Am I a whore?

the word "slut" is very disrespectful towards women (I wouldn't use it either). So what if you slept with 9 guys are worse things in the world and this isn't one of them. So chill out with friends because its not a big deal.

As long as its fun, the word that guys throw around a lot is "pimp" so say that that's what you are, certainly more respectful than other words.

whores get paid

no you're not and you shouldn't worry what other people think. if you feel that you are then there is always time to change.

If you think you enjoyed all those guys and don't care what this world thinks then you are not 'dirty'.
But if you ask me ('still a virgin'), I think you are horribly spoil t kid because my standards and principles are different. Its all in the mind. If I was your dad I would have put you in some school for retards!

good I'm glad your slowing down lol

That's not to bad hell I'm 25 now and I have had sex with way to many girls I had been with 12 by the time I was 17 but I got started at 13 so it took me 4 years to get there

u are just 17?...dats just sad. really sad. you need to find out why you do what you do. do you do it because you just like sex or do you do it becasue you feel you need to do it to be kinda accepted or cool?
either way you are way to young to be having sex and you slept with 24 year old guys?!...dats illegal...those guys are pervards and obviously all they wanted was to sleep with u. until you gain some confidence and stop sleeping with guys and until you realize that guys should be the one tryin to get you instead of you sleeping with them easily, you will be seen as a slut and whore by most people and trust me, no guy wants a slut or whore...now don't get me wrong, they will probably sleep with you but as far as a relathionship, forget about it. you will just be the laughing stock of the neighborhood if you are not already

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no your not a so call whore you just need to slow down f***in people especially the if your going to family member to family member.

Hey I don't know you if you are still around... this question is pretty old. Some girls, when depressed, turn to sex to fill the voids in their life. Sex with guys is sort of an instant gratification. It makes those girls feel important and cared for. Many other people do the same thing with food. When they are feeling depressed they turn to the 1/2 Gallon of Chunky Monkey and Hot Fudge.

Yes you have probably slept with more people than the average 17 year old girl, but this could be your wake up call. A lot of guys like to be close to girls just to get laid. After some guys get laid they lose respect for the girl. By asking this question you are taking a leap forward in maturity. I think you may be starting to understand that you need to respect yourself before you receive respect from others.

You don't have to live up to the reputation that others have labeled you with. At the moment you may be considered quite easy, but it is never to late for you to change. Everyone learns from their mistakes and you can too. Find a guy who respects you. Find a guy that is willing to wait for you. It will mean so much more to you, and the other person, when you offer yourself to someone who actually cares.

Don't worry about what others say about you. You can always move out of your town and start a new beginning with new friends. Find people who will respect you and accept you for who you are. If you are going college enjoy it. Make new friends guys and girls. Respect them and they will show you respect in return.

good luck

yeah your a hoe. its the choice you made in your life deal with it even though it may seem as harsh as it sounds but its the truth lol. you can still change your ways but that doesn't really erase your history of guys you have messed around with.

YES YOU ARE!

yes

1. A guy who does what you did is considered a stud and gets nearly any critic , you feel guilty and got half of the posters here against you: do I smell the foul stench of double moral standards here?

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. John 8:7, Bible KJV

(No, I'm an atheist, then why do I throw Bible verse's around? Being a Christian doesn't make anyone better but there are things to be learned from the Bible and from the Quran, and from the Veda and from Medieval literature and from Greek poets and from...and from...)


2. You should speak about it with your school counsellor, since you have a problem with it.
3. You're NOT (repeat NOT!) a "whore" (and NOT a whore without " " either)
4. YES, You made some errors of judgment
5. You were blackmailed into having sex


USE CONDOMS!

I think you should only be concerned with what you think. So what if someone thinks ur slutty you should be proud to be yourself no matter what decision you make. :)

You're a little on the slutty side, but if it bothers you, change.

Um... unless they paid you, you're not a whore. But a slut I guess. No offense, but actually it is offensive anyways.

I think it is commendable that you are trying to improve. The wonderful thing about life and the gospel is that we don't have to be defined by our past. We can make a new future. I wish you the best of luck, and God bless you.

