Will he love me more if I give him great blow jobs?

I am dating a guy who I feel is a little out my league. I am hoping that If I am good in the bedroom it can help make up for it. I give good head so I have been doing this for him, which he really likes. If a girl was good in the bedroom/ gave great head would you like her more? Not just for sex but as a potential long term girlfriend?
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  • In a word? yes. At one point I was out of my wifes league. She says that often. But she was sweet, innocent, and positive. Just what i needed at that point in my life. But the day i blew off all other women was the day I was having a bad day. She came over and I took it out on her sexually. She is the good girl type and not sexually inclined. But she lets me do whatever I want to her and never says no or tries to get me to stop before I finish. Anyways, that day I did everything I could think of to her. Extremely rough oral where i was shaking her head using it to sort of jack myself off, put her legs back to where i was hitting her cervix with every push, made her cry from that but she insist i keep going, finally when I finished she kept her eyes open so it would go in her eyes, and then she cleaned me up with her mouth. I felt so bad about it but relieved 100% of my tension. It hit me that she would do anything for me and not any other girl would do that. She became more and more attractive as I fell in love with her and she implemented little changes to her appearance that I liked. Getting large implants didn't hurt either. But it is the sex that started it and we are actually married now. We are very happy and she still lives by the motto that what makes a woman good in bed is what she's willing to do or have done to her and how much pain she can take. She says she's never liked sex but I've never had anyone anywhere close to as good in bed as she is. Leave your dignity and pride at the bedroom door, and be the best thing he's ever had. He will worship you outside the bedroom.

    And another tip. Keep going after he ejaculates during a bj. Obviously swallow his semen, but my wife was taught to keep going for a few minutes not seconds because guys have to pee after orgasm. She sucks REAL hard while i pee, it is heaven. Look it up, its completely safe. And super convenient on road trips lol. Well it was, before we had kids. But I treat her extremely well outside of bed. I spend my whole life trying to make her the happiest woman alive. Just because I am physically more attractive is temporary, and it doesn't matter if I love the girl more than life itself. Give it a try, and don't tell anyone, they tried to get her to stop doing my damn laundry, who knows what they'd say about what she really does for me. And WHEN he falls for you... he will treat you like a queen.

    • I can't help but wonder... are you still married to her?

  • In a relationship being good in the bedroom is not about bj technique or fantastic control over vaginal muscles or acrobatic skills. Guys want someone who is really into them and passionate about making love to them. The only technique thing which a girl might not get right which can spoil sex for a guy is lack of rhythm or a compatible rhythm at least (oh and teeth when giving a bj).

    Great head can come from technique but as one of the guys says in this thread hookers have great technique (how does he know heh heh) but you'd never want a relationship with a hooker.

    But being very compatible in the bedroom and having great sex is a major part of a relationship but you gotta be clear about what makes it good for a guy - it's passion and enthusiasm not technique and oral sex is just part of it. My current girlfriend is just fantastic and great in bed BUT she gives awful head (and I've had some fantastic bjs). Truthfully she doesn't like giving bj's but I just don't care.

    Good sex is a plus for a guy considering someone as girlfriend material but is not as high up the list as basic confidence when it comes to assessing someone as long-term girlfriend material. You thinking he's a little out of your league (precisely how anyway) is more in your head than his. The blowjobs won't figure in his thinking. Put it this way, when he tells his mom or sister why he likes you as his girlfriend, he ain't ever gonna say "It's because she gives great head." !

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  • Great sex can be important in a relationship, but it's not necessary. Being good at sex is also not going to keep a man around. A guy can be dating a supermodel who is the best lay he has ever had, and still have wandering eyes and would leave if unhappy.

    The only thing that gets guys to stay is if they care enough about you that they would feel like their life isn't quite right without you. And they feel that whatever is out there won't be as nice as having you in their lives. Sex isn't the only defining factor.

