I have been with my bf for about 18 months. The 1st 6 months of our relationship we had a great sex life. After we moved in together I started finding all his magazines & videos. For the past 6-8 months our sex life has been pretty crappy. We have sex about once a month yet when I go to turn on the dvd player I'll find some porn in there at least once a week. I have brought it up to him before & he says its just because he's tired & that its perfectly normal. I want to hear from any guys out there..Is this normal????
Update: The sex did not get any better & we decided to split up about 2 weeks ago. At the end he told me that the lack of sex in our relationship should have been a clue that he was not happy.
8 months ago
im a man and its like this. porn is a substitute for a women not being there to pleasure a man. but if you have someone that's there to pleasure why do you need porn. I guess thats how men are. not me though
I just came across your update . I'm glad you left . Not only did he have a real problem, but then he showed a lack of class by trying to make you feel guilty as a parting shot .
Well, I know that 18 months is a long time, but it could have been 5 years like it is with so many . So, I consider you lucky in a way .
Next time you get involved, make sure he doesn't have a porn addiction . But you can't ask him, because he'll deny it . You need to actually take a look at his things . ;-)
Look, if he watches porn that will automatically bring down your sex life, because when you try to have sex with him he'll probably get mad, or it will die off somehow because he's seen all that porn which is guys giving it to the girls and the girls act like its the best thing in the world, so when he tries with you its not the same like in the movie. It's ok maybe watching a film onces in a while, but I think he has a problem and nothing good will come out of it, honestly. Plus, (sorry guys) but if your addicted to porn, you won't admit your an addict, so if you think its ok. Well finding a girl to put up with you is pretty hard. Its ok, just don't abuse it.
Not really but you should try some different sex positions and make it super interesting for him so he keeps begging for more. that should turn off his nasty porn/masturbation cause he will want to be in you so much. if that doesn't work make porn of yourself for him:P
Well, I love my porn! It is tough for the woman because she can not understand why a guy needs the porn. I still look at porn when I am in a relationship. It is not you, its the porn. He might have an addiction problem. When I am in a relationship, I still look at porn but not as much. Only if we are not together but I would hide my porn from my girlfriends. It is less if I am with a woman, but not that I really need to as before. He might have a sex addiction problem.
I don't think it has anything to do with not being attracted to her any more. Some guys just need a little something extra to view. as long as he is not taking the cake and trying to eat it as well. - 10 months ago
Its normal you just aren't keeping him interested sexually, try something new, experiment and he will be interested, also look at his porn see what he likes, and one day shock him put on a porn before he walks in he will love it and know you are interested too and the sex will happen more. My girlfriend watches porn with me she didn't at first though.
It is normal for some guys to watch porn, but I know for myself and a lot of other guys out there that porn and masturbation come second to being with thier girlfriend (or who ever they are having sex with) I would let him know that this bothers you and see if you can find a way that you guys can meet in the middle. Like you both get together and watch porn and mastrabate together
From a married women- It's normal. It shouldn't interfere with your sex life though. Did your sex drive decrease before or after you found the porn?
Have you ever tried watching porn together and mimicking what they're doing in the videos? Sounds like you guys just need to spice things up a little. Once a month isn't very much for a couple that's only been together 18 months. I'm pretty sure my 80 year old grandparents get down more often than that.
"I'm pretty sure my 80 year old grandparents get down more often than that." That's disgusting, I think I threw up a little in my mouth.... - 10 months ago
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Nothing's wrong with remaining active in your later years... Hugh Hefner will be 82 this year... Keeps the heart young :) - 10 months ago
Meh, Hugh is a poster boy for Viagra. I wouldn't be surprised if the only color Hugh sees these days is blue if indeed he pops them as if they were sugar pills. - 8 months ago
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