What was that feeling?

Young lady, that was probably your hymen that this young man was either breaking or about to break. Although you should prob. consult with a woman about this, the other feeling you were feeling (from what you describe) is an orgasm building!

Next time, just ask your guy to be gentle. If he's got the guts, you should ask him to use a combination of his tongue and fingers on you GENTLY, since you are still so new and you both need to explore. If your like most women I know, you will fall in love with the tongue...

Remember, always, concerning sex, if it feels good "keep going" and if it doesn't "stop and find out why". And there's nothing to be embarrassed about. We were all once young and inexperienced.

You are tight because you never had any reason to expand....Get a thin plastic glove and try and see what you like and what you don't. If you need help again ( wink wink ) call me up when you want help.

I would agree with most of what utopus said. I would only add the following points:

1. Use lubricant but make sure it's right for you. There are cases where a lubricant can cause a burning sensation. Water-based lubricants are good but they do have the tendency to dry out quickly. The best lubricant is probably K-Y Jelly. While you may be providing your own natural lubricant, applying a sexual lubricant will help decrease the pain.

2. If you're not already, you should start masturbation. The more you know how to stimulate yourself, the better you can direct him on how rough or gentle he should be.

3. While this sounds like a tightness issue, make sure that he has his fingernails properly trimmed. I've heard from various women that a hangnail can hurt you like hell.

4. As for the rush, it could be an urge to urinate, it could be orgasm, or, in rare cases, female ejaculation (which is nothing to be ashamed of and is not, contrary to what some may say, a release of urine).

I hope it goes better the next time and I applaud your courage and curiosity in trying to understand this issue.

If it hurt like hell, it sounds like it was not wet enough, and/or he was a bit too rough. To be fair, it's not the most intuitive thing in the world, but as you do it more you figure out what works best.

I would spend more time with kissing and caressing, etc. Trying to get your body to produce more natural lubrication before going too far. Or, failing that, at least apply some external lubrication - even spit if that's all you've got! And tell him to be gentle until you don't want him to be gentle anymore. Tell him what feels good, what doesn't, etc.

Finally, the sensation you're describing sounds like one of the various normal sexual responses. Some women experience a feeling almost like having to pee prior to orgasm, especially from the sort of stimulation you get from fingering.

Okay. First time you get fingered, if you have NEVER been down there yourself before, you will be very tight. Which, is a good thing. A bad thing if it's a guy who doesn't know what he's doing though. If you felt a 'rush' as you say, he could have A) been hitting your G spot, which will make you feel like you have to pee. Or B) Since he seems inexperienced he could have been hitting your bladder. Your G spot is very close to it. Hitting your G spot will make you lubricate more and the 'fingering' will feel really really good.

Next time, it happens, press his finger deeper inside and see if you can 'release' - but you HAVE to relax.

Also, he should NOT be disappointed that you are tight. He should be HAPPY about that.