    It really comes down to his desire to stay with you. Nothing you do is going to make him stay if he doesn't want to.

    The only thing you can do is be a good girlfriend. But don't put up with any crap from him though. Don't let him get away with stuff just because you feel he is in a better league than you. HE should feel lucky to have you in his life :)

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  • Sure, I'd like her more in the bedroom but it probably wouldn't change my mind about the chance of the relationship becoming long-term.

    But on the other hand, there is a chance that your thinking that he is out of your league is completely in your head and he's into you.

    At the same time, don't be blinded by how much you like the guy. If he's only sweet to you in bed but outside he treats you like crap, he doesn't respect you.

  • It takes more than just bedroom skills to wow a guy. If that were the case high class hookers would be fought over by rich politicians using their goons to bop each other on the head like Neanderthals.

  • If he's dating you, he already thinks you're in his "league." You don't have to make up for something that doesn't exist.

    Being awesome in the bedroom is a nice bonus in a relationship, but you can't just do that as a means of trying to keep him around. Assuming he's not a jerk, an emotional connection is going to be what keeps you two together, not blowjobs.

  • The word for women who make sex their best feature is whore. Making sex great is important, but not to the point that it is your best feature. Believe me, if that is what it takes to make him want you for a girlfriend, he is not a guy most women would want. Personality, humor, intelligence, compassion, etc. are the features that make for lasting, loving relationships. Lousy sex can kill a relationship, but great sex cannot make up for those great features. If you finally find that he is with you because of the sex, not the other things, how will you feel about yourself?

  • yes he will. I like girls more who have your skill. yes potential girlfriend, good job.

  • No, I don't think he will love you more though he will fancy you more. Know what I mean? I don't sexual prowess is THE quality that makes love better (though it definitely helps make everything more intense) so I wouldn't put it like the start of the show. On the other side, you seem to be scared that if you don't blow him right then he'll not be interested. Come on, there has to be something more to a relationship than just bjs right :)

  • Maybe depends on the guy? I don't care about bjs at all..however..if you took care of what I DO like..then yes...I had been dating my girl for about three months when she asked me what I liked/wanted...and she cooperated...soooo... I invited her to move in with me and married her a month later...btw..I wouldn't have done that unless I thought our personalities were compatible...(:

  • Of course I would like her more.

  • honestly a good girlfriend needs to have a little bit of everything. that's definitely great to have, but don't make it your greatest quality!

  • I believe in giving and receiving but if he love you just the way you are a blow job should not matter at all

  • Quick answer: NO. No one will ever LOVE you more because you give great head or are a super freak in the bedroom. Love is love and sex is sex. Truer, more pure, intense real love can make sex significantly better, but it has been my experience and it's my belief that it doesn't go the other way. More sex or better sex will NOT produce more love on the part of the other person. Take it from me, I'm a guy, I've had women try this angle with me and it didn't make me love them more. Yes, it makes me want to have SEX with them more, and now that we're not together (I dumped them), I definitely miss the sex and the great head, but that's it. First and foremost, you need to love yourself. Don't put yourself in a position of trying to make up for anything with sex or whatever. He should love you for exactly what/who you are and that's it. And when you love yourself, you won't settle for anything less and that's the way it needs to be or you're going to end up in a losing situation.

  • I know this sounds shallow, but all other things being unchanged, the answer is yes. Important that be regular and mutual. Work on other relationship skills that will raise your league. But there is much good abouy a therapist quality BJ

  • i made this girl crazy in bed at the end it didn't work you need more than bedroom skills to make a guy to see you as a long term potential girlfriend

  • Yes. I mean, it is a combination of things but it definitely makes up for other things. It is on par with saying a girl that likes to cook. Any girl that says she does not enjoy cooking or doesn't cook is a negative. Just like giving head, if a girl doesn't do it - it's a negative.

  • I'd start focusing on just that. If you're boring otherwise and the best part about you is sex... then all I'll focus on is the sex.