Maybe I should add, "Easy does it."

i wouldn't say that but I think you need to watch who you sleep with don't just give yourslef away

I wouldn't use a label like that on anyone, although I can see why some people might throw a term like that around. All you're doing is experimenting, and like most people, the only way we learn is through experience, having said that, there is a line where you could possibly be accused of having had a little TOO much experience.

The great thing about reputations, which I think is what you're ultimately concerned about here, is that they can be re-modelled. What that guy did to you in terms of blackmailing you into sleeping with him says WAY more about his morals than yours and you should be more worried about the fact that you can be manipulated into sex with someone you didn't want it with than everyone else's reputation of you.

The light on the horizon here is that your choices are decided by you. You can say no, you can stop this here and take a break, decide what you want and move forwards when your options are a little clearer. I think that you need a little space and time to see what's important, maybe even to work on a little bit of an image change and try to put what's happened in the past.

Everyone goes through stages where they do a little too much of *something*, be it sex, drinking, drugs, playing xbox, gambling, masturbation or whatever, you've just got your excessive behaviour out of the way earlier in life than some others. It doesn't mean you have to be labelled a whore and it also doesn't mean you can't change it if you really want to.

"but he kept saying come on...i'll embarass you at the game tomorrow... " That is blackmail (sp?) and an absolutely terrible thing on his part, you should really tell someone about that, she basically forced you to have sex with him.

You're only a whore if you took money for sex!
If you're enjoying sex with so many men, that's great as long as your careful. Always use condoms, but also beware of emotional attatchments. Even if you don't feel used and abused, some of these boys might!

No guy is ever gonna take you serious, knowing how much u've done they'll just wanna have fun with u.

Even if I hadn't doubled your total by your age, I would have said no.

Did you get paid for any of the sex?

If not, then you're clearly not a whore.

There is no such thing as a whore. Don't listen to these foolish hypocrites. The word whore is a word based in judgement. It's one stupid label people will try to pin-on you. And f*** that. Be your own person. You don't need to feel shame put on to you by others for their own piety. Now the only thing I will tell you is that circumstances do dictate opinion. If you have a boyfriend, then don't cheat on that person. If your single, do whatever you want, just be careful because you have to make sound decisions in this crazy f***ed up world. But no, your not a whore if you don't think you are.

yaaaa u'z a slut

No, not really, just a girl who enjoys sex, but that brother thing was a little whoreish, sorry.

If you weren't getting paid then you're not a whore. The word "slut" would be a better descriptor of your behaviour and is a term that has sociological overtones (ie the double standard).

well put it this way, if you were a guy wouldn;t you be called a "stud" for doing that? so who really cares what name is put on it...if ur safe doing it and its between adults then its perfectly fine to be with as many as you want. its only a number and I bet you learn something every time too..so that is always a plus.

Consider that the average person has about 9 partners in their lifetime.

It kind of depends on what circumstances you slept with these guys. Was it all one night stands, were they all a guy leading you on to have sex with him, did you have relationships with each one before having sex with them.

If it was that you had sex with one guy for like 6 months, another one for a year, and then the others were one night stands then I guess I could sort of understand, but if you really just slept with a bunch of guys without ever even trying the relationship route that is a bit whore-ish.

all these people are
trying to be nice. well
f*** that I'll tell
you like it is.

your like 2 guys away
from being a whore.
and if not, your already
there. 17? 8 guys? that's
like 1 guy a year since
you were 9. and I doubt
you started at 9?

