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Is "Pretty face& Ugly Vagina" a NO?

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begoodplease (Age:25 to 29)     When: Over a year ago
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Hi guys, thanks for your attention =)

I just had a awakening conversation with my boyfriend this weekend as he told me my vagina looks dark and feels loose, well, not loose that he couldn’t feel anything, but he was expecting something different from a girl at my age. I’m 25 years old, Asian, and I’ve got cute face and nice body, good personality, so I've got no problem getting dates& etc since I was younger, I had 4 BFs since 19 and I've slept 6 guys in total.
At any rates, my boyfriend told me any guy has seen my p**** must be thinking to themselves “Wow! I wonder how many guys she’s been slept with...” and that perfectly explain why my first boyfriend found it almost impossible to believe I was a virgin even after he saw the blood on the sheet, however the reason my first boyfriend told me was “a girl looks like you can’t still be a virgin, you must have had some high school sweethearts, it’s okay, you can tell me about it.”
So yea, that’s how bad my p**** must be look like, sucks to be me huh?
Now since we had this convo, my boyfriend is asking me the same kind of questions, sthg like “There can’t be only 6 guys in total, what’s the story behind it? It’s okay, you can tell me this kind of things...” :(

My question is:
1, Is it true when you see someone’s vagina’s dark and loose you think she had a lot of sex in the past?
2, Would you still have sex with her while thinking to yourself “this is not a keeper”?
3, Would you marry someone you really like but with a ugly/loose vagina? Or that’s a big NO NO you won’t fall for someone like that at all?
4, Do you actually believe someone could born with a dark and loose vagina?
5, If I go get a surgery done, Is my boyfriend gonna stop asking hurtful questions like that?

Sorry for asking so many questions guys, just leave some comments if you don't feel like answering all of them.
Thanks for your time.
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Over a year ago
wowwww. OK I'm gonna tell you something my older brother told me a long time ago. this is PIMPOLOGY 101 so listen up. when you have a boyfriend that starts insulting you and saying insensitive things about you (especially about your body, vagina and womanhood) what he's really trying to do is break you down. lemme guess did this guy treat you really nicely in the beginning? what he's trying to do is break you down so you will question everything about yourself and feel really low so he can take advantage of you. he is trying to take total control of you. pimps say once you have a "bitch" mind you can control everything about her. so don't even take this sh*t that he's telling you seriously, erase it from your mind. all vaginas look different naturally, he's just trying to get you to feel bad about yours because HE'S messed up and trying to make you feel insecure so you will never leave him when he starts treating you worse. mark my words that's exactly what your boyfriend is trying to do. DUMP HIM NOW!

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  • Question Asker
    Over a year ago
    Seriously now that I'm reading what you said again and I cudnt agree more.
    You and your older brother rock!
  • Question Asker
    Over a year ago
    Woah that makes perfect sense!

What Guys Said

  • kheserthorpe
    52029  
    Over a year ago
    DTMFA.

    Maybe you don't have the prettiest vagina ever. Most guys are happy to get any vagina, period.

    If its really loose, do some kegels, or have anal occasionally if you want to give your boyfriend something tight.

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  • ben890
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    Over a year ago
    What kind of guy would actually say that to his girlfriend? What a d*** move.

    1. No. Well, maybe the loose part, but I've heard that some girls are just naturally like that.
    2. If I don't think she's a "keeper," I wouldn't stay with her.
    3. Of course I'd marry her if I truly loved her. How her vagina looks is an absolutely ridiculous thing to consider a dealbreaker.
    4. Like I said in #1, yes. Plus, darkness has nothing to do with sex.
    5. Don't get surgery. You need to find someone who loves every inch of you as you are. Tell your boyfriend his comments are hurtful, and if he doesn't care, I recommend dumping him...

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for your time to answer my Qs, really appreciate it. :)
  • YouTellMe09
    410  
    Over a year ago
    Don't go down the surgery path and ignore what your boyfriend said to you. He is just very insensitive. Try doing kegel exercises and after a period of time you will notice that your p**** will begin to feel tighter.

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    • Answerer
      Over a year ago
      You're welcome. Hope all the points of view help you out. You deserve so much better and to be treated with respect.
    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for your suggestion! :)
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    Anonymous User
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    Over a year ago
    Ohhh I see how these things go, its called a preference when a girl says she wants a guy with a big **** and won't have sex with a guy who's small but a guy is an insensitive asshole if he prefers a girl who isn't loose.

