Can guys truly be "just friends" with a girl?

i definately think it's possible... however there needs to be that understanding that you're "just friends" between both of you becuase you don't want to ruin your friendship.

They probobly still like you. But are trying to force themselves away from it. So the girls I'm friends with I will keep telling myself this is just a friend talk about normal stuff respect her feelings. But I'm having to repress my feelings for the girl. Those guys are having to repress there feelings for you. There doing it because you want a friendship. But this isn't easy. Guys can't just turn off there feelings no matter how much you might want us to. Its part of who we are and how we are wired. But think of the brightside. The opposite would be a world wear guys had very little feelings toward women. And it would take a troumendous amount of work just to get a guy to like you. In reality we like girls and have trouble turning that switch off. We work at it though. You should realize this is a compliment to you. I wish girls didn't get offended by this stuff. I guess that's why we hide it from you.

Thats tough...
They'd have to really see you in another light.
I mean, if they find you attractive now, then what's REALLY going to stop them from seeing you as attractive?

Its so hard to be friends with a female, because you hang with them, and even if there isn't a physical attraction, you start to develop a mental attraction.
& that's actually stronger.

SO as far as they not liking you anymore as potential hook-up...
Your really looking at a good 5% chance of that happening.

What I tell my female friends is being pretty has its perks, but it also has its disadvantages.
A Gift and a Curse if I may say...
& this happens to be part of the curse...

I hope this helped...
I know its late but still, if you needed it then...maybe...


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

It's pretty hard. If I am attracted, I will try really hard to be seen as a good friend but, deep down, I am hoping "good friend" might get me what I want. Most guys know that most women will have a crisis eventually and secretly hope they are the one she turns too in her time of need.

I can be friends with a girl: 1. if I find her unattractive, 2. if dating her would be risky, 3. I'm trying to get with her friend, or I already am with her, or 4. I tried to make a pass at her but screwed it up. (I don' t do this anymore.)

I never quite got the logic of "just friends". The majority of my friends are female and I have had sex with most of them. In fact, the sexually interest is often what started the friendship. I might only sleep with them a few times to satisfy the curiosity but the initial interest is still sexual. Not sure I lose that interest until I sleep with the person but often it goes away rapidly if the sex doesn't "click".
fwiw, I have had many of female friends for years, some continuing to be sexual and others tapering off for whatever reason (distance, monogamous marriage etc). I don't think sex is actually an impediment to a friendship. It is certainly something that I enjoy doing with my friends. There is, however, the risk that you will get through the sex and realize that your interest in the person is sated. That is kind of awkward.

Sadly, people don't accept that sexual interest is a real interest and they try to dress it up as being something else. I find that sort of behavior dishonest. I have a special contempt for guys who want to pretend they no sexual interest in a woman while using the social artifice of friendship to get close to her and let "true love" do their dirty work. These guys also get really, really hateful when the woman, believing their lie about just friends treats them like a friend rather that ripping off their clothes and rewarding their gallant knight with hot sweaty sex.

Simply way to figure this one out is offer to sleep with them. Someone who is honestly not interested in you sexually will sheepishly decline while the guys who are using the true love angle will suddenly change profoundly, more often than not confessing their undying love (least til they come).

It's very possible to be platonic friends with a girl but just like girls, guys will lie and try to presuade you over time to like them if they like you.

You'll just have to use your judgement and your friends judgement as to whether or not a guy is truly a platonic friends or his intentions are elsewhere.

There's no guide or "101 ways to know if he is a friend" book that will teach the subtle hints. You'll just have to get out there and learn.

Just know it's possible but soldemly very slim.

I think they can be just friends because if I find that I'm having fun with someone while hanging out with them then like I'm just friends with them! It's very possible! Especially if you're not physically attracted to them but have things in common. Come on now, don't make things more complicted than they have to be!

unfortunately it's very hard for a guy to just be friends with a girl if he finds her attractive. and a lot of times I wonder if guys become friends with certain girls only because they want and hope for something more.