24? that guy is a loser

It doesn't look good.

ok.. well I'm 21. and I've had sex with only 1 guy. (my boyfriend). and all my friends who are the same age as me have only had sex with 1 guy

BE SAFE. the last think you want is a child out of wedlock (if you are christian). what I suggest: understand that if you respect yourself, guys will respect you. go to church, pray at night, and make yourself be chaste until you meet someone you ACTUALLY like and possibly love.

its sort of a high number but just make sure to get checked
and be safe and stick to one for a least 2 years

If you want to be a strong christian you should realize that sleeping around isn't what the lord wants anyone to do, sex is supposed to be a special thing, not just casual. But I also really respect you for trying to change this; change is really hard, especially in high school, the guys who try and get with you because they think you're easy will be mad when you tell them no, and might call you a tease, but you're doing what you think is right, and so don't let what anyone says about you affect you too much, because you're trying to change you're life for the better. But at least you have a good christian friend who can support you and be there for you :) I wish you the best of luck and will pray for you and hope God helps you solve your problems.

a whore is a girl with no self respect and will do whatever with pretty much any guy...ask your self that question.

Yea,
have some self respect

Yes.

In my opinion yes, yes you are.

I'm glad to hear that you have turned your life over to Christ and letting Him help you with this all of this

sorry but yes!

I think you need help.You're very young and nine guys is a lot for you're age or anyone's!Get some therapy or write in a journal and don't ever have sex with a guy if he puts you to the test.Its not a game and should be taken seriously.Wait to have sex with someone who deserves it when you are in a relationship.I say back off the sex for a while until you get to the core of your problems.Sounds like you're borderline nympho, sorry honey.Just learn from your mistakes and move on.

i feel that until you have 0 respect for yourself, you are not a whore. I mean, I only had sex with two guys but my firends have so much sex, its as important to them as the air they breathe. I know one girl who has had sex with 17 guys and she didn't know 13 of their names, and she just turned 17.but ur not alone and that is not the worst you can do in the world.all I have to say is protect yourself

i think you should go to a counselor if you think you have a problem and don't know why you are sleeping with so many guys.
sometimes you have to slow down and think 'what am I doing?' and 'why am I doing this?'

i go to church s/t's too. I've been Christian like since I was born so I'm glad you going on the right path then. just I would personally slow down, think, take care of myself, that's what I would do if I were in your shoes

You are a little too "friendly" with the fellas. Always demand respect and you will get it.

Two brothers ? mmmmm, guys from your class...and they all know and they talk...mmmmm

Self Esteem? Your feeling unworthy why? Why are you replacing sex for love? (possibility)

I would not label myself - just fix myself !

What changed your behavior? What are you looking for?

Don't ever let a person blackmail you as they can always come back with more demands and they demands may get ugly ! !

How could he blackmail you when everyone at the school knows what you are doing? I don't get it...

You are on the right track...as you realize and recognize what you need to do. Just keep on moving forward.
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Trust me when I say you are not a slut or a whore or any of those other disrespectful and derogatory names for women. I am 17 birthday in September, and have had sex with 50+ guys. If any one has anything to say about this or if you want reasons, or just want to know why. Feel free to ask. Darling, never think of yourself in a negative way. I can see you want to change. I pray for you, and wish you all the best. I know you can change. It is possible if you have confidence in yourself and faith god. I hope this helps. Never let anyone make you feel inferior.
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Um well you're definitely way above average for your age. If you want to use the word "whore" then well I would say yes pretty much and that isn't to be rude because YOU ASKED! If you didn't think you would get negative feedback then you shouldn't have asked a question like this.

Now, I must say that if you care about yourself and want to do better then you CAN do better. You control your body and control when your legs open and close. Guys will say anything and everything to get you to have sex with them, I've learned my lessons and I have decided to change my ways but you are actually beating me by 2 guys and I am 24 going on 25 years old! You know that once you have sex with one guy who treats you like shit then he's going to tell all the others and then you keep on like a train and let all the others take a ride...it is showing a major lack in self respect. You can do all of the christianiac things in the world to make you feel better but until you change for yourself because YOU want to then it isn't going to change. I don't want to be rude at all I want you to understand that this is very dangerous! You are at a risk of STD"s and many other issues by having multiple partners. The cleanest looking guys can be carrying an STD and not even know it and transfer it on to you. Most of the common STD's are asymptomatic meaning they have no symptoms at all, so first of all I would get tested for STD's and HIV. I would also begin your HPV vaccines if you haven't done so already.