    1 Dark no, loose from many partners yes
    2 No, why waste my time
    3 Yes
    4 Yes, genetics
    5 I don't know

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for taking your time to responding.
      ///Not all the girls' like that though, nice day. :)
  • KarKingJack
    -1  
    Over a year ago
    LOL@your mistrusting boyfriends

    1 - No, lol
    2 - That wouldn't be my line of thought but, essentially
    3 - Ofcourse.
    4 - Yeah. Well, not born loose, surely. I mean that's gonna be a deformation, born loose, hahaha. But to happen by natural means yeah
    5 - I think there are far worse things you gotta worry about if it drives you to surgery

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    • Answerer
      Over a year ago
      Your very welcome
    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for taking your time to responding. :)
  • archer86
    10377  
    Over a year ago
    Ittai nan da kore wa?!?!?!?!?!? Your boyfriend is BAKA BAKA BAAAAKAAAAAA! The Japanese people are known for being polite, even deliberately and he is clearly destroying that image. He sounds like a rude...American! Sorry folks, we are known for having a lack of tact in the world.

    1. You cannot tell by looks if a woman has had lots of sex in her life unless she is clearly dressed up as a sex worker. Any person who says othewise is a fool with a liar's habit.

    2. I would have sex with any woman I like, personality really counts in an OLDER MAN'S perspective. Even if she is not a keeper, I am not one to turn down sex with a woman unless there is something definitely wrong with her, such as insanity, drug use, etc.

    3. A woman's breasts, vagina, butt has no impact on my desire to marry her. None. Her personality, bad habits, evil demeanor however are important factors.

    4. Skin pigments are something people are born with. Daijoubu desu.

    5. NEVER get surgery over something like this. Surgery is for health issues, not image.

    Anata wa kankan nai, kore wa. Anata wa utsukushii hoonto. Don't worry about this, you are definitely a splendid woman. If you are nonsmoker, use no drugs and are nice person, you should be able to find better men. Ever thought of dating American man? let's talk onegai shimasu. I have passport.

    Oyasumi nasai, ojoosan.

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    • Answerer
      Over a year ago
      It is too bad you do not have a pic in your profile, I bet you are KAWAIIIIIIIIII!
    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      thanks for responding. :)
  • marwan
    94  
    Over a year ago
    first of all,i'll answer on your first question :p...it's totally wrong,why a guy find a charmer girl (25 years old, asian, and I’ve got cute face and nice body, good personality, ) it can help him to get so f***ing attached,and what vagina brings,is just penetration and licking your clitoris it's just the feeling of aghrrrrr...anw..
    1: no ,false,because there are so many girls who had lots of sex before their p**** still clear and white.like blondies ,their p**** is always pink but brunette and ebony's may have dark ones it;s so normal,
    2:hehe past is for her (you) it's not my business,but if think she is a keeper while cheating on me,i wont,
    3:nahhhhh,boys loves vagina,there is no ugly vagina,put it up in your head,since it smells good you wash it and take a bath before having love or sex,it's almost great,it's not a wall to brake marriage,
    4:yes
    5:you should face him,and let him face the truth,it is your past,he has nothing to do with it,he have to offer you a better future if he was a real confident man,no

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    • Answerer
      Over a year ago
      sure I mean them,if I don't I wouldn't all that paragraph for you!
      you should notice what is going on and what to do...i tried to be honest and clearer than ever,as long as you might have some benefits to yourself
    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      thanks for taking your time to responding, do you really mean all those? or you're just telling me things I wanna hear I wonder?
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    Over a year ago
    1=probably a lot of guys would think so as different c*ck sizes makes d p**** loose .
    2=no because I'm a nice guy however some guys may wanna f*ck you 2 make themselves feel happy
    3=big no 4 me .as you hav slept wid not 1, not 2 but as many as 6 guys as it appears.however a some guy may find you attractive and can marry u
    4=i think so but they are very few in no.
    5=what is d guarantee that your surgery would b a successful 1 if any thing goes wrong you would feel sorry 4 your decision.if a guy really likes you the size,shape,color of your vagina won't matter 2 him

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      thanks for taking your time to responding. :)
 

What Girls Said

  • She-wolf
    461  
    Over a year ago
    The pigmentation and looseness is likely genetic. And no, don't get surgery. Do kegels exercises, they wil tighten you up. You don't loose tightness from sex, you lose it from menopause and vagina childbirth.

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  • Yukey
    754  
    Over a year ago
    Build up muscles
    Maybe your vaginal walls aren't very developed
    Just don't over-do it or ull regret ever even THINKINg of having a child (it hurts like a btch the more muscular you are aparently)
    Whnen you get at that point >>
    As of for the color, that's not something you can influence its genetics
    Unless you have some infection or something

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    Anonymous User
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    Over a year ago
    Lol the vagina is ugly by nature, srsly your boyfriend is a bit dumb lmao, anyways, you can always go for anal, it's a win-win situation after all and he doesn't have to feel disgusted when he's doing your vag, besides, vaginal is getting a bit old now, anal is the way (not saying you shouldn't do vaginal, just saying you need to get with the flow) because anal is now a must in hetero couples, liek I said, win-win situation.

