Is a girl you consider beautiful necessarily hot (sexually attractive)?

Well I've never actually heard that before. Yes there are women that are hot like Pamela Anderson, and beautiful like Katherine Zeta Jones, but both styles are attractive to me, and I would like either one of them.

Sorry, but I don't understand your friends' way of thinking.

Tough situation for sure. Bad news is that he knows where you live, and given that he is a psycho, I guess he can show up to your place at any time. Most likely you can't talk sense to him, so I would just keep ignoring the calls and don't even answer. I went thru the same with a psycho girl, and after 2 weeks of her calling me and leaving messages at least 2 times a day, she finally stopped. She did get smart and try to call me from a different number, but since I barely give out my mobile number, I figured it was some spam caller, but turned out to be her when she left a text from that other number. I forgot what the rules are for restraining orders, but maybe look into those if he shows up at your place unexpectedly.

I think what they mean when they say that they could never sleep with them is that they think they could never in reality get into their pants, that the chick will reject them... Other than that, a guy would like to screw any chick he wants. It could also be a subconscious deterrent that stops the inferior genes in these confidence-lacking males from being spread with the superior genes of the fricken hot chick they are fantasizing about.. I think that when it comes down to the primordial factors when procreating (and hence the act of), guys know when they're genes aren't good enough. This self-esteem BS is making the human race inferior in the way of physical health and fitness and is breeding more and more insecure people that back in the good old days of the cave-man, wouldn't survive.

Sounds to me like these male friends don't feel confident enough to go up to the girl and try to get some. You should ask them---'you wouldn't sleep with them because they are too beautiful and out of your league?' Honestly, this is the first time I hear such comment from guys, and it doesn't make any sense either. I can only think they are saying that because their confidence level is not up there.....just like when you go to the clubs, and you see a beautiful girl, and you think..hell, she is definitely beautiful, but out of my range. So beautiful to look at, but wouldn't dare to go make a move on her.

Not sure I can clear it up but I am willing to give it a shot. You can see a totally hot looking woman but it not set your bells ringing in a sexual sense. A lot of men are dogs but what they say and what they do are two different things. For me personally there has to be some kind of chemistry. I am not talking about the whole love and romance thing but just something that gets the juices flowing.

Sex is not all about looks or personality, it is more raw than that... I use the word chemistry, not knowing a person and figuring out if you have it... If you have ever felt it you will know... I can think a girl is gorgeous but not be turned on by it, in the same breathe a less attractive girl wit a look or walk or a expression and you want to go crazy... It is what everybody does when they walk into a crowded room, you look and see who interests you

It is not looking and saying she is cute or she is gorgeous, I am not trying to sound like a pig or a jackass, but imediately you think what you want to do to them...

Not many people will admit and movies make it cheesy but I think people decide with in the first 20 seconds on whether they would sleep with another person... You can feel the electricity between you and that person and it excites you...

I probably just confused you more but this is my perspective...

I don't really know, because I go a lot on personality. Most guys I know will sleep with whoever will take them, but I couldn't bring myself to that level of "easy"-ness!

I am not sure I understand what some of your friends mean. If a man finds a woman attractive there is also thoughts that go through his mind. If they said certain women they could understand that, because sometimes guys don't see certain women as girlfriend material, but again that's their personal opinion. But to say if they thought she was beautiful and wouldn't have a thought like that run through their mind, I find hard to believe.