My girlfriend and I have been going through some rough times. We broke off long relationship and recently just got back together. We argued a lot but we're past that now because we realized how much we meant to each other and it's been a couple weeks since we got back together and all but...it seems like she wants to "do" it everyday. We have both been tested and the only protection we use is birth control (if I used condoms for every time I'd be in debt).
Weird thing is, we lost our virginities to each other about 3 months into our first relationship together(we started going out last november, lost it in feb, done it nearly everyday throughout the summer until nov when we broke up) and since she's on birth control she is on really short periods so there is hardly a day that goes by where we don't do anything.Sometimes we even do it 2-3 times a day, I'm lucky if I ever get a day off. Our families let us stay together at each others houses,so we basically live together and sleep in the same bed,etc.The day we got back together she threw me down and well.yeah.
I'm not really complaining or anything it's just sex to her is like a everyday thing on her schedule.I love her and all, we are even engaged to get married(technically) and we know we will end up with each other.I just rather wait for that special time(maybe once a day instead of 2-3 times,naturally my body can't keep up with it),waiting just makes it feel better ya know?
Oh and Im dating the type of girl who don't like to be fingered/self pleasured whatsoever and she gets cranky when I don't take care of her.The sex addiction isn't a problem,I know for a fact she won't cheat on me if I say no, and it's not her fault for being cranky because when we first started dating I was the one who wanted it everyday.
Doing it so much has just made me become more mature,instead of doing it for the feeling I rather do it for that special moment.I just wanna know how to say no without feeling bad,or at least make her want to do it less,around 5 times a week would be great.I've thought about talking to her about it before but when I hinted it the first time she said something along the lines of "don't you find me attractive?" and other thoughts came to my mind as in what if she thinks I'm cheating,etc.I do find her incredibly attractive and when she comes onto me I get caught up in the moment and lose all common sense.
You know, this posting helped me out quite a bit with my current situation. I seem to be on the girlfriend's side. I like it a lot. Every day. He has not been wanting it as much as myself, and I have been thinking the same thing. "don't you find me attractive?" Have even said that to him recently. Hearing a little something from a guy's perspective on this issue is very eye-opening. Maybe I should concentrate on the quality and not so much the quantity. I would make the same recommendation to you to talk to her about it, but you will have to be careful how you word it, or you will get the "you don't want me anymore??" from her.
Thanks for opening my eyes a little, and just approach her with the fact that you want the moments to be a little special sometimes and not an expected thing. And especially tell her that you are still as much attracted to her as always. Trying to help. That is what I want my guy to tell me. Something at least! Otherwise she will sit there like me when you don't show 100% interest every time and wonder if you just don't find her attractive anymore or the sex isn't as fun anymore. Best of Luck to you!
Im glad my question helped, I thought I was alone on this, but I'm glad to hear someone else is going through it. It's nice hearing it from a females perspective. Your absolutely right about the quality-quantity thing. Thanks for the advice. - 11 months ago
Don't let her guilt you into doing it Tell her this stuff tell you wanna cut down the days see how it goes...she should be able to understand.
if she doesn't and gets hissy about it then there might,(but might not keep that in mind), be something up ask her why the sudden change, the sudden addiction.
You can't make her want it less. You'll just have to nicely explain that your desire to do it slightly less than her has nothing to do with her. And she'll just have to accept that.
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When: 11 months ago
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