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    Anonymous User
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    Over a year ago
    what the hell? there's no such thing as an ugly vagina. honestly, if that's someone's reaction, he needs to grow the hell up

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  • diosadelanoche
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    Over a year ago
    He probably "can't feel anything" because his d*** is too tiny. What kind of tool would say something like that to his girlfriend? Don't change yourself for this shallow asshole.

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  • selfishstars
    37795  
    Over a year ago
    1. No, you cannot tell if someone has had a lot of sex in the past simply by looking at her vagina. The colour of your vagina does not change based on the amount of sex or number of sexual partners you've had. Further, contrary to popular belief, having a lot of sex does not make you "loose". The vagina is very stretchy and can even stretch enough to allow you to pass a baby through it. Now, if you've given birth, it is possible that your vagina will not go back to its pre-delivery size, but a penis is much smaller and will not stretch a vagina so much that it becomes "loose". If a woman if having sex with a very large guy, her vagina can stretch to accommodate it and she may get used to his size, but if she were to stop having sex with him for a bit, it would go back to its natural size. Even if that weren't true, your boyfriend questioning the NUMBER of people you've slept with is ignorant, rude, and immature. He's basically suggesting that you're lying, and in reality, the number of people you've had sex with isn't necessarily representative of the AMOUNT of sex you've had (i.e. you could have sex with one partner twice a day for 5 years and that would mean you've had more sex than if you had 5 partners and only had sex with them a couple of times each).

    4. Yes, definitely. Vaginas come in all different colours and sizes. And the fact that the guy you lost your virginity to questioned whether or not you were a virgin suggests that this is just your natural size.

    5. Don't get surgery done. Talk to your boyfriend about why his comments are unwarranted and explain to them that they are hurtful to you. If he continues to make these comments and cannot accept that this is simply how you are, then maybe its time to reassess if you want this guy as a boyfriend.

    In the meantime, you may find it helpful to start doing kegel exercises. These are exercises done to strengthen your PC (pubococcygeus) muscles of the pelvic floor. Next time you go pee, stop your pee midstream. The muscles you use to stop urinating are the PC muscles. Throughout the day, take the time to contract these muscles for 5 seconds, then relax for 5 seconds. Do that 5 times in a row (don't do it while you're peeing, only do that once so that you know which muscles to focus on). Work your way up to contracting for 10 seconds and relaxing for 10 seconds, doing this 10 times in a row, 3 times a day. Doing this may help your vagina feel tighter, and it will for sure give you better control of your muscles so that during sex, you're able to squeeze your vagina tightly around his penis. Ben wa balls (vaginal weights) can also be used in the same way to stregthen your PC muscles.

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    • Answerer
      Over a year ago
      You're welcome. :)
    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question, Really appreciate it! :)
  • darlanoy0510
    7712  
    Over a year ago
    I personally think that those guys shouldn't be asking you these questions. If they are your boyfriend, they should accept you and your defect vagina(which I find it normal and nothing wrong w it) so why would they care how about guys you slept with because I'm sure they slept w more girls then that. If you have to accept their past, they have to be willing to do the same.

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for taking your time to responding. :)
  • TheDarkNoodle
    -1  
    Over a year ago
    F*** HIM. Just tell him your obviously meant for bigger better things.

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    • Over a year ago
      by "F*** HIM" she really means don't f*** him
    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for making me laugh for the first time of the day, really appreciate it! :)
    • Over a year ago
      Teehee
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    Anonymous User
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    Over a year ago
    dump him immediately. if you're telling the truth, then he is really being rude and he doesn't respect you nor anything you say.
    yes you can be born like that.
    do your kegels if you're so concerned. Honestly, he's not a nice guy. leave him.

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for taking your time to responding and the Kegel suggestion. :)
  • sarahhouse
    479  
    Over a year ago
    DUMP HIM! NOW!

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for taking your time to responding. :)
    • Over a year ago
      I am inclined to agree with Friend Sarah...who needs that sh**? Needs to take a long walk on a very short dock...
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    Anonymous User
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    Anonymous User
    Over a year ago
    Do your exercises guuurl! You can train your vagina to be tight! And dark is just pigmentation and has nothing to with having had a lot of sex.

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for your time and the Kegel suggestion. :)
    • Over a year ago
      You are spot on. My ex girlfriend always did her kegel exercises and became super tight like you culd not believe. she even got me to start doing the male version of kegel exercises. Kept it a going routine for years.
  • kewkewsie
    1441  
    Over a year ago
    break up with him immediately, he's not worth your time, couldn't even scoop dog sh*t with his carcass.

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    • Question Asker
      Over a year ago
      Thanks for taking your time to responding. :)
    • Over a year ago
      HAHAHAHAHA! you are funny! and I agree...
 
   
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