Is there a problem if I can't reach climax?

It's amazing all the problems that you women can have with your orgasms.

Sometimes it's almost impossible for you to get there,... other times if the car's A/C vent hits you just right you reach utopia.

I don't think it's a problem,... and a very common thing among women. To try and fix it though, try different positions,... also, try different acts.

If penetration is not getting you there (very, very common), then try oral. If that does not work, try getting yourself warmed up first with a lot of foreplay. If that doesn't work, experiment with toys and also try yourself. You might be able to find the way to get yourself there, and then you would be able to help your partner, help you.

Like I said though, this is a very common issue among women, and sometimes it just takes a little time and practice to get there,... but that can be one of the best parts though. Just don't stress about it (that can actually keep you from getting there), and just focus on enjoying yourself and your legs should be shaking in no time.

Best of luck.

I a lot of women do not experience a vaginal orgasm, and this is not only common but normal. We are lucky though, we can have many different kinds of orgasms, besides the vaginal penetration one. We have clitoral orgasms, G-Spot orgasms, or an orgasm from anal sex. Just because you can't have one, one way does not mean that you can not experience one of the other orgasms. Genesis5 is right when he says you might put unnecessary pressure on yourself if that's always your main objective, so just relax.

Also your partner may feel inadequate and may not understand why he can not bring you to orgasm, this may inadvertently put more pressure on you or him. In most cases this is where a woman feels the need to fake an orgasm. Don't do that instead, take the responsibility for your own orgasms, its really not up to him to make it happen for you. Take the steps to make it happen for yourself.

The easiest orgasm for a woman to achieve is a clitoral orgasm, try to bring yourself to orgasm from masturbation. Either with your fingers or with a sex toy like a vibrator, directly on your clit. This can work surprisingly fast if you add a little personal lubricant. Do it when you are by yourself, and relaxed, sometime when you will not be interrupted. Hopefully you can relax and enjoy it.

There is a great book on it called self love, if you need pointers, or better yet post a question on here asking women how they masturbate. If you can't or have never tried it, try to master this step first.

How is your man supposed to know how to please you, if you don't know how to please yourself, after all, he does not have the same anatomy as you do, and he does not know what feels good to you. And any trick he may have learned with a previous partner may not work with you.

Are you able to have an orgasm masturbating? You can't make yourself have an orgasm during sex , you have to let it happen. Have you tried other positions? Me personally, I can not have an orgasm in the missionary position. I have to be on top or doggystyle. Consider that. Or is your man cuttin it quits early. Remember it takes you longer to cum then him, make sure he could hold it out.

The sex might not be working for you esp if you never had a problem getting to climax before also maybe you are stressing about it to much and are so worried you won't that you don't if none of these seem to be problems then get to the doctor girl of course they got medication to have you back to your peak in no time!

Practice, practice, practice! I know, easier said than done. The best way to fix this problem is to become more comfortable with your body and be with someone that you truly enjoy being with. Try sex toys, view movies. The point of my suggestions is to learn different ways to excite you to make you reach your climax. It's there, trust me. You just haven't found what gets you happy yet. You have plenty of time, but definitely start researching! Best of luck to you!

Genesis had some good points, but there are also medical issues that can contribute. It's something to talk about with your gyn. There are also some topical lotions/things that can help, as well as sex toys. The ones I know of are sold through Passion Parties (www.passionparties.com). I don't know if this is any orgasm at all, or just with intercourse, but they've got stuff there that should help either way and toys that will definitely help with intercourse.