All in all, the easier you are or seem to be to guys in your school, the more you're going to end up sleeping with. I hate to say it but you must be lacking in the attention department, whether it is from your parents/family or whomever. Not many girls want to be friends with a girl who sleeps with the whole high school...so you need to begin to make changes in yourself in more ways than seeking Christian songs. You need to learn to say the word NO. It doesn't make you any lesser of a person than you already have shown yourself to be right now. It makes you look like a stronger person, and unless you understand what the Christian songs are saying and meaning, they won't help. So start with saying NO, keeping your legs CLOSED as if they are glued shut and get tested! If you really want to change, you can and will!

9 guys at 17 is pretty steep. I don' t think at 17 you really understand sex enough to make good decisions. Let me just tell you what I tell my 16 year old sister. Everytime you think about having sex with a man , think about wheather or not you could live with having a child with them. Everytime you have sex with someone a child is a possible outcome. Things happen that you can't control, condoms break...Also, STDS. There is just SO MUCH about sex that you aren't ready for. Just really think about your decisions before you make them because you can't turn back time no matter how much you may want to someday.

have you ever hear the saying, "No-ones going to buy the milk, when they can get the whole cow for free"


just think about it.

you need to show more self-respect for yourself.

You shouldnt give into him like that I assure you one thing. So What if he could embarrase you that's nothing to give into. he shouldnt use personal things like that against you and then ask for sex in return ! NO BUENO ! As far as the info people don't know wether or not its true rumors go away but self guilt and self respect are always there. There are better ways. GUYS ARE SCUM. There is nothing wrong with sleeping with more guys just not for that reason.

If someone is pushing you into having sex with them, you need to get help from an adult you trust. That's just not right, and whatever information he has on you is no excuse for what he did. Is he really that desperate that he needs to resort to blackmail?

If I was your mother I would be looking into the fine details of what constitutes rape because as far as I am concerned that's what he did. You need to seek advice from a professional on that. You must have a a teacher you can talk to or a councellor at school?

As for are you a whore? Definitely not, but you really need to ask yourself what is missing from your life to need to sleep with so many guys. Is it low self esteem? Do they make you feel wanted and loved, even if it's just for a couple of hours? Is it an attention thing?

Who and how many guys a girl sleeps with is their business, but it has to be what you want and you have to be able to hold up your head without shame. Self respect is easily preached, but not always easy to maintain if you are feeling low.

Make sure it's what you want and always protect yourself.

No. your not and you should have friend beat the guy up lol.
but not at all. I'm sure you didn't plan the brother thing. don't worry about it.

Once you hit 10, it starts to get iffy, in my personal opinion. But who and how many people you have sex with is your choice.

girl you need to stop! that's wayy too many guys, if you don't want to b blackmailed stop going to parites! you don't need to b getting high and drunk your too young, especially if you get too crazy and can't control yourself. I mean if you are suffereing why are you putting yourself in this position? I don't get it... and you being a captain of the cheerleading squad what does that have to do with it. I don't want to be harsh, but you need to close your legs and get some self respect! and stop complaining if they blackmail you tell them to go ahead and tell your mom, what you are going through having sex with these guys is way worse then your mother finding out. Or you just tell her its not true, do they have pictures of u? if not deny it. but stop sleeping around..9 guys is ALOT

I don't know what to tell you..your really easy it sounds like you just spread eagle for anybody especially if they black mail you...that's not good at all.

i don't think your a whore. your a girl your body is a beautiful thing don't just sleep with whoever though give your body value no I don't mean having someone pay u. I mean making the guy work for it. don't just sleep with him as soon as you get hooked up and you think he cares. guys will sleep around with many easy girls but when it comes to finding the one they want to be with who will they want? the one that respects her self and her body and won't give it to just anyone. or the one that's been with countless guys. your not even 18 and you've already done so much. but that doesn't mean that you can't start now.. be more careful with who you sleep with don't forget there are so many things that can happen you can get pregnant or even get a disease then who will be there for U? and this thing with this guy black mailing you girl you have got to defend your honor so you've made some mistakes who hasn't we all do stupid stuff.. kick his ass if you have to talk to a counselor in skool they are there to help and things are kept private. talk to your friends someone you know you can trust... be careful

