Marriage first?

I take it that your boyfriend is 18 and you aren't .. That's good that you are waiting until 18, so that you can keep him from getting into trouble.

Yes you should try to convince him. You'll want to know if the two of you are sexually compatible before you commit to marrying him.

Just let the guy be, if he changes his mind then he changes his mind, if he doesn't then he doesn't

You shouldn't try to convince him of anything, but you can try to explain to him why you feel you don't need to wait and hear him explain why he wants to. If someone isn't ready for sex, that needs to be understood, or in the least, respected.

His views may change by the time you're 18, of course, but I'd recommend you explore your and his views on the subject together.

Part of any healthy relationship is respecting the other person's beliefs and values. A good partner does not try to talk you into (or out of) something that you have a moral conviction about. They support you, and your beliefs.

If you are really ready to have sex at 18, and he is not, then I don't see a problem telling him that you are ready, but you need to also be ready to respect his decision.

I would also like to point out, many women find it atrocious that a guy would pressure his girl into sex when she is not ready. They would say that it's not right, and that he should respect her for her, and for what she wants. In no way do I think that this situation is any different, so if you do push him, consider what you are doing.

You are young though, so if you don't see yourself with him for the rest of your life, then go out and date, and find what it is that you really want.

Best of luck with whatever you choose to do.

This will not be your conventional answer of "It is ok and try to convince him." I can tell that you have not had to many in-depth discussions about the subject because you would know if it were possible to "convince" him if you had. You would also know his reasoning and either respect it or have already told him that his reason is bullsugar.

You also made an absurd comment about being ok at 18. What is the difference? Will you be more capable of making a good decision when you quickly turn 18? Or do you just want it to be legal? This is like saying smoking is ok but only if you are at least 18. Either you think that it is disgusting or not. It is safe to say that you will be able to have sex whenever you seek it in the future. So why do you want to turn the faucet on at 18 and begin a pattern of sleeping with different drips until you find the right guy later on in life? What if the right guy comes along and finds the thought of you having sex with several people repulsive?

Tim below says that this is archaic thinking. I completely disagree. I wish I had been this "archaic" myself. I have paid for it. I agree that from a religious perspective, you would be breaking a moral law. I also confess to having broken it several times myself and certainly regret it.

So if you care for the guy and have respect for yourself, I would highly consider waiting.

These beliefs are probably important to him. However this difference in philosophy might be a bit problematic to your relationship. I see it as a sign of rigid, inflexible thinking. It isn't realistic, I see it as slightly archaic, and tied to some religious belief. In a modern, secular world, you need to take a realistic approach. This is an experience you want to have with him. It may not appeal to his religious convictions, but the fact of the matter is deep intimacy and sexuality is very important to a successful relationship, and especially in a marriage. What if you two were to find out that you are completely incompatible in the bedroom? Would you want to spend the rest of your lives together? This is something you two need to communicate about. Find out why he feels this way, why it is important to him, and what practical purpose it serves. Then explain your views, if he cares he will listen. Marriage is a big thing, and you are both very young. There is a lot of time to work this differing philosophy out. It's quite possible you don't have a compatible ideology about life. Only time and communication will help determine that. If and when things get that serious, you'll have this worked out.

I don't see any reason not to try and convince him. If it is a deeply held religious belief that you don't share, he probably won't be convinced and you may not be compatible anyway. If he can be convinced, well, bully for you.

Just cause you feel at 18 sex is right does not mean you should by any means push him to feel that way. Just like a girl a guy who has strong values and morals should be respected for such and if you love him then you will not pressure him and you will wait and if sex is such a huge curiosity then let him go and go do what you want, but don't push him to give it up for the simple fact that you want to know what it is like. But if you feel you should cause you are legal, remember sex is sacred and should be seen that way.