Did we have sex?

if his penis went inside ur vagina
its sex

I really don't want to have to say this but there is the slim possibility that someone raped you while you were passed out or not fully coherent.

As far as being sore, it depends on what type of messing around you two were doing and how much/hard you were doing it.

Not that this will help you much now, a month later, but if something similar ever happens MAKE SURE you take "the morning after pill". It Should keep you from getting pregnant. From what I've heard anyway. Even if you know, or think, you used "protection" (condom or something else).

One way or the other I think in a situation like that "the morning after pill" would probably be a good idea. Use your own judgment though and make sure you consult a doctor before making any medical decisions.

If your a virgin; then he would have had to break the hymen. In that case there would have been blood. If there was not; then your still a virgin. If your sore it could have been that he ate you out. Most guys have no idea what to do down there, and wind up making the girl sore from to much sucking. Ofcourse asking him might give you some closer. I know it might be an akward thing to ask, but you do have a right to know.

Yeah it does seem like would remember if you had sex unless you were out cold but the soreness shouldn't have come from just messing around. Your friend would have to be worst than a total jerk to penetrate you without your knowledge. That's worst than being a prev. Okay, two things could have happened. First he could have gotten you preg, and second he could have given you an STD since one in 4 young people have one. But that's just crazy what you did and I don't give you credit for that. Just ask him. No sense being shy about that when it comes to something that important, unless to you it's not.

u only cud be sore if he used his fist, I'm afraid you may had sex and losing ur virginity that way *hugs*

No its not normal to be sore from messing around maybe he penetrated you a bit.I would suggest just asking him outright in jokey way maybe like 'Do you remember anything that happened' And if he says no then you'll never know I suppose. Maybe he fingered you really roughly?

I've passed out while having sex and gained consciousness again still having sex I remembered it. It's one of those things you would remember unless you blackout the whole way through.
Just ask him anyway. It shouldn't be awkward. Just laugh about it afterwards and ease it off before saying something else or walking away.

yea id just ask him.something like that happened to me and I just asked the guy if we did or not...i was a virgin too...

Don't be afraid of asking. You should ask as well if he used a condom. You can be sore from messing around if he used his fingers on you, but if you passed out that is doubtful. It sounds like you might have been taken advantage of. In other words raped. Though I know it is unlikely that you will, but you can press charges against him if he had sex with you while you were passed out. It is considered a sexual assault if you were incapable of expressing your consent - which is what drinking does to you. Makes you incapable of expressing consent. I don't know what state you live in (or what country for that matter), but you can check with the local laws to see the specifics.
If you passed out, you couldn't have possibly remembered it.
What he did was wrong, he took advantage of you and you can potentially have an STD or even be pregnant if no birth control was used. Please ask him what really happened that night. Get tested anyway just to be safe. And though this may not be the popular opinion, consider going to the authorities. He took advantage of you. Liking a guys is not consent for sex. Messing around is not consent for sex.

Before you guys jump all over my ass for assuming she was raped - no matter how willing the girl was BEFORE she passed out - you legally cannot have sex with her. She can press charges on you for having sex with her while she is drunk. In certain states, she does not even have to be passed out. Guys should be more careful when messing with drunk girls - not matter how willing she may be drunk, she CAN press charges when she sobers up. If she is considered underaged - you would have to be registered as a sex offender for the rest of your life. I can't see how any p**** is worth that.

if you did have sex, it is painful for the first time, but at the same time sometimes when you fool around you get sore. so its hard to tell. I would just grow a set and ask him.

it sounds like you need to be asking him that, not a bunch of random strangers online. being an adult means owning up to your actions and taking responsibilty for them. if you don't ask him, you'll never know for sure.

if ur friend knew you were a virgin and he really cared about you he wouldn't have had sex with you so the first thing id do would be to ask him yourself. and about the soreness.u definately would know if you had sex trust me ud feel it