Guys I need your help, is this normal?

It's not all the time that it happens, but it has been known to .
He probably hasn't tried for more because he doesn't want to upset you, because you are friends .

A guy won't pay you that much attention if he doesn't want in your pants, unless he's gay and wants to be your BFF.

He doesn't want to do something that he isn't sure you want. then again, you aren't entirely sure about him either. so you can talk about it, that would probably be best, but awkward. Just try to hint him

If more is wanted break the ice. Let him know it's ok. Sometimes it's just a sore subject and girls have made it so difficult to talk to them about it because so many freak out and do dumb stuff, that we are less apt now days to say hey lets do it. The come thing that is abnormal for sure... well good luck, and remember all you have to do is let him in on the fact that hey it's ok to talk about it... Let him know your willing that's all you have to show, and he'll jump on the opertunity. Less he's gay? But I don't think that should be a problem or else why would he come? AHHH...

AlPiNe~

Having a girlfriend makes it complicated, of course. If you really like him you should talk to him about it. Has his girlfriend ever seen you two acting like that? How does he act with you around her? If he isn't doing stuff like that when she's around, then he does enjoy having fun with you- to the point that he doesn't want her to know. He might not be trying for more cause he knows it's wrong. He might also be considering if he should leave her for you, after all once he starts going for more he has to deal with the issue that he's involved with two girls at the same time. For him, it might just be easier to have his girlfriend and be very "friendly" with you while not crossing that line. Short answer- He might be trying to keep from cheating, but is very tempted.

Weird - something straight out of Proust, though the narrator was much younger...

Well, first off, are you both single? If yes.....please continue. He might have an issue with trying to push wrestling into foreplay. Imagine how embarrassing it would be to be wrestling and playing and then sudden you grope and continue with the result being "What the HELL do you think you're doing???" He might do it if you flit a little more out side of the wrestling so that he has a clear idea that it would be ok. Then again.....women need to take a more aggressive role. Quit leaving all the risk to the guys *chuckles* Next time, grab him first and see what he does.

Maybe he doesn't try for more because he doesn't know how to proceed to the next level from the wrestling match. Do you know how experienced he is when it comes to dating women? Most guys of course won't tell you that they are not experienced---and by this I mean, do they feel comfortable dating a girl and then making moves to try to get some type of 'action'.

Even if he doesn't tell you about his exploits or lack of them, I'm sure that by his behavior you can tell if he is a 'smooth operator' or if he is one of the shy guys.

It sounds to me that he is not experienced enough to make the next move, and that's because he might be insecure about how to proceed. However, you do mention he is a good guy friend. Have you ever said something like--'we're just friends, or you my best bud etc'? Cause if so, then maybe that is also stopping him.

The idea of drinking and coming onto him---well, could also backfire because what if he thinks...'hey, she is drunk...i'm not gonna take advantage..." I wouldn't do it that way, plus that could also be a turn off. Unless he is one of those drinking guys....

The funny thing is that if you guys are wrestling and he gets all worked up, and you can see he is all worked up, then you can easily say in a playful, flirtatious way...."wow, I didn't know you liked me that way...do you find me attractive? would you date me?'

Lets say he responds, "yes I find you attractive", then you can reply, "well, why don't you ask me out?" So is kind of a playful way, but at the same time you're getting to the bottom of the matter, without using alcohol.

Are you saying he comes in his pants just from wrestling around? He could just be hesitant because it sounds like has a premature ejaculation, and doesn't want to embarrass himself. I like David C's trick myself. I like it because I've done it, and it works!

Well, I wouldn't say that it was normal exactly. Not a bad thing, but not normal. To answer your other questions, yes, he's very obviously attracted to you. He's a guy, so I'm going to say that there is a good 99.999999% chance that he wants to fool around. The last and most important question is a lot harder to answer though. There are a lot of reasons why this guy isn't making a move. If he's got a girlfriend then that's why. He might be afraid that you don't like him the way he likes you and doesn't want to lose the friendship. He might be afraid of rejection. He might be afraid that starting a relationship would change things too much. I'm sure I could think of more reasons but they aren't really important.

The important thing that you have to do is talk to your friend or maybe just do more things together that only involve the two of you. Try and give him hints that you would like something more and don't get frustrated if he doesn't get the hints right away. Some guys are a little clueless (or extremely, unbelievably clueless) about that kind of thing. There are other things that you could do that are a little more sneaky. You could (if you are over 21 and don't have to drive anywhere) drink a little bit, act more drunk than you are and come on to him. Make sure he's drinking too though. Then if everything goes bad, blame it on the booze and go back to being friends. Like I said it's sneaky and kind of cowardly, and I personally wouldn't do it but, it could work.