I'm 16 going out with a 19 year old girl. Should I do it? (I love this girl, want to marry her)

It shouldn't be down to whether you know your GOING to marry her, but whether you want to, as you have said - you do, and it's accepted in todays society now, as long as you've been with her for a while, and you do really, really love her, and you believe she loves you - go for it. (as long as you're ready that is) you seriously, have nothing to worry about!

I'm 16 my boyfriend is 14 and we are engaged. So I think it could work out. I hope it does.

First: props on being a virgin =]
Second: the truth is is that you are really young still and it depends on how long you have been dating this girl.
Third: you have so many changes coming into your life, if you love her, my advise would be to stay with her, but wait for marriage for a while, age shouldn't matter.

I think you need to follow your heart because you have good intentions and you don't want them ruined. Put some deep thought into your decision before you do ANYTHING.

dude I was totally in your situation. I started dating a 20 year old girl when I was 16 I wanted to stay a virgin till I got married and I thought I was going to marry her and she kinda pressured me into it and I loved her so we did it and I dated her for 3 years and it was all good and great but it didn't work out. I would say if you really wanna wait till you know she's the one you oughta wait till your older and you are more sure of your future.

If it doesn't work out, it's not because she is older. ... If it doesn't work out, it's because you are 16.

But, it really doesn't matter what we think about this, because it sounds like you already have your mind made up that you are going to get married.

Did you know that you need written parental consent to get married when you are under 18? You'll have to convince your mom to sign.

Your sixteen, she's nineteen, sorry to say but it won't work out. And if it does more power to you, but the chances are slim, same thing with the chick down there with a 14 year old boyfriend who are engaged, sorry to break the news but it won't last your still young people/things change.

When I was 15 my first girl was 19 and it worked out fine, we had a 9 month relationship (which is forever for high school age). I was always a real responsible down to earth guy, so there wasn't much complaints from her about me being immature or anything. If you aren't immature, then maturity won't come up because it won't be an issue. Just be a man about things and it should be smooth sailing.

Marriage is supposed to be truly forever, so if that's your plan I'd say be realistic, getting the perfect girl the first time just is not very likely. If you're absolutely dedicated to that idea, I would say live with her for a year before marriage. Being with someone is totally different than living with someone. You have to really live with someone before you know marriage will work for sure.

As someone who originally married young, I would advise you to wait. Marriage brings a ton of responsibilities and problems, and you can be quickly overwhelmed. Love is sometimes not even enough to keep the marriage together. 16 is way too young for that! I think 19 is even too young! Just try to keep seeing this girl, and give it some time. If it was love meant to be, she will still be there!

You are a noble guy, I respect you for that..

I would advise as an older guy though to never marry before the mid-twenties, I have come to realize that people go through so many changes & only really become the person they will remain once they have gone through education & have become settled into their working lives.
I assume you wish to remain a virgin till marriage for religious reasons (why else?), then fair enough, & you probably have a high desire to have sex & thus want to marry early, swearing to your god that you will be with a girl forever when you don't yet know the woman she will become is however highly risky...

At 16 I think I would wait a little longer. When you hit college and then turn 21 and hit the clubs, a world of opportunity opens up with women. The last thing you want to do is get serious with this girl and then change your mind and hurt her. And it will happen when you hit your drinking age+college. Teen years transform into adult. I've seen it all my life.

I think that there should be more guys like you and I. And to answer your question I think you should go for it IF SHE'S COMFORTABLE WITH THE IDEA. If not then just take it slow and I hope your relationship works out for the best. holla bak

I wish I was as convicted as you at your age. Congrats for that. Since you are so certain about your choice of being a one woman guy, I would definitely wait. I thought that I was in love with or could marry three different women by the time I was in my early 20s. I did not marry any of them. Two were also a few years older like your girl.

The problem is that you are coming into a time in your life where you face many major changes in the next few years: School, work, being out on your own, etc. Life will take you places that you never expected and they may take her to the same or very different places. I would strongly advise holding off but only because of your personal choice.