Im disturbed by my ex boyfriends actions

Get away, stay away. Six months, minimum. Take a moment to heal, then find a cute boy to hook up with. (Straight this time, ok? XD)

For some extra karma points, once your off the rebound and over him, drop him a line and let him know that his behavior is troublesome. The closet tends to make gay guys dysfunctional and dangerous to themselves. He needs to come out and get his head right before some jerk takes advantage of him.

My advice would be to move on. Tell him you wish him well and start dealing with the feelings you had for him on your own. It's hard, depressing at times, and difficult to leave somebody behind but in this case it's the best thing emotionally and healthwise.

No one here is mentioning this, but if he's having encounters with other men, that puts you at risk for all kinds of diseases. You can't leave your health in his hands, by assuming he's wearing protection in these other encounters. Look out for number one get past your emotional attachment to this guy in any way possible and protect your health or you'll seriously regret. Take it one day at a time without calling him and each day you'll find it gets a little bit easier. It never goes away, but it does get easier. I've been through. It's one of the hardest things you'll ever do, but set a goal for yourself each day and fight through it.

if ur a friend.u will accept him as how he is now.he could be bi so could be still in love with you too.we all have secrets so you never know, you could be the only person to be really able to help him through this.so being supportive and a friend could really bring you closer to him in the long run.

so you were
looking through
his personal
email
and online account
and found out
he was gay?


privacy much?

well it sounds like you just need to let it go.i mean if he is gay he used you to cover up his sexuality.first off that's not right for him to do.second even if you do love him you have to remember that even though you may have been dating he did not think of you in the same way.im not sure if this really helps but this guy used you and its not right.

I'd say that you can tell him "I know you're gay, and I'm fine with that, but you should be safe for your own sake."

Ok so I went thru the same thing. I found out differently but the outcome is the same. He is gay he probably loves you (not how you want but he probably does), and you love him.

It took me a few visits to a therapist and a year to recover from depression so trust me I know a thing or too.

1. Give the man some space. Give your self some space.

2. You need to understand that although he might love you he does not loves you as a girlfriend and that relationship will never work. He is who he is and you can't just change him. You could make a man put his dirty cloth on the laundry basket instead of the floor but you can't make him like you if he is gay!

3. You will go from broken hearted to ANGRY, why? Because whether it was his intention or not the fact is that he used you. My advise is put some distance, and for a while don't talk or email or see each other and just forgive and forget! Yeah yeah yeah! I know easier to said than done, but until that happens your wounds would not start to heal.

I hope these helps you a least a bit. It took me some time but I did all of that and although we are not as close as we used to when we where a couple, he is still a good friend of mine! It just things that happens and life just goes on!

BTW good luck!

It's understandable that finding out something so shocking could disturb you. It sounds like you guys were pretty close and it is a lot to digest when you see a side of him you never expected. The thing you need to do is give yourself some time to absorb this.
There really isn't anything you can do but accept the fact that he is gay and into things you don't understand. It doesn't change who he is - your friend, and it shouldn't change how you feel about him. I think in time, you can come to accept his choices for himself - especially if you withhold judgement. I'm sure he doesn't want to share this with anyone because he is afraid of their reactions, which is more than understandable.

Hmm I went out with a guy and didn't know he was gay. But idk, I mean we were friends and stuff and so I never felt differently about him because he was gay? You can confront him about it if you like. You can ask him if he's gay.
My cousin is gay. and he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years, telling her that he cheated on her with some other chick. He's so gay though. He has a gay friend who he goes on trips with and stuff. He's so gay. And he's such a liar. They are both such liars now that it's sickening. Maybe try to get him to be honest.
My cousin's ex-girlfriend now has a gorgeous hunk of a man on her arm on facebook. So she made out pretty well after all that.

just get him out of your life is all I can say. I think that's best