Why is it a big deal to be a virgin?

It's one of those things that younger guys think is funny. Apparently. But, not ALL younger guys think that way, just the immature ones. You maybe have just had bad luck on finding the right guys.

Being a virgin, if you are attractive, can be a little unbelievable sometimes, but it's not something to be laughed at or disrespected.

I'm glad that you haven't given it to those types of guys. You'll find a guy one day that you like, but just make sure that you are selective. ;-)

I'm just like you...I want to wait for "the one" ... it's a good thing to wait....so you don't get hurt as often.

WTF is wrong with a virgin?... everyone was one at one stage.

Hai Solotai.
I think it's amazing and awesome of you that you're a virgin. Maybe this is sounding really weird, hearing this from a guy. Personally, I think virgins are better, I mean you'll be happy to know that you're girlfriend isn't a 'slutty' girl, I do respect them if they are, and I could wait forever until I meet the right one.
Good luck with everything. I hope one day you'll find the one.

There's a lot behind it. Most people you are dating were growing up in the 90s and maybe some in the 80s. So you need to see that they were growing up with shows like Seinfeld and Friends which made sex seem like something you do with every other person on the street. So for them, finding a virgin is out of the ordinary and they aren't used to it. I would say keep being honest about it, my belief is that you should exercise some control over who you have sex with (also how would you like lying to someone who you waited for for 19 years?).

Well Solo, congratulations for being a Virgin. It really is a big deal because of the media, just like DeanW said. The media has influenced everyone to the point that sex is the greatest thing ever, now don't get me wrong it is but, the media has made sex something to base the relationship on. If you go out on the first date and you don't "put out" you are not worth pursuing or if you do "put out" and it isn't the greatest experience you are also not worth pursuing is what the media dictates. Second of all do not, I repeat do not just say instead you are not a virgin.

Keep saying you are and when you come across that one guy, and you will, he will be cool with it. I am also a virgin and I respect the fact that a girl is still one also, it shows that she still has control over her body.

I find nothing wrong with Virgins. I'm one =D you should be happy that you haven't had sex with crappy men like them.

Interesting. Well, I think it's cool. It's interesting too that you indicate your name is Sofie, which is a variant of sophos, Greek for wise. Sounds like you're living up to it.
And, seriously, the guys who didn't respect your choice, are you at all regretful that you didn't have sex with them? Because I am doubting that.

Because it's perceived as unusual. Here in the US our media is 100% obsessed with sex. From magazines to newspapers to tv, there doesn't seem to be anything an American is more interested in than whose bed have your boots been under.

As a guy, I take it for granted that the girls I meet are not virgins. If she is over 18 then I assume this is going to be true nearly every time. I figure the guys you meet probably have the same basic assumptions. What can I say? We're dopes.

Don't take them seriously. Whether you want to think of yourself as better than others or not is up to you. Bottom line is that you are making a very good choice in your life. I really like your odds of forming a successful relationship and family once you do meet the right guy.

I'm 23 and a virgin and I have no problems with that what so ever. I have a boyfriend and he's a virgin too, which I think is great. we love each other and I'll have sex with him when I'm absolutely sure I'm ready for it, and he doesn't mind waiting and why not he's waited this long. lol btw, he's 22.

Firstly, I totally respect your decision, though different from mine.
I personally find it weird that guys ask you straight out on a first date "have you had sex? " it seems like maybe they are looking for the wrong thing. However, I think that if you get this question, you should just tell them exactly what you said here. It says a lot about who you are and might be a good way of finding out if the guy will respect you/accept the choices you've made or not. If not he's obviously not the one, so don't be hurt, just keep looking. Good luck.

Don't worry girl, girl not alone. I'm a 20-yr-old virgin. Soon to be 21. I do go out, I party, I do smoke and drink sometimes, I do bad things, I'm really open-minded, I'm not conservative but I haven't had sex yet. It is because I believe that I'm really not easy and I'm waiting for that one very special guy. And that very special moment. When that moment finally comes, I want it to be perfect. Your not alone and I salute us ladies who reach 19 and still virgins. That's an achievement. A really big achievement! You go girl.

Well for them its all they think about is sex. I didn't give it up till I was 18 I was really and love w/him. Well anyways if the guys ask you y you are still a virgin tell them I respect my self and my body that's what I used to say and the guys told me that's good that I respect my self. So just tell them you respect your self and your body

Theres a lot behind it... I'm not a virgin and I get the same reaction because I'm celebrant. the society says that girls are ho... if we're not virgin and it's ok for guys to not be virgins. I did not wait for that special someone and now I regret all the past relationships were sex was involved. I'm 24 and I've been celibate since I was 20 and it's hard with all the ways people make me feel out of place. You are doing the right thing, sex is something so special and you should wait. A relationship does not need to get clouded by all the emotional togetherness sex brings. You should get that emotional togetherness without sex , that way you will truly know if this is the guy for you.

Find someone respectful!

That's awesome!! I to am a virgin and I'm proud I think it's awesome that you wanna save yourself for the right guy!!