Do You think U'r Better than Every1 else Becuz U'r a Virgin

I feel like I've just answered this yesterday so here was my answer yesterday:

Few guys consider it rare now because of the double standard that most guys aren't virgin, however guys want virgins but that doesn't leave too many girls who are virgin left. It is sometimes a factor in relationships, but personally I believe that there are other crucial factors that are critical for a relationship to work ie. he doesn't care if you are virgin or not, he loves you; that would be the #1 trait would look for in a guy. Some cultures revere it, and it has such a high standard in some subgroups of cultures. But if that were a fact, then those who lost their virginity would be deemed all lower than those who are virgin suggesting that there is some heirarchy of people. It's good to give it to someone who deserves it, someone who cares about you, obviously their are girls out there who may have been sexually molested or raped or gave it to some one who didn't care and just used them. If they have to be treated as lower classed to girls who are virgin, I don't believe that this society would have any aspect of integrity or moral regard to the victims of such moral crimes. So I guess the question should be should virginity override all other aspects/ things that an individual has to offer in a prospective relationship? answer=no. if the guy is for real and not overly religious and loves you for who you are as a human being, it shouldn't matter if a girl is virgin or not. Just being not a virgin doesn't imply she is a whore, but I do understand that isn't your question. Some guys say they would respect a girl more if she were a virgin and that would be implying that they have some internalized heirarchy and as I said before girls who were molested/ raped/ forced into sexual abusive situations are deemed worthless and I wouldn't agree with that. If a guy said that to me I would kick his sorry ass. ;*) I feel virginity is another form of objectifying a woman. But once you've been in the shoes or can emphathize with women who had to go through abusive situations, you might understand and may already understand that guys are all different. Some religions say that sex b/4 marriage is sin, however it may just be a clever way of preventing girls from getting hurt; however then those people don't really learn how to protect themselves. Some guys are virgin to be with a virgin girl w/e and I honestly think it shouldn't matter if the view of such subjective heirarchial labelling of women wasn't so demeaning to those who were victims or who made a mistake and thus I think people who think so highly of virginity are somewhat narrow-minded; That's my personal opinion. I don't care of anyone else does care, this is my answer lol ;*)

and yes, I do feel it's arrogant to assume you're better if you're a virgin. good for you that you kept it, wonderful for you because you don't have to go through the agony of someone who didn't care, hopefully

yeah totally you guys suck ass I'm an awesome virgin who can CONTROL himself! lol jk jk who cares? virgins are just people who can't get any

I think Every Girl Has a Uniqueness about themselves Virgin or non Virgins they're just taught Differently. Nobody is better than anyone unless they're able to fly and bullets can't penetrate their flesh.

no, in fact I consider myself lower because I take my virginity and add total ignoring and not touching girls. this shows me I have my own personal issues, which definitely doesn't make me any better than non virgins. I appreciate non virgins for the fact that theyll actually try and make something work while I remaine cooped up and alone because of my sad fears.
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Yes and no. Its a personal choice, let people do whatever makes them happy is my motto. I am not going to enforce my personal beliefs upon someone else, its there choice.

However, by being a virgin until marriage, it shows that I have self-control and don't listen to the sex-ridden crap that society and the media like to impound on me. I like to know that I am one of the few left that have dignity in a society where like 75% (might even be 90%, I forget the rising figures anymore) of the population has had sex before marriage.

Virginity has nothing to be with being a person... everyone make mistakes and falls. I assure you that you wont't find a single person in this world that hasn't made a mistake in this lifetime... if you do... let me know... because I'll bow my knees to such a person... =)
In my opinion what is more important is finding the love that you were meant for in this lifetime, a person that your willing to spend this lifetime with. Anyone could spot a wrong answer... but not all could spot a wrong question. =T

It depends how the girl lost her virginity. I think I'm better than girls who lose their virginity drunk at parties, sure.

No worse, no just unlucky, no but I want to lose it to a virgin girl! Guys generally want to lose their virginity quick, those few social retards and rarities that are virgins aren't thinking of ourselves better than the girl who had her fun. But I don't want to make all those offers that I turned down go to waste and settle with a girl that had her fun when I chose not to.

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I don't THINK I'm better than everyone. I KNOW it. Ha ha ha ha.

Not because I'm a virgin. just overall.

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I would try not to be condescending about it, but honestly, I want someone who waited. I'd prefer a virgin because I would think at least as far as certain level of intimacy goes, we'd tend to agree.

