't know what the best thing to do is, but I will say that your right there is a problem and something needs to change.
I agree there's not enough sex ed in school, but some of the responsibility is on the individual for seeking out the info and also on the parents for discussing it with you frankly and openly.
The state of american ignorance is astounding. Abstinence only is largely to blame for this. Since sex is only for procreation, they don't talk about birth control. Since you aren't having sex with anyone other than your virginal spouse, you don't need to know about STIs.
The point of all of this is not to prevent pregnancy and STIs, it is to make sure that people who have sex are duly punished for it. Then they can be serve as a warning to all those other people who might stray from the virtuous life of whatever religion they are peddling.
It gets worse, the waxman report found numerous omissions and outright lies in the abstinence education materials. One of the best lies is that condoms don't stop HIV
The US has gonorrhea at rates 70x that of Europe. That isn't chance, that is a program of malicious keeping people uninformed or badly informed. It's a disgrace that we can allow kids to get pregnant just because some people are not ok with sex.
I think so too. As a female, I've visited Planned Parenthood here for BC, and they try to be straightforward about it. But in my town, we only have a Pregnancy Resource Center, and they preach abstinence, adoption, and life. I'm not against that, but I also think that BC should be pushed too. We know teens will have sex, so we should inform them. - A month ago
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Agreed. People were having sex before christianity and figured out how to get pregnant without help. I think it is a tragedy that we allow kids to destroy their lives simply because it fits in with someone's religious agenda.
At very, very least, we should teach kids that masturbation is a normal, healthy outlet for sexual desires. - A month ago
Peo[ple are very much into denial at all levels. And there is so much prostitution, most of it infomral, like sleeping with a guy to get tickets to a rock concert, etc., and prostitutes formal or infomal aren't into safe sex usually.except the really expensive ones, or so I've heard.
Your information is bad. Most prostitutes are very, very into safe sex (herpes tends to kill the business). In fact, if you want bareback, it will cost you extra and most people are cheap.
I personally think we should legalize prostitution. Sex isn't illegal (yet, anyway) and most of the ugliness of prostitution comes from its illegality rather than the act itself. - A month ago
I think it's a mix between not enough detailed information and that people are just naturally rule breakers and stupid so even if they know how to be safe, they often won't.
I'm not sure about how informative the sex education classes are in school but the internet has all of the information there regarding anything to do with sex. Most kids don't care enough to go find it or stop once the porn starts popping up.
Yep, the information is certainly out there. I mean, everyone has car problems but they don't teach you in school as well.
If you can't find articles regarding birth control, you probably shouldn't be reproducing. - 2 months ago
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Oh, I definitely agree with this too. Not only that, but for girls we have a whole network of friends that can help tell you where to get info. or BC. - 2 months ago
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Friends can be a good source of information but there is a lot of misinformation out there that can be passed off as the truth. Just read some of the posts on this site. Any friend information should be confirmed from another source.
A very popular belief when I was growing up was that a girl couldn't get pregnant the first time doing it. - 2 months ago
Are you kidding me? Why is 'people don't listen to information given' more. I believe they don't give enought info. because they don't know enough about it either. I got a Plan B birthpill once, The instructions were awful. I talked to my health teacher about it and she didn't know anything about birthpills, she said "some birthpills are vaginally, the pill that you ate might have been vaginally" so I'm like oh my god that's gross. Next day I go to the doctor. I tell the doctor about that and she says that there is no birthpill that's vaginally. Oh and at school they say abortion there's a risk of not having a baby ever again, LIES. Then why does the doctor say it's totally safe, that nothings going to happen if you go to a proper place.
That's not enough info., that's misinformation! Stupid freakin' "if we scare them, they will not have sex or use birth control." I've had this method used on me. Due to some medical issues, I had to have an abortion, and I went to a local place for info. Well, they gave me tons of misinformation, like it would pull out my uterus and that I would see some baby crying when it was pulled out and killed. I was barely four weeks along. Morons. - A month ago
I think most teenagers get their sex ed from friends and tv, so usually people are really confused about pregnancy and birth control. There's so much focus on abstinence in schools that they don't teach kids what they need to know to stay safe and baby-less. Yeah, you can go check on the internet and the information is really easy to find, but most people don't feel like they need to go to the trouble.
i think some people aren't willing to talk about sex or teach it. as embarrassing as it was my mom and aunts and even my dad sat me down once in a while 2 tell me bout sex, and 2 always have a condom on me even if I wasn't doing anything just in case. I was a virgin till I was 19, but my family started teaching me WAYYY b4 I was thinking about sex. I think first families have 2 be comfortable with talking about sex and then we can put pressure on society 2 teach us about it
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