People value sex as different things. To people that consider love as a sacred act of love, that would seem a bit whoreish. But times have changed and I know a lot of people who just end up having sex with people when they "hook up" with them instead of just making out and whatever, I think it just happens more today in general. If you are being careful and you don't seem to have a big problem with it then you're fine. Don't listen to what others say and don't label yourself as a whore. If you have a problem with it and you even need to ask if you're a whore, you might want to take it down a notch. Try making a rule for yourself when you start dating a new guy. Tell yourself that you have to date someone for like 4 months before you have sex or something. It might be hard, but if you have a problem with the fact that youve already slept with 9 guys, its something you need to work on.

In all honesty, you're a slut. You slept with him so he wouldn't embarrass you? You're under 18 and have already slept with 9 different guys? It seems like you just want to get around or something. Guys are never going to take you seriously if you want a real relationship.

No, because it's not like you go around broadcasting this stuff. And you said you're safe. Don't worry about stupid labels like that. However, if YOU have a problem with what you're doing, then you might want to tone it down a little.

well if I didn't know you wasn't your friends I would say that girl is a slut if I saw you walking down the hall. that's fine if you were in a relationship with them, may be you need to hold off having sex with them a little longer 8 boyfriends, is fine but having sex with all 8 is not. stop having so much sex unless you are really in love with the person, get to know them first girl

geez-- how many STDs do you have?

your not a whore... but I would really slow it down on how many guys you sleep with because men might get the wrong idea of you. but the brothers was a no no...

No. Your not a whore, I don't like that word. People use it in the wrong way. You enjoy sex and that's not a problem. Maybe you would be concidered a whore if you were payed for sex. But I don't think you should even care what people think of you. I don't think you should even tell people how many partners you have and keep it to your self.

I wouldn't say that no. cause in that case I would be too. If you like sex there is nothing wrong with doing it as long as your safe and don't get to carried away. just be safe and if you feel good in yourself and you don't see anything wrong then there isnt. And I am in the same boat with the brother thing I just started to talk with my ex I dated in 10th grade and I think he likes me agian and he introduced me to his younger brother and he likes me! he he. I dunno. but no I don't think you are sweetie. Sex is awesome! =) Have fun be be smart about it please!

It sounds like you are trying to fill a void in your life. Having sex with all those different guys aren't the answer to filling it. Instead of judging yourself so harshly, you should seek a counselor to help you understand why you give up yourself so easily

Yes and go get yourself checked out.

Would it have been different if you would have had sex with the same guy 3 times a day for however many years you've been sexually active? Would that make you a whore because you've had a lot of sex?
I don't think you're a whore. If you were sleeping with guys because you wanted to be liked by them - I would say you were suffering from low self esteem. If you were sleeping with these guys because you felt the relationship progressed to the point to where you were ready to be sexually active with them - I would say you were doing what you were comfortable with. Who's to say you won't meet your soul mate tomorrow and settle down with him for life? Would you still be considered whore then? It's sad that a misguided girl would be judged so harshly.
What really matters is how you feel about yourself regarding your sexuality. If you think that you're having sex for reasons other than your own personal choice - you should stop and figure out why you're using sex to fix a bigger problem.
Personally, I don't think it is necessary for you to be as sexually active as you are, but that's just the because I'm a mom to a teenager, lol. The more partners you have the more you risk STDs and pregnancy. I honestly don't think that you are emotionally developed enough to have a healthy independent attitude towards sex - hence your question here. Sex doesn't run out, and guys aren't going to love you more if you "put out" - giving it some time before you jump into bed with a guy isn't going to ruin a relationship. Grow up a little before you have more partners. I don't judge women by the amount of partners they've had, but some people will.
Good luck.

Yes.

Were I think you are a little whore, is when you have the mind of dating two brothers.

yes, the brother thing.

yes

What is the definition of a whore? If it describes you then maybe or maybe not. I've slept with more than one guy but I've had relationships with them.