Personally, I'd have more of a problem psychologically than comparing her; "IS she comparing me? Am I smaller? I'm I doing the right things?" etc. If I knew she had had a lot of partners, I'd have to question these things, plus issues like "Could I get an STD?" "Could I become sterile?" I'm screwing things up. Does she really love me, or am I just another notch on her bedpost?

Don't think anyone can judge anyone for how they explore there sexual experience.

Though for me - Still a virgin and not because I couldn't do it before, had plenty of opportunities. Not waiting for marriage or anything. Just sparing myself for a girl that will bring strong feelings out for her. My first night - She will know that it is she who I've waited for all this time.
I don't think that if I won't be having sex right now - Like I am loosing lifetime experience. I will be having a lot of time exploring in future with the one I care for.
With correct feelings the first time will be unique - When some other people don't appreciate first times its their lost, but I ain't judging anyone for making such decision.
Being 20 and still a virgin is not easy lol can tell you that :D But I think its all worth it. And it would be no doubt a shame to give up now when I've come this far already.

I would ask the trinity.

actually I think the exact opposite that I'm the inferior one and they're better than me because they lost theirs already and I haven't because I'm not good enough to or that they must be hotter than me since they lost there's already and I still have mine

no

I think it is foolish to think of oneself as better than anyone else. Virginity is relatively unimportant measured against all the goings on in everyday life. Besides, who is anyone to judge another person?
While, I think virginity status is irrelevant and that it is silly to harp on it, I do believe that loving and caring for your body, mind, and spirit (whatever you believe it to be) is vitally important. This is why I am opposed to random or hook-up sex. Basically, if someone is being reduced to the sum of their body parts, it's repulsive to me. It wouldn't cause to think less of individuals engaging in casual sex. I would just feel concern for them. If the sex is meaningful and is coming from a place of love, I congratulate the lovers.

I think in one aspect I am better than others... and in other aspects they are better than me... I think anyone woman or man that has had more than 3 sexual partners is contaminated flehs.

No. No. and No.

Your life, your decision.

i do not think I'm better because I am a virgin. people lose it at different times and for different reason it is non of my business what other poeple are doing and ii have no right to say anything about anyone. its their choices.

Oh hell no! Just because I'm a virgin doesn't give me a superior edge to anyone. I mean I guess the church would say that I'm a good person because I'm pure but I think the whole decision about being a virgin or just having a lot of sex or just having sex with only a few people before mariage is a personal decision. You can't judge superiority on something like virginity in todays world.

I remember by girlfriends in college, they were all virgins and I was not in our Junior year of college. They all thought guys should bend over backwards for them because they were virgins. They always talked about purity LOL. It was really crazy because mutual guy friends that dated them told me about all of the dirty oral they gave LOL. I know they were doing things that I didn't have to do.

Of my 5 close virgin friends, 1(Kim) of them thought they were better than me for that reason. Kim called a guy that I was dating (Devin) and asked him if we had sex. He dated her cousin previously, was in a fraternity and I was introduced by a guy (Ken) with was my BFF since Freshman year HS. Ken and I dated each others friends. Devin, Ken and I were both pissed that Kim called him, she got the number from her cousin. Devin and I were just enjoying dating and hanging out. Kim told my other virgin friends about it and they all came to me to discuss whether I was going to have sex with Devin.

LOL, eventually it came out that they thought they were better than me because I wasn't a virgin. They made decisions to wait, and I made a decision to have sex. It didn't suddenly make me stupid. The funny thing about it was that my 'virgin' friends would give oral and say stuff like 'I'm a virgin but I can do other things' f*ing sluts!LMAO soon it all came out that they were whores and one girl got gonnorhea in her throat, can you guess which one? Virgin Kim LMFALOL! Two of the Virgins didn't participate in any sexual activity. I remained friends with those two girls because they weren't hipocrites. The other 3 girls were all on videotapes giving BJ's.

Being a virgin is something that you should not give up easily, but it doesn't mean you are better than anyone else or make all better decisions than anyone else. It just means that you didn't have sex. I don't advocate people having sex with a lot of partners either, or STD's or pregnancy without marriage. I also don't advocate people who think they are any more moral because they are virgins. Virgins make a lot of bad decisions just like people who are not virgins. Christians, Jews, Muslims, Jehovas Whitnesses, Mormons are not without fault either. We are all sinners and if you haven't sinned yet, no doubt you will eventually sin. We are all human, no better than anyone else. You never know what you may do when given the appropriate stimuli and a choice to make. Kick Rocks Losers!

nope, not at all.

Well, I'm not a virgin, but I don't think most think that way. Sure, someone out there does. But not all of them.

As a sexually active female, though, I can say that it bothers me that too many women and men have sex before they are really prepared. I think too many make the leap into sexuality before they really understand the responsibility they are taking on. I mean, it's really life and death with the pregnancy risk and STD chances now. And most teens and young adults don't really understand it. Plus, I've often seen it used as some tool, and that upsets me. It should be something special, whether it is with your husband or just a guy you know, not as a tool to get popular or to get noticed, get the promotion, etc. That is what bothers me.

As a nonvirgin, I can honestly say I don't look down on virgins for being virgins, though. I don't look at them and think they are poor little innocent people that don't live or something. I commend them on making a personal choice that is right for them, the same way I commend those who make the choice to have sex in a responsible manner when they are ready for it.

I don't think that I'm necessarily better than those who are unmarried and have had sex but I am proud to be one especially compared to those who have sex all the time with whoever. Of course with the way I grew up [very sheltered] I haven't had any opportunity to be physical with a guy until recently but I am still proud for telling myself that I won't be having sex until I'm married.

i personally am waiting for mr. right and for marriage. I don't think I'm better than anyone else, in fact, I am not so high and mighty. I view sex as a more intimate action than marriage because in marriage you say the vows that join you and your partner. but for sex you are physically joining together. if that makes any sense. and I have friends who have had sex, obviously I don't think any less of them for it because they're still my friends. the girls at my school are known for being sluts, whores, etc. that's because most of the girls don't respect their bodies, they are attention whores. and I think they want to do "what the adults are doing" and of course the thing with, "i want to make my boyfriend happy" I don't think any less of them for having sex.

the way I view virginity is like a candy bar. the first time you have sex, you unwrap that candy bar. as you go through partners, you have that candy bar, but it melts. and when you finally get to "the chosen one" for you, you have a little melted candy bar to give them.

sorry if I offended anyone, I really just wrote the above statement as a personal view. I just want to reiterate how I do NOT think lowly of non-virgin (is that a word?) girls and I definitely do not think that I am a better person than everyone else! that's just stupid, to think things like that. I am also not higher than anyone because of being a virgin. I have so many faults and I am not always "little miss princess".


sorry it was so long. I just get emotional lol

did I come across as preachy? if so I'm SO sorry! I really didn't mean to seem like I was forcing my opinion down everyone's throats.

no way! I still am but I don't look at any girls differently or especially look at myself better, if anything they look at me different because I haven't had sex. The pressure is on around here and its a shame how all my friends are handing out their virginity like candy, they aren't afraid of pregnancy, disease etc. its very sad I'm just waiting for the right man

I don't understand the whole hoopla that comes with being a virgin. It doesn't mean that you are innocent or pure. It doesn't mean that you have standards or that you value yourself more than other women. All it means is that you haven't had sex. I was a virgin until 19. It wasn't that I was waiting for Mr. Right, I was just focused other things besides having sex. When I finally got around to losing my virginity, I wasn't a different person afterwards.
People place too much value on sex. Some of the nicest girls I know are total freaks in bed. They do things that I wouldn't even consider - and I'm pretty freakish myself. Does that make them sluts or whores? Not all people who love sex want to have multiple partners - some of the most committed couples just have a lot of sex. Sex shouldn't even be a factor when choosing a partner - the REASON that they are having sex should be what you focus on. Broken is broken - whether they're virgins or not. I've had plenty of partners, not because I needed to feel wanted, mostly because I was horny and my vibrator didn't make good conversation. (Of course with the advancement in vibrator technology today, I'm sure they do that now as well. But I digress - ) Sex is something that healthy, normal women want. And they shouldn't be made to feel any other way just because society doesn't agree with that.
If being a virgin is important to you, good for you. You are special if you are holding out for the guy that's right for you, or marriage, or whatever. I think it's a beautiful thing that want to save those feelings for someone you love. I didn't feel the same way and that doesn't make me less of a woman.

I don't think I'm "better." I don't think there's a better or worse when it comes to virginity? Everyone has their own beliefs about when they're ready. For me, I'm ready to have sex, but only when I'm in a steady relationship with someone I love (which I'm not yet). I don't think less of girls who aren't virgins. I only have one friend left that is still a virgin! The only girls I think less of are the ones that have sex with everyone because of low self esteem. and even then, I don't really think less of them, I just